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It's 3:30 am and I have just gotten in from a night out on the town. I was given 3 phone numbers (one of which I kept) and I had 5 people proposition me; 4 men and one woman to be exact. It was a gay club, but, what the heck. I just read that even most gay men don't like long hair. WRONG!
My point is simply this: In my opinion, all the comments on here that I read about women and men preferring short hair is totally unfounded. Actually, I think just the opposite. I think that many people, especially women, prefer short hair on a man because they think it is too sexual; much like wearing a shirt that isn't buttoned up enough, or, pants that fit too suggestively. As far as I’m concerned the myth about long hair being unattractive, or, less attractive is false and I have the phone numbers to prove it.
jeffrey.
That was the comment of a random women a few months back.
Well, I did have some food in it, because, I was eating and it seems like everytime that I took a bite someone would come up and give me a hug, but, it was barbecue chicken, or, something and it did smell good. Mummmmm....
jeffrey.
I think another issue might be that many people, men or women, gay or straight, restrict themselves to in-the-box thinking, and make only "safe" choices when it comes to finding a mate. They have limited ideas of what, physically speaking, constitutes an ideal partner, and the idea of choosing someone outside those ideas is somewhat of a quantum leap into the wild. Which would seem to confirm what you said -- about long hair on a man being too "sexual."
Also, the sheer proportion of men with short hair compared to those with long seems to bear out that most guys are very unwilling to "go there," for whatever reason. For me personally, this is just all the more reason to be proud of being a longhair. We are a special class. Not better -- that's not what I'm saying -- but special.
Hey Jeffrey, thanks for sharing your refreshing ideas. This is positive news indeed...but it seems like at least once every couple of days I get negative looks or feedback...ESPECIALLY from gay guys. But it does not deter me. Interesting...
BTW, your new avatar pic is super.
Cheers, Max
Hey, Max!
Thanks for the kind words. First, I would like to say that your physical condition should be an inspiration for all of us. I was going to comment on a picture you posted a while back, but, I didn't have the time.
What you say does surprise me a bit. The only negative looks that I have received (that I know of) have been from women, three in fact. Two of the women were obviously of the pentecostal denomination, which seems to despise long hair on a man. I strongly suspect that the third woman was also of the same denomination. If looks could kill I would surely be dead by now. I just wish they could see themselves when they look like that. They worship a man that "may" have had long hair and a beard and hate another man just because he does have long hair and a beard. Go figure.
jeffrey.
FWIW, the only Pentecostal I have ever known (AFAIK) was a man who was a minister. He was my landlord when I rented a room many years ago, and he never spoke a word against long haired males. All his tenants were long haired males, LOL! Of course, in those days hardly anyone had short hair, so he would have been wasting his breath if he had. His own hair was over his collar. This was in England, and he was Irish, so I can't speak for Pentecostals in the US.
Hey Jeffrey, thanks for your good words...yeah I am kind of surprised too in a way, since this is a very liberal area...but mainly it's people that I know that make auditory comments that are negative and it just happened again today. A friend of mine said in a semi-sarcastic way, "So how long are you going to grow that hair?" Get's very annoying at times.
Regarding those three pentecostal women...wow! So often the case that religious people are the first to show these kinds of reactions... I would love to ask them how they feel about their jesus as he is commomly depicted, with the beard and long hair...
Thanks again for your good words...and keep up the great work, I hope my hair looks something like yours in a year or two...
Cheers to you and best in 2008
Max
you know, now that you mention it, I have seen a lot more "interest" after I started letting my hair grow out. I'm the kinda guy that is usually put into that "brother" category by most women. I just did a self portrait recently (i'm an aspiring photographer) and it got a lot of comments from my female friends describing me as "attractive" and "sexy". Kinda threw me for a loop.
Hair? I think its the whole package.
Your good looking, that's why!
Paul
Well, thanks! Now I'm blushing.
Actually, I have the skin of an weatherbeaten lizzard. If I need to take a half-way decent picture I use Maybelline Dream Matt. It works like magic. The only problem is that I have to eventually take it off and gross everyone out. HeHe!
jeffrey.
I'm not sure it is the hair, alone. I know, for me, a turn on is someone who is smart and confident and is comfortable with who they are, that last is the most important. Yes, I like long hair too, I also like tall athletic women, but those aren't the most important qualities for someone I want to get to know better.
Hi Jeffrey
I agree with your findings as when I used to frequent the gay
clubs and although short hair was by far the norm I often found
people would be very willing to talk to me and show interest.
They found the hair to be interesting even those who didn't
care for long haired men after 5 minutes of conversation
we're down right flirty.
These days I've settled and my mate has hair even longer than
mine so one can find happimess and not have to cut their hair.
Kevin