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In my Previous post. I wasn't trying to sound coincided and selfish. I was trying to make a point that my birthday was bad because the way people were acting and treating me. Not because I didn't get the things that I wanted. Please forgive me if I put those words in those terms. Now I'm worried that the hyper board is mad at me, I'm sorry, please don't be mad at me for it was all just a big misunderstanding.
Josh
Not at all Josh, everyone has a bad day and your fine with me.
Cheers,
John.B
I just read your post, and though at some points in time you come across as demanding, by the end I realised what your actual point was, so I reckon for anyone who reads the whole post it should be fine.
I hope you recover from the misfortunes of your birthday.
Relax, Bud. If you can't let your hair down here (HAHA!), where can you?
I think nearly all of us have had at least one birthday that went sadly wrong, so don't worry about it. You can hang around here for as long and as often as you want.
Jim
Josh,
In no way did I think you were "whining," or acting greedy or selfish regarding the acquisition of material things. I would like to once again apologize to you if my initial reply came across as seeming insensitive. I completely understand and sympathize with the feelings you shared with this community, and only used the example of less fortunate people to help give you a little perspective regarding how fortunate you--and most of us here--really are. That isn't to say that the feelings you expressed were invalid or unfounded. It is obvious that they had to do with the way people were acting, and not with what you did or didn't receive as gifts. I think you had every right to feel the way you did, and that you--and other members of this great community--should feel safe in venting here, if you feel the need to do so.
You seem to be a very bright and thoughtful young man. The threads you weave here are a wonderful addition to the MLHH tapestry, and I'm certain that everyone on this board values your contributions.
--Val
No need to apologize. Your post didn't bother me. I know we all have bad days and just need someone to talk to.
David L
Josh, I think your post helped people remember what it is like to be young. Make sure your parents have a plan to keep your sister out of your stuff.
Elizabeth
Hi Josh,
No problems at all, and you know we all have good days and bad days, that is just human nature, after all. Everyone needs the chance to "vent" once in a while, and that is what we are here for, to listen.
Take care,
David
Nah, nobodys mad I don't think. Like John B said we all have those days.
Kevin
No, I really get it. Birthdays should be special.
It sounds to me like everything went downhill when your mum tried to get you to return something you had bought (the rings) to help pay for an item of clothing (the hoodie). I have a 14 year old son myself, but I also remember being a teenager. Your parents have to buy you clothes anyway, no matter what, and I understand that you wanted to indulge yourself a bit on your birthday rather than spending your own money on clothing. Your mum had other priorities, but it's a shame she couldn't put them aside for one day a year. Maybe she was tapped out from buying the iPod, but for you it spoilt the whole mood for the rest of the day, and I don't think she got it.
FWIW, my 50th birthday was pretty depressing. No, I know what you're thinking, not because of my age. We were rather short of money right then, so we couldn't do a lot to celebrate, which didn't help. However, then my wife decided to go out with her friend to help her buy her daughter (that is, the friend's daughter) a dress, took our daughter with her, and left me in the house with our son, who was in an online game and wouldn't have noticed a bomb going off, i.e. really left me in the house alone to all intents and purposes. By the time my wife called to say she would be late I was feeling very ignored, and made sure she knew it. She brought me home an ice cream cake (which I suspect her friend might have paid for) so that cheered me up.
All of which goes to show that there's probably very little hope of me ever becoming a mature adult, LOL! At 50 I can sulk as well as any 15 year old.
As for all the other people's posts about natural disasters, etc., I think what they were really trying to say something like what my mum's family would say to me as a boy when I was upset about anything that happened. They would always say "worse things happen at sea", which really just means that it could be worse, that's all.
BTW, welcome to the board. Just remember that, no matter how bad of a day you're having, somebody else is having a much worse day. Below are some lyrics to a song I remember as a kid...not exactly heavy metal, but I think it applies to you as well as everybody else:
The other man's grass is always greener
The sun shines brighter on the other side
The other man's grass is always greener
Some are lucky, some are not
But just be thankful for what you've got
Josh;
As so many others have said; No Problem ! You should have heard me whine when no one treated me special on my 60++ birthday ! HA!
I have learned to do something special for myself on holidays, etc. so there is no disappointment if others forget. (I blame my cats for buying me lots of presents ! HA!)
And although it was not necessary, the fact that you made a "public apology" shows that you did a lot more growing that day then just turn 15.
Be Happy !!
Walter
I wouldn't give it a second thought Josh. Nah.......nobody is mad at you and most of us I feel quite sure knew that you were just venting frustrations.
No need to sweat a thing.
I don't think the hyperboard is mad at you. I think some people forgot what it was like to be 14 going on 15, and misread your post. Unfortunately, you've learned a lot of painful lessons that contribute to maturity. Not everybody gets your feelings, people can be insentive unintentionally, life doesn't always meet your expectations, things don't always go your way.
I understand that you just wanted to vent about how dissapointing your birthday was, and hoped for some empathy and understanding. But even that you didn't fully get. We all want certain days/events to be special, but often they fail to meet our expectations. Rising above these occassions ultimately makes you stronger. It's a rite of passage that every child maturing into adulthood faces. That's why the teenage years can be both the best and worst years of your life.
Don't sweat the small stuff. It's all good in the end. And don't equate criticism with others being mad at you. Most were trying to be constructive. On the positive side, you did get an iPod, which you really wanted. And your dad was very empathetic regarding what your sister did to your room, he even helped you undo what she did.
Carol
It's good to vent sometimes... and quality people will know that before you explain or apologize- so you see the apology was not at all needed. We've all probably been there at one point or another. You certainly weren't in the wrong to anticipate that people might show a tad more consideration for you on your day and you weren't out of line to be disappointed that some seemed indifferent to you.
So you vented and relieved a little stress... and now you realize that some may have misconstrued your words. Let me tell you something... there are many folks my age (pick a number that you think is old) who aren't capable (or willing) to acknowledge they're not the center of the universe so at barely 15 you're more mature and have more character than many people will their entire lives.
I wouldn't sweat the small stuff if I were you. There's still time to perfect the fine art of being a kid. Have fun... never forget how to have fun through your life and don't rely on other people's attitudes and treatment of you for you to be happy... this will help keep you sane. Cheerful acceptance (as much as possible) of routine inconveniences will help gain you respect.
Yeah, Josh ... my overly-sensitive crown again, please? LOL! Happy belated birff day wishes ... sorry I missed it before. I must've been away doin' paintings. Josh, man, you're a young, bright, dare I say intellectual addition to the board here. We like you a lot. Jus' keep the beautiful hair goin' and growin' and keep posting.
Yours in longhair'd camaraderie,
Quenyan
You didin't have to appologise... anyway, after my 15th birthday "party" ended, I ended up eating cake with my parents. When we were eating we were chatting. and as you notice from my avatar my nose is quite big and my mother always keeps telling me that it's normal size, but my dad on my birthday finished me off he said "You know, your nose is really large" and then I lost it my mom noticed me getting upset so she kisked my dad, but then he started talking how I was worth nothing and I looked like a girl with long hair and other things. I sat silent but when I walked upstairs and spent my last birthday hours playing "X-men legends rise of apocalypse" If I had the courage to tell him how he gets on my last nerve... well I would've been yeald at for being disrespective. How can I respect such neandertal? so I'm the drama queen after all :D
My dad told me in the car one day that he didn't want to mess my "pretty" hair up when he rolled up the windshields. Little kids at school all the time tell me to cut it because they say I look weird, and you need to look normal -_-. Haha, like that will ever happen. Anyway, your nose isn't big, look at my nose lol. you can't really see it in my avatar, but I'll change my avatar one day and show you
best wishes,
Josh