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Hello guys, it's time to display my progress pics again :)
Originally, I didn't thought of trying out a webpage due to sheer laziness but alas, upon trying to upload my pics the "usual" way, there was this "500 Internal Server Error" message.
Hence, I was "forced" to show my weakness in webpage making :(
Of course you are so far ahead of me that I'm extremely jealous. You've done a great job of taking care of your hair.
Speaking of jealous, I have not cut my hair for almost 5 years and it is still nowhere near as long as Jin's. I cannot get it to grow much past my shoulders. I am cursed with that fine frizzy stuff, and no matter how careful I am, there is a lot of breakage. I need to use a straightening iron to keep it under control, and even that doesn't work when it is humid. I have tried all sorts of conditioners and straightening balms, and none of them has worked. I only wash it once per week, and condition it every day, but it is always dry, fine, frizzy, and fragile. I excercise a lot (over 10,000 miles of bike riding so far this year) and eat a balanced diet and take vitamins, so I cannot figure out what, if anything, I am doing wrong.
I guess I am just genetically cursed with inferior quality hair and there is nothing I can do about it. Although I know that we all have to accept the things we cannot change, it is hard to accept the fact that I will never be able to have long hair. It almost makes me wish I had never tried to grow it. At least then I could have dreamed about having nice hair, if I only would let it grow. Now that I know I can't grow long hair, it makes me even more jealous every time I see a nice head of hair. Does anyone else have this problem? If so, how do you deal with the jealousy? Every time I see one of these postings with a new "progress pic", I get more depressed. I am considering giving up and cutting it short again, but the two week rule has prevented me from doing that so far. I still dream of having nice hair, so I haven't cut it, hoping that someday it will grow out and look nice. However, after almost 5 years, it seems I should give up. I have experimented with wigs, but have never found one that is comfortable or secure enough to wear all the time. Is there anyone else out there with this problem? I see all these postings of those who are prevented from growing their hair for some reason, but it is even worse to have the opportunity and then not be able to.
Al
Your situation sounds to be a bit beyond my experience and I can't give good advice without knowing what your hair really looks like. Do you have a full head of hair, with a low hairline or a receding hairline? Is it thinned to the point that you look like you've been through chemo-therapy (no sarcasm intended), or is it fairly abundant but just the shafts are thin?
The shafts of my hair are also thin and curly but I also have a full head of hair. I've discovered some great conditioners and they help me to straighten my hair enough to make it look decent. I wash maybe every two to three days, and that's as long as I personally can go without a wash.
Feel free to e-mail me if you want further feedback.
delt9dude
I still have a full head of hair, but it has thinned somewhat, especially on top. The main problem is that the hair shafts are thin, and that the hair just won't grow very long. Most of the hair on top, and much of the hair that starts from the temple area has still not gotten long enough to reach the pony tail even after almost 5 years. I still have to gel down my hair whenever I tie it back. Either the hairs are breaking all the time or the growth cycle is too short. Additionally, I an unable to wear it loose, because it immediately turns into a flyaway mess and I look like a freak who just stuck his finger in a light socket. I have tried anti-frizz products, but they make the hair too thin-looking and too curly. I also have to color my hair, since it is a very ugly salt/pepper grey, and this obviously doesn't help matters.
My feelings of jealousy used to be temporary too, since I thought, like you do, that all I had to do is be patient and eventually I would have good hair. However, the longer I wait, the more apparent it is becoming that I will never be able to grow it long.
Al
It's probably not the growth cycle by you, just the weakness of the thin hair. Every time you comb it, you break it. That's why you can't have long hair. There is only one solution. I don't know if you are going to like it, but here goes.
Dreadlocks. Just never put a comb in that hair again. Use the minimal in shampoo (enough only so your hair doesn't stink..try real hard not to use too much), and generous conditioner. What you will eventually get are long dreadlocks that you can sit on. For you it shouldn't take too long since your hair is already long.
If you like dreadlocks, I think you should go for this. If not...what do you prefer, your hair frizzy the way it is now (or with the gelled ponytail that you seem to dislike), long dreadlocks that do not fly all over the place but rather grow long and controlled...or a haircut reserves special?
I don't think my hair is quite kinky enough for that. It is not as frizzy as a black person's hair. Don't you have to do something else besides just stop combing it?
Al
Any hair is kinky enough if you stop combing it...but of course thicker hair helps.
You could use wax to really instigate dreads, but look at Bob Marley. Those dreads are pure "no shampoo" chunks.
Okay, your hair is not getting past your shoulders because combing breaks it, right? What do you think is going to happen if you stop combing it?
Good luck.
Love your hair.It is totally awesome!
Thanks Marco, you can have it too :)
Jin, excellent pics! What great fullness your hair has and awesome length. The ends don't look bad at all. I bet you can grow your hair a LOT longer before reaching terminal length.
Your site looks good too - off to a great start. I have bookmarked your page and will be checking for updates. I noticed your pics are over 100K. I don't believe Victor allows pics over 100k to be uploaded here.
Best,
Stan
Thanks for the compliments, Stanley :))
Ohhh... that'll be an immense pressure on me to keep it improved and updated :( Ok, I'll try my best :)
Jin
Looks great Jin - thats great length for 2 years growth. Have you had the bottom blunt cut straight yet...? Your next stop is no doubt what the women call bra strap length (down to the nipples!). This is my goal sut I have only just returned to pony tail length so I have about a year to go.
Look forward to more new shots - my memory tells me that the new shots are about 4-5 inches longer than your last post..... very impressive!
It must also now be very easy for trying out different styles - before my cut last year i was very fond of getting it done in a french braid. Nice if one of your friends can do it for you - but even nicer if you get it done at a salon. Looks very sophisticated and I never got a strange look from anyone.... its a nice change grom just doing a pony.
You are going great!
I would love to see you do dress your hair in braids, pig tails, pony tails etc. it would be amazing. post some pics after hairstyling.
Jin,
You have incredible hair and it is really long for only growing it for two years. How long are you going to grow it? It looks great now and I am sure it will look even better as it gets longer.
The good thing about a webpage is that you can keep working on it. It would be nice to see your progress pictures.
My first milestone wasn't reaching a specific length. Instead it was the first time someone mistook me for a woman. It was at that point that I realized that my hair was getting kind of long.
Anyway, I hope to see more pictures of your fabulous hair.
Jin
first of all thanks for posting your pics once again
your hair are beautiful
u must be taking gr8 care of it
Keep it going
by the way what style u generally use
INDIANBOY
Jin, your hair is so great! Just curious, but where do you live?
Gary
I live in Singapore. Why you ask?
First and foremost, thanks for your compliments :)
I think I've been asked this questions many times before. Yes, you're right that Singapore was discriminatory towards long hair on male. This is mainly due to the great impact of hippy culture and its relation (as perceived by the government) to drugs in the 70s on us. During that time, when our country was going through a crucial and tough period of economic development, drugs (both trafficking and consumption) played a very large part in creating the social instability and low consumer confidence. Incidentally, most drug pushers had long, unkempt hair.
One interesting point was, the situation had became so serious that our then premier restricted all males to have hair not longer than the standard business cut, any violations will result in criminal prosecution (as if that would prevent pple from taking drugs). This applies for all foreigners entering Singapore too, with obvious signs posted on all port of entries on the required hair-length before entry was allowed. One sensational case was the famous musician Kitaro, who had waist-length hair all his life, but was banned from entering Singapore until he had his hair cut. His case against Singapore lasted for 10 long years.
Sounds scary? But fret not, THAT was the 70s. Now that drugs were effectively clamped down and with the rapid development of our economy, our government is more receptive to long hair. It now feels more had to be focused on an individual's interior rather than his/her exterior outlook. The "hair rules" and all previously passed bills with regards to long hair was scrapped (yay!) and Kitaro is now welcomed with open arms to Singapore (cool!). Furthermore, creativity and the arts are now highly promoted and in fact, all of the citizens were encouraged (by the govt.) to look, act and think as differently as possible (although I still doubt the general acceptance to male long hair by the public). Paternal governance, huh? But that's our culture.
Ok, my blabber boils down to this: it is now FULLY SAFE and LEGAL to enter Singapore, even with floor-length hair. I might even further assure you that if you have beautifully-kept long hair, you might even get a compliment or two :)
For me, I'll surely welcome you with open embrace :))
Cheers,
Jin
Longhairedman
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Dear Jin,
Your account below is quite interesting and I remember it well, though I was about 15 when your Prime Minister, Lee Kuan Yew issued the ban against long haired men entering Singapore and initiated a campaign to catch longhaired men in Singapore and give them a haircut.
However, are you absolutely sure that most drug pushers in Singapore had long hair at that time, or is that an official explanation.
Most drug addicts caught in the back lanes of the Chow Kit area in Kuala Lumpur DON'T have long hair, at least not from the pictures I've seen of them in the newspapers.
The pity though is that the Singapore (and Malaysian) authorities have this idea that they can get rid of the drug trade simply by cutting people's hair, which has proven to be nonsense, since the drug problem in Malaysia is still as bad as ever.
Of course, it can't be denied that the influence of the hippie movement and pop culture of the time contributed to getting people in Malaysia, Singapore and elsewhere to experiment with drugs with its consequent social problems.
However, once again, cutting people's hair won't stop it.
Also I don't understand the connection between the state of the Singapore economy at the time and the length of mens' hair. How would having short hair make the Singapore economy more proseprous.
Of course now, the Singapore government is trying to stimulate creativity and more entrepreneurial and to get Singaporeans to be less dependent of the government for employment, etc.
However, I don't think that suddenly allowing long hair and encouraging people to have fun and loosen up will necessarily result in people being more entrepreneurial, since it could well result in people being zany and wild but not necessarily creative.
A freer and more tolerant environment may however allow for creativity in art, music and expression, though once again, if that freedom merely results in more pornographic movies and nudisk paintings, I'd consider that a useless, self-indulgent and hedonistic form of "creativity."
More importantly for the flowering of creativity, initiative and entrepreneurial daring will involve a work environment which encourages people to question and even criticise their boss' views and to give them the freedom to try out their ideas independently, without the fear of being sacked if they fail.
Encouraging entrepreneurship requires laws -- such as bankrupcy laws -- which don't punish those who try and fail the first time. While I don't know what Singapore's bankrupcy laws are like, I've been told that being declared a bankrupt in Malaysia like getting a criminal record, if not worse.
Culturally, society must stop putting a stigma on people who take a risk and fail the first or second time.
Furthermore, transforming ideas into reality requires money, so there must be ready availability of venture capital funding which are also forgiving of failure the first or second time.
This I believe is the kind of environment which has enabled entrepreneurship and creativity in the Silicon Valley.
Allowing wild parties on Zouk Beach where people get drunk as lords and one person drowns is not going to encourage creativity and entrepreneurship but only zaniness.
Regards
Charles
though it may encourage more artistic creativity and expression.
These are excellent speeches. Now tell that to the prisons in the United States!
Yes, it's bad. It seems they have this notion that cutting the inmate's hair will make them good and it also seems like a method of intimidating -- ie. a "no haircut, no parole" threat.
Charles
