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Sorry, not posted on here for ages, my hair has (in my opinion) been growing nicely since razor-bald on sep 23rd last year. It is now about 8 inches on average, well looked after, i can get pony-tail it or wear it combed back or forward. basically i am happy with the progress.
my 2 best friends like it and support me.
my 2 youngest daughters like it.
everyone else - my wife, all my other friends, family, strangers, my other best friends, EVERYONE! HATE. IT.
literally. it is getting me down soooo much that i am considering going razor bald and just keeping my ponytail in a drawer as a reminder that i can grow my hair long - it's just that the vast majority of people actively can't shut the f**k up about it! honestly, we have people with sticky-out ears, large hairy moles, greasy skin, halitosis, obesity and other classically 'unattractive' features but oh yes, that's right, i don't mention them, because it would hurt their feelings.
i have a strong character, great sense of humour and stamina when it comes to having the piss ripped out of me, but this is beyond the joke. no matter what i say, they don't get it, don't understand my need to grow my hair, won't let it lie, won't bite their tongues or consider my feelings.
yes i am receding a bit, some call it a widows peak, but not THAT much, and either way so what? aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!
what should i do? i am that close to digging through the garage for my hair clippers.........
Honestly mate, what you need to ask yourself is "Do I want to cut my hair?". If the answer is yes, if you truly want to cut your hair because YOU want it. Then go ahead, as long as you are happy.
However, if your answer is no. Then all other people should respect your choice. In the same way as you don´t nag at them at their haircuts. Cause some people really walk around in some hideous styles, but do you tell them to get a different haircut? No! Because you respect their choice.
So stand your ground mate. Tell them to get the fuck off your back and screw the rest. This is all about what YOU want with YOUR hair.
Excellent response. I hereby endorse this message :)
I got the same from my wife at about 8 to 10 months, "When are you going to get a haircut?", "What the hell are you doing?", "You have a bald spot that you wouldn't be noticed if your hair was short.", " You have gray hair so you need to cut it short" and on and on, I've heard it all. My strategy has always been smile in return and state that this is what I want, this is what I like!! At 2 years I still get "It's long, ok, but it's too long. No one wears there hair that long. Get it cut like Bon Jovi and you can still have it long but look good", and "It's ridiculously long, how long are going to grow it?" Again I smile and say " to my ass!! Honestly I don't intend to grow it that long but I feel that's my decision!!
I guess what I'm saying is to let these comments and criticisms pass right through you. She does have a right to her opinions but so do you!! Remember that everyone on this planet is unique in the way they think or react. Many people don't realize this and think that others should think the same way as they do. (Why do some people hate the Three Stooges?!) They don't understand that if they dislike long hair why you can't dislike it too.
Stay strong, stay unique and don't do something you'll regret or resent your wife and friends for later.
Bruce
Well we've heard these stories before and I'll give the same advice. If they are going over the top jiking around and you've
had enough then Tell them to piss off if they don't like your hair. I know these are family and friends but they must not be very
nice people to constantly be nagging you. So give them a strong
response.
An occasional joke is one thing but then it gets old.
Kevin
Wow! people can be so insensitive. I don't have long hair yet, I'm a growin' but I had a shaved head for years and received similar comments from inconsiderate and rude people. I was really put on the edge by 'why do you shave, you have such beautiful hair?' Of course there were worse comments, never from strangers, but from friends and family.
My typical response was, 'I'm sorry you don't like it. I've always wanted to do this. I really like how it looks and feels. I hope you can at least support me in my being myself.' I usually didn't wait for a reply.
Hang in there,
Don
It *can* be a bit wearing, especially when your S.O. is not a big fan of long hair (particularly on you!). And, at eight inches, you are still in the awkward stage, not having yet achieved your full mane.
Based on my own (very "I must look really odd!") hair growth experience- most folks are either indifferent or applaud your desire to see what long hair will be like. Perhaps your statement "... all my other friends, family, strangers ...." reflects your worries about what they might think, rather than their actual reaction.
But, you mentioned some very significant figures in your life who like your growth; use that as a source of strength. And don't consider giving up until you have a better length for folks to comment on!
Greetings Drewpy, do not go for the clippers! that would only validate all the naysayers. Follow your own heart in the matter. I used to get the same thing but I stuck to it and I'm at 18 momths and the negative comments are much less because everyone realizes that I will not listen to them. As a matter of fact I say to everyone who has negative comment, "Just for that, I'm growing it yet another inch!" Stick with it!!!
Cheers,
Max
One of my long haired freinds has come up with the best response to these kinds of situations. If someone tells you to cut your hair or just says how much they hate it etc. Just simply ask them: "Does my long hair bug you?" and if they say yes, then just say: "well then ill just grow it longer to piss you off, how does that sound?" LOL and it leaves them speachless everytime :)