I an't believe this terrific site! I've been into hair --esp. long hair, and using curlers, etc. since the early '70's. I've worn my fine brown hair in various cuts and lengths from 3" to almost waist length --and looked great most of the time. I've always styled it myself. For some reason, I never considered having it set in a salon, though after reading some of your experiences, I'm considering it.
In the '70's, I often set by below-chin paige in jumbo brush rollers. Sometimes I set ti just around the hairline for a more flat-topped turned under look. Other times I would put it up in as many as 16 brush rollers for a teased bubble style. I had less desirable results with pink foam rollers and perm rods, but it was fun to experiment with them.
In the '80's, I started using those light-weight plastic curlers that come in bright colors. Thes days, the Velcro rollers are the only way to go for cold sets. They are super light and stay in the hair well. I have the big Clarol velvet curler set. but I haven't used it that much because the curlers seem too heavy for my fine hair.
If you've never set your hair here's what I'd suggest:
-Pick up some Velcro (or "Self-Grip") curlers, a package of large bobby pins, and a curler net. Wal-Mart, K-Mart, etc. stock plenty. Mail-order catalogs like Beauty boutique sell them, too.
_If possible, have a wife/girlfriend/sister/hairdresser teach you how to wind the rollers. This will save you a lot of experimentation.
-If you must teach yourself, as I did scour the magazine racks, bookstores, and the Net for instruction. Magazines such as Redbook, Family Circle, and Cosmo occasionally give setting how-tos. Most sizable bookstores have a well-illustrated book or two with setting instructions.
-Practice in private when you've got plenty of time. You may need to rewash your hair if you don't like the results. It's probably not going to come out great the first 2-3 tries.
I'd like to hear of your experiences with home hair setting --as well as any more trips to the salon, guys. And I'm happy to give any advice based on my experience.