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My Birthday totally sucked. I got an iPod, and that was basically the best part about it. I went to the movies, and saw Beowulf, then went to the mall for a few hours. My friends Donnie and Cody were with me, and when I went into Hot Topic, my hair went poooooooooof. It was kind of funny, but then my mom came in, and kept calling me over to her, and got my friends to call me over there when I was trying on rings that I wanted to buy, getting on my last nerve.
Then I went to try on a hoodie in the dressing room to see how it looked on me, and while I was in there I was just trying to fix my hair, so I put it up and it looked better, but that was the least of my worries, my mom kept knocking on the door every 5 seconds, and I was just trying to keep to myself, then I got out there and told her how I felt about her bugging me and embarrassing me.I bought 3 rings with my own money thinking that my mom was going to buy me the hoodie I was trying on, but she asked me to help her pay for it, and tried to convince me to take back my rings that I purchased with my cash, and making me kind of upset. Before then, She was talking to EVERY single person in the store (I'm very quiet and I like to keep to myself, so that REALLY bugged me). Then we walked out and went to Spencer's, by then I had a throbbing headache, and my friend Cody is very very crazy, and was annoying me very badly, so I told them to calm down, I hope they understood, I'm worried that I might have made them mad.
So we went to Spencer's, and looked around laughing and checking out the novelty items, looking through posters and whatnot, then I spot a necklace that looked very very cool, and it was only 10.00, and my mom just came up with the excuse that we had to eat, and she refused to use her debt card for it, which kind of made me upset because I really didn't get many things for my Birthday, which I really don't mind, I'm not greedy or anything like that, but it was my birthday, and it's really the only day of the year I ask for anything.
So then we went to go eat, and took forever to order our food and by then my head was about to explode. I was so stressed out because my mom just kept bugging me over and over again about something, and my friend Cody was SERIOUSLY getting on my nerves, not that he's not my friend I just had a headache and I really didn't have much patience for nonsense right then. Then my mom started insulting Cody because of some of his preferences, like the things he says, and the way he thinks, which REALLY upset me but I didn't show it there, because she's my mom you know? I can't win an argument with her.
On the car ride home, my head was feeling better for the first half, but then it started throbbing again. Every time I would say one word somebody would cut me off and then I would forget what I said, and my Mom was stressing me about school the next day because I have alot of homework to do, and she's making me feel like I'm not gonna be able to get it done, and then we just were quiet for a while, like whenever I was talking about computers to Cody, mom would cut me off, and Cody would cut me off whenever I would start to say something.
I was seriously getting annoyed, then I came home and my sister was being very disrespectful towards me, I told her to hold on a second before she got in the car (they were going to drop her friends off as well because my sister had company), because I had to look for my iPod in the car. Then I found it, and went upstairs to my room, and found that my sister completely destroyed it.
By that time, I COMPLETELY lost it, and started to get extremely upset. My dad came upstairs and helped me out, and said I had every single right in the world to be upset right now. So I felt better, and now I'm letting it out right here. I hope this doesn't bother anybody. I hope next year is better. I just feel this place as a safe haven for all of my troubles, and I hope it is.
Thank you MLHH for your support,
Josh
First of all, happy birthday.
Next, approximately 24,000 people died of starvation today. Twenty-four thousand people. I'm sure any one of them--real, thinking, feeling, dreaming, hoping human beings, who died for lack of a meal today--would have traded places with you in a heartbeat. Don't get me wrong, I don't mean to just make light of your feelings of angst, which I'm sure are very real and valid to your life experience, but I think it's good to keep a little perspective when stating that your day "sucked."
One love,
Validus
The Hunger Site
Wow, that's *really* sensitive of you...
~JeffL
Sit down, kid... you're makin' me nervous ;)
As you will note in my avatar, I am already seated.
Anyways, I apologize if I came off harsh.
~JeffL
No harm, no foul, friend. I appreciate where you're coming from, and realize that my post seemed pretty insensitive, though that was not my intention. I can be a bit rough around the edges sometimes, and forget that not everyone has a skin (or skull) as thick as mine.
--Val
I have nothing against you validus, you seem like a great guy. So don´t take this the wrong way.
Just because a lot of people have a hard time does not mean that all the others should be happy non stop. Being happy/sad has to do with perception.
If I live in africa and am starving, then food will make me extremely happy. If I live in sweden and am starving, then food will make me extremely happy too. If I live in africa and I have everything. Food, water, television, all the stuff I want, but people treat me like shit, then I will be sad.
Same goes here. We can´t walz around and be happy non stop just because others are born in less fortunate countries. We all have different views and perceptions of our reality.
Josh had a crappy birhday and I think he has every right to be mad about it. Especially at that age when birthdays are very important.
Very true, Erik. After re-reading my original reply to Josh, I can see why people think I was saying that he "shouldn't" feel the way he does. This was not my intention. Rather, I meant to offer some perspective that many people his age don't often consider (though he very well may).
FOR THE RECORD: Josh, I understand and sympathize with your birthday not being a very enjoyable one for you. I'm glad that, by the end of it, you were feeling better.
--Val
That´s good to hear mate. :)
I agree with Validus.
Anyway, I think you're just overreacting. Mom's are good at bugging you, that's their job.
Besides, you got an ipod for you birthday, and then you get mad that your mom didnt buy you a 10 dollar necklace? I think you need to be a lot more grateful, because you sound a bit like a whining child.
I'm not trying to put you down; I'm simply trying to help you. I was your age not too long ago, and I was probably a bit whiny as well. But it's important to learn from it because no one wants to hang out with a whiner.
I'm not whining about a necklace at all, I put that in one sentence, I really didn't even mean to put it in there at all, I was just writing out everything on my mind that was on my mind at that moment, I was upset at the way my mother was acting, and the way my friends were acting because they were all getting on my nerves, and didn't care even when I got mad at them, please don't take my words the wrong way. I'm not "whiny" I don't whine about something if I don't get something. I'm sorry if you took my words in those terms, but I'm not a whiner, I'm sorry I even posted the thread because alot of people seem to be getting what I say mixed up.
Sometimes we need to vent and it seems that when everything settles down you seem to have a decent grasp on what's important so I figure you'll be all right and hope the opportunity to basically journal some of your stresses and frustrations here aided in you dealing with them.
Forget what Validus said, you have every right to spout your frustrations. We all have needed to talk to someone who understands us at some point in our lives, and I for one, am willing to listen.
As someone who is very introverted himself, I can totally relate to having to be around people who just never seem to shutup. It's hell, it really is. I hope you can find some time to relax soon :)
~JeffL
Apparently JeffL missed this part:
"I don't mean to just make light of your feelings of angst, which I'm sure are very real and valid to your life experience"
My point was not to minimize your feelings, which I don't judge as being "wrong" in any way. I just think it's useful to bear in mind, when we're feeling like life is hard or that we're being treated unfairly, that we don't really have it that bad compared to a lot of people in the world today.
Lol, I didn't say my life was bad, I said this day was bad. Oh well a lot of people get misconceived whenever I say something.
I understand what you're saying, and apologize if I came across as trying to say that you "shouldn't" feel the way you do. That wasn't the idea I was attempting to put out there. I just find it helpful, personally, when I'm feeling like things aren't going the way I want them to--even for just a day--to remember how lucky I really am in so many ways. You are too, and I'm sure you know this. Anyway, like I said, happy birthday and...
"Always look on the bright side of life!"
Love, Peace, and Bear Grease,
Validus
"whistles"
Happy Birthday!!!! So what kind of rings did you buy? I'm
always interested in what kind of jewelry my fellow long hairs
like. Too bad you didn't get the necklace also but its something
to look forward to when you get some extra money.
Hope your headache is gone.
Wow. I feel really sorry that you 'only' got an ipod for your birthday. Must suck to be you?
I wasn't trying to sound greedy....I'm sorry if I did.
Hey Josh,
Sorry to hear you had a lousy day. It's good to vent sometimes. I hope you are feeling better now.
I just wanted to offer a small suggestion, though. Thank your dad for listening and supporting you. Hug your mom and tell her you love her even though she bugs you sometimes; and thank her for taking you to the mall. Apologize to your friends. Tell them you are sorry if you made them mad. You just weren't feeling well. They will probably understand and say that it's no problem. Forgive your sister for whatever she did. In later years you'll feel better about yourself for it. Happy fifteenth birthday!
David L
"100 Years" - Five for Fighting
I'm 15 for a moment
Caught in between 10 and 20
And I'm just dreaming
Counting the ways to where you are
I'm 22 for a moment
She feels better than ever
And we're on fire
Making our way back from Mars
15 there's still time for you
Time to buy and time to lose
15, there's never a wish better than this
When you only got 100 years to live
I'm 33 for a moment
Still the man, but you see I'm a they
A kid on the way
A family on my mind
I'm 45 for a moment
The sea is high
And I'm heading into a crisis
Chasing the years of my life
15 there's still time for you
Time to buy, Time to lose yourself
Within a morning star
15 I'm all right with you
15, there's never a wish better than this
When you only got 100 years to live
Half time goes by
Suddenly you’re wise
Another blink of an eye
67 is gone
The sun is getting high
We're moving on...
I'm 99 for a moment
Dying for just another moment
And I'm just dreaming
Counting the ways to where you are
15 there's still time for you
22 I feel her too
33 you’re on your way
Every day's a new day...
15 there's still time for you
Time to buy and time to choose
Hey 15, there's never a wish better than this
When you only got 100 years to live
Do we really need to know all this?
I'm sorry...
Well it is a public forum and some birthdays are not always the best and I can vouch for that and sometimes we like to air/share things.
Cheers,
John.B
PS...Josh I'm sure better birthdays will come along and you don't need a birthdat for a day to be special and great to see you got an I-Pod.
Guess what. I didn't receive any tangible gifts for my last birthday either but I don't mind. I am just so happy that I have life itself. I guess I might have received some gifts, but all relatives and family with the exception of my sister are deceased as are many friends I once knew.
I am thankful for what I have.
I'm not worried about material things, I'm worried about those the least, I was just upset about the way my mother, and my friends were acting, (also the fact I had a throbbing headache).
Geez Josh, you freakin got an Ipod for your birthday and your complaining that your mom wouldn't buy you a $10 necklace? When is enough, enough for you? You should be thankful for what you have and the fact you have parents who are able to give you nice things like an Ipod. And this talk about being 'dissed' - if this is the extent to being dissed in your life, you will be the luckiest person in the entire universe. My dad works for a real jerk and never gets the respect he deserves for the hard work he does, yet he brings home a pay check and provides for us. He may complain about his job, but its just life dude. Rise above it or it'll take you down with it. Its not worth it.
Did you even read the entire thing. I'm not "complaining" about a 10.00 necklace. That was a small part in there that I didn't even mean to put in there, I was writing out whatever was on my mind, and it made me feel better.
I've been on this site for many years. Please choose an alternate handle.
Thanks,
Jason
You haven't replied so I am asking you in no uncertain terms to STOP using the name Jason. Didn't you at least look around a bit before assuming you could use this name? WTF?
That's not the best birthday but my 15th birthday went bad too, there were 4 guests on my list 2girls and 2 guys because i'm really trying t get this girl's attention, anyway, the guys couldn't make ir because one said he was out of the town(bu I know his dad didn't let him and the other was in germany(they both told me like two days before the "party"), so I was stuck with two girls(the girl and her annoying friend who is smart and isn't afraid to show it and embarass me) and my brother with a hangover downstairs so we coldn't do anything interesting only watch simpsons on dvd...
But my worst birthday was the 14th birthday when half the day I was stuck at home waiting while the mechanics were changing pipes and the other part of the day I got stuck painting the fence... So I fully understand you