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i have given up on growing my hair and would just like to be deleted from the member list on this site please
Why have you 'given up'?
This happens alot, a new member comes with short hair, wants to grow it out, then 5-10 months later they cut it all off then post about it and asks to be removed from the list.
I would say only 25 percent of the people who come here with short hair, who have never had it long, stick with it for over a year, the bulk of them give up at around the 8 month mark.
The reason why alot of people give up is pressure from friends, pressure at their work place, difficulty finding a job, pressure from girls, pressure from family, It does'nt look right long, or they had unrealistic expectations of what it would look like.
Of course being a men's long hair board we always tell everyone that they looked better with long hair and should keep growing it but personally i dont try convinceing people to grow it or keep growing it, i let them decide themselves. When we tell people to keep growing it when they want to cut it....its no better then people telling us to cut it when we want to keep growing it....of corse we dont realize this as we have a biased opinion being a men's long hair forum.
long hair is not for everyone, many people cannot handle or do not wish to handle, the pressure from everyone to cut it, and the challenges long haired males face (ex. getting a job)
And if you cut your hair then you will ether:
A) be happy with your haircut and continue to have short hair having learned from trying it that its not for you
or
B) regret it and realize long hair IS truely what you want
Ether way you'll learn something from it...it was'nt a waste.
Now i know very little to nothing about pretty much ANYONE on here but i would bet that all the veterans here have grown their hair out long then cut it all off at least once in their lives.
It all depends on how great the person's desire to grow their hair and their ability to handle pressure and prejustice. We all have our reasons for wanting long hair, some feel its more "natural", some want to make a fashon statement, some feel its a part of who they are, some people do it for the sake of being different, and some feel they are more attractive with long hair.
Personally i have my reasons for wanting long hair and growing it out, and this.....thing......i want to do requires long hair, and my desire to do this thing GREATLY overpowers any force that would make any "normal" person at least concider thinking about cutting it. Over time revealed this reason to the board and was flamed, attacked, insulted etc, but thats another story.
All good points otaku. I haven't actually seen you post in a while (either you haven't or, i'm blind). How are things going?
Not everybody on this board has attacked you. Besides, you can't live for what other people think about you.
How long is your hair getting now? Your avatar is several months old...maybe a good time for a new one?
Brad
Nobody on this board attacked me? obviously you did'nt read all of the comments
one person told me he HOPES I DIE another said "F*** YOU!!" the two messages were eventually removed by moderation however
also someone from here e-mailed me calling me a "F*****" which is not only offensive but also untrue as i am COMPLETELY heterosexual....not that it matters but im just putting that out there because i know alot of people wonder.
He didn't say nobody, he said not everybody. Onstead of saying that no one attacked you, he said that not everybody did, implying that some did, but not all.
Yes, if I remember correctly, you were "roughed-up" a bit concerning your post from a while back, however, I thought your reasoning made perfect sense to me, nevertheless, the androgynous look, for most men, will usually require hormones and timing is critical since most men will begin to rapidly masculinize in their late teens and early twenties.
Sorry if I ramble on too much about this, but, it is a very interesting subject to me.
Hope to see a progress pic soon.
jeffrey.
i am thinking about doing the hormone thing but i dont know what the side effects of it is....im more worried about getting plastic surgery to look more feminine and cute and less ugly
going from an ugly male to a cute androgynous male is going to be a challenge no doubt but it is VERY important to me, the thought that i can be cute and androgynous makes my life worth living.
True, it DOES happen; but, "a lot"?? Well, I've been coming here to MLHH since the fall of '03, --- and to the best of my memory, I think it averages about 2, 3 or maybe even as much as 4 guys per year.
I disagree w/ your percentage figure; but, since I don't keep mathmatical records of such, all I'll say to that is: I think it's considerably lower than that... BUT, even if you are correct, --- so, what's the big deal? That means that 75% of the guys who arrive here w/ short hair SUCCEED in growing their hair out!!!! I'd say that's pretty cool!
True. No arguement here!
ABSOLUTELY they have to decide for themselves, --- I totally agree!! But, if someone asks me for my opinion... Well, my opinion just so happens to be that i ALWAYS think long hair looks better than short, --- so, that is EXACTLY what I say!!
When we tell people to keep growing it when they want to cut it....its no better then people telling us to cut it when we want to keep growing it....of corse we dont realize this as we have a biased opinion being a men's long hair forum.
Of course we realize we are biased in favor of long hair, --- that's why we're called, "Men's LONG HAIR Hyperboard"!!! And, guess what? We are the only place where some people may ever get to hear that perspective!! (And, guess what else? That's why guys come here, --- because they WANT to hear a longhair perspective!!!)
I agree w/ you 100% on the above statements!
Again, I fully agree!!
Yes, you are correct, --- in fact, I am a good example of that, in that I cut my waist-length hair off in Y2K, and deeply regretted it afterwards...
Again, I fully agree with the above.
Yes, that is indeed, "another story", --- and I admit to being one of your critics! But, just because I criticize somebody for wanting to do something that sounds totally insane to me, doesn't mean I don't have respect and admiration for the individual that voices wanting to do things that sound totally foreign to my way of thinking. Criticism is a part of life. While it's true that I myself feel that many of my own critics throughout my lifetime I've been angry and/or resentful towards; on the other hand, I can also look back on many stupid things that I wanted to do that were prevented from happening, thanks to people that were brave enough to speak up and tell me they disagreed. It's a risk we take on BOTH sides: it's a risk to come out to someone about our secret desires; and, it's also a risk to challenge someone, --- or, even a risk to stay SILENT (because we may regret that decision, later)...
- Ken
Guess I will take your observations and ideas one by one as best as I can. Here goes:
It does happen often enough as by 5-10 months the person usually knows if long hair is for him or not. Also, many in the past have given-up as they just can't seem to make it through the "Awkward Stage." Some make several attempts and eventually either make it or finally give-up. Asking to be removed from the list is not quite all that common. (Some that have posted here were not on the list.)
This sounds to myself about right except the percentage I think is a bit higher. (My best guess as I do not have facts and figures to go by.)
I would tend to agree highly.
Again, I would tend to agree highly.
Absolutely. The road of a Longhair is not always that easy which I do not believe should be the case.
Very well put. (Of course one must always remember there are exceptions.........but such is life anyway in just about every area.)
As a veteran, I myself did it once and I will NEVER do it again! Some other veterans have also made the same mistake as did I.
I would agree highly.
Just as the "True" Longhair seems to have the desire born within him, there are all kinds of people everywhere who may have other things born within them. Thus the reasons. The main thing that is so important is that an individual is able to be himself, not held down and not feel that they have to conform to the masses let themselves worry what this person thinks or that one may be thinking. If repressed by others to as not to be their own person is a terrible thing. To "try" and make others happy by conforming to their standards for oneself and do as they tell you is not to be yourself. Those types of people can never seem to be happy to begin with no matter what the other person does. If it isn't this, then it's that.
Does anybody have all the answers? No. Life is hard enough as it is. Why make it harder? Those that point a finger might be better off getting their own life in order without casting comments on others.
A well thought-out thesis you have written and it certainly carries with it much to ponder in observations.
Interesting post, for sure, but people have many more reasons and feelings than a couple of options could tell...
I was here many years ago, and I had long hair for 3 years, 3 years of growth before I cut it. It was way long. I needed change, I could feel the boredom every single day. Then I had my hair short for almost a year, and liked it fine. But short hair "grew" boring as well... and then I grew it until this past September at which point I cut it again because I was/am such a tired person usually.
It would also be interesting to point out that I got hired at 2 jobs with my long hair back in the beginning of September... I work at a pet store and also in the department of nursing at a long term care facility. So I would say that my reasons for cutting my hair a month ago were purely aesthetic in nature, as well as being too tired to care for it at the time.
I am growing my hair out yet again, however, because I actually miss parts of the so called "awkward stage" Hard to imagine, eh? I liked the way my hair flipped and did it's own thing, twisting some places, curling in others, and straight in yet other areas, it wasn't boring. Seemed to have a mind of it's own, haha.
I think growing hair out (or cutting it) is a personal thing. It can be aesthetic, or for gendered (or lack thereof) reasons, or anything else really... Some of us take it more seriously than others do, of course. And we all have our own reasons for growing our hair, or cutting our hair (I was too tired at the time)... I don't think that people can just be categorized based on their hair length or lack therof. People are people and they lead very diverse lives. That is all.
Off and out.
Yair
Seems like for you, the process of growing your hair out is far more interesting, and less "boring" than actually having short or long hair, because of the changing hair. Interesting indeed!
Indeed, once your hair reaches terminal, watching it grow gets VERY boring. That's one reason I'm growing my beard!
Bill
Awwwwww How Disappointing to learn the fact you have given up the fact on growing your hair long, Which leaves me to say enjoy your life as a short haired guy or maybe you might reconsider your decision before you actually loss your mane ??
Axel
No need to apologize. The ONLY thing that matters for anyone growing out his hair is that he is HAPPY with it. I am not
talking about the process of growing it which is seldom a pleasant
one, but with the way you look and feel.
If you are uncomfortable, embarrassed or unhappy then what's the point?
Not every guy who starts growing out his hair will end up being a longhaired man. Sometimes imagining what long hair will look and feel like does not
match up with reality.
Life is hard enough without making yourself miserable.
Sometimes a guy realizes that his original goal (such as growing
his hair down to his belt, for example)
is way too long for him and that he would avtually be happier with shoulder-length hair.
In that case, why not go for the shoulder-length and be HAPPY than
to stick to the original goal?
A man with shoulder-length (or even shorter) is still a LONGHAIRED MAN!