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with my mother who has really short hair and the woman who works there comes up to us and says "hello ladies what can I help you with today?"
about a minute later she says "oh sorry, all I saw was the hair"
I didn't really know what to say to that so I just left.
I figured I'd share it with you guys, I gotta post here more often
6th graders make fun of my hair making remarks like "Are you a boy or a girl?" or "Dude, get a haircut, you look like my sister" or "I know girls with shorter hair than you". Happens to me alot, being blonde, and having mid back length hair AND sharing a building with a middle school, (being a freshmen), I deal with it all day long, oh well I'm used to it now, this one time I was eating at a restaraunt with my mom, and this old lady comes up and goes "Hello girls, oh sorry, boys" that was the first time I really experienced criticism for my hair.
Don't worry, it's all good =)
Josh
Hey Caesar, I can see how that mistake happened. What the
store clerk saw was totally gorgeous hair, and she probably
just assumed you were female. Subconsiously, she may have
thought that a guy can't have such nice hair. It is sad that
many women assume that longhair guys have hair that is less
well groomed than women have. Your hair is superbly well
groomed in your photo. I am very sure that a lot of women
are jealous of your hair. Don't let being mistaken for a
girl get to you too much. It has happened to me as well.
Scott
If my hair is as nice as most girls, it means I am doing something right.
...she admitted her mistake. Some people don't.
What's bad is whn they see your face and STILL think you are a girl...
Now THAT, to me, just doesn't happen!
Bill
Clearly neither of you have heard of bearded women.
...I like the Mushroom shirt too.
This photo is a keeper...
Great photos are often just happenstance, especially when it comes to facial expressions and the matching of foreground and background colors. I was wearing those clothes already, and we decided to go out for a walk in the neighborhood to see spring flowers. We had seen lots of beautiful ones, and we were in great spirits. We happened across that stand of gorgeous echium and decided a photo was in order, and there you go!
Bill
What a sensational photo that is of you Bill. Sure proof that long hair (and beard) can be a great combination for any age.
If I had such a photo I would frame it! :-)
So glad that you posted this.
Justin~
It happens to me all the time....and I just laugh at it....I've been called "ma'am" too many times to count...just the other night my gf and I left a bar and the bouncer said "good night ladies" hahaha Goes with the territory I guess.
Happens to me all the time especially being really thin.
It goes the other way sometimes too though. My mom keeps her hair in a really low caesar like most black men and she gets called sir from the back every once in awhile.
I've had the "ma'am" comment a few times. Like Kenneth, I consider it a compliment. The strange thing to me is that I've had that comment whilst I had at least week-old stubble. If I were you, I would take it as meaning that your hair is in great shape.
Tracy
Getting mistaken as a girl is best thought of as a right of passage into longhairdom. Don't think anything bad about and they weren't actually insulting you (in which case it's best to ignore the ignorant fool completely).
If they actually thought you WERE a girl, that would almost always be obvious. They will often blush or stumble into an immediate apology. On the other hand, if they say you LOOK like a girl, they will most likely be gloating, not blushing, and THAT is not an honest mistake, it is a slur. I agree, those tossing slurs are best totally ignored. In the verbal combat ring, that bests a slur. Totally ignoring someone is the knockout punch.
I always look at intent when evaluating a potential slight. The world is a big place and people have different concepts of what might offend others. Looking to their intent rather than their words can give a better reading on what kind of relationship they want with you. Blushing, for example, is almost impossible to fake. Always go gently with anyone who is blushing.
Bill
With your features and a beautiful head of hair, comments like that are bound to happen. I do not believe anyone is being rude whenm making such a mistake. I also do not have a responce, other than to say, no problem or thank you.
I am sure the person was just as uneasy as perhaps you seemed to be over the comment.
I would just say "nah, don't worry about it I get that from time to time" It does come with the territory after all.
Kevin
Now if it happens again you will know what to say, the usual variant expressed here of "That's ok it happens all the time" with a laugh or a smile. This happens to me often when people see me from the back, but at least I have stopped it from happening in the front with the facial hair. While it may not be award worthy like Bill's, it does the job lol!
Relax Caesar you know the difference between mistakes and insults. Maybe grow some facial hair and see if that helps any?