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I have a question for you all....when you come across a chick who finds long hair on guys a "turn-off", what seems to be their reason for it?
I'm curious to see what women have said to you. What seems to be their most common reason they find it a turn-off?
I never used to think about asking women why they find it a turn-off, but as of recently, I asked this one chick, and she couldn't come up with an answer....or unless she was trying to spare my poor wittle feelings..lol.
I've made it point from now on to find out what it is exactly they find a turn-off about it. I make it a point to tell them, "Not that I give a f*ck what you think, but what is it exactly you don't like about it?"
Generall Bad Comments (Common)
*Its Wrong*
*Only women should have long hair*
*I dont like the feeling or look of it, i would feel like a lesbian*
*If a guy has long hair he looks dirty and disgusting*.
General Good Comments (Rare)
*I like running hands through it etc."
*I like the feel of it if its well looked after"
those are the general good and bad comments i see and occasionly have personally got similar comments..
I have heard a lot of things good comments and bad ones, but for a long hair to be really a "turn-off" it must be a bad hair, dry, not taking care of it and such. I mean, if someone grows hair like those guys living in the streets it is most likely it will be odd to see and weird to touch.
If it's healthy it's just a matter of taste, some people will like it, some people won't. I have girl friends that love my hair getting longer, others just dislike it. But at the very end it's how you feel with it. Be confident of your hair and how you look and people will like it since it's a part of the whole you.
Many women--especially young women--like the 'exotic' look of longhaired men
when they are on the cover of a romance novel or in a rock band. But
when it comes to the men they know personally, then it can be a different story.
Some women love long hair on men but most probably do not. This is probably due to the fact that they are thinking of how their friends, family, etc. would react, or they may wonder how the long hair could affect your money-making opportunities, or perhaps
they might consider you too much of a 'free spirit' to be a good father' if
a serious relationship is what they have in mind.
Anyway, if you plan on living with and enjoying your long hair you will need to keep asking women how they feel about long hair--and why.
Good luck
Both genders have a regrettable tendency to objectify the other, but in different ways. Women often tend to look for a 'good provider', which in modern times can mean a conformist who is considered employable. They would argue that this is more justified than the male tendency to judge women by whether they look 'hot', but it's really two sides of the same coin, as the latter is based on having healthy offspring. We're all victims of our genes, but some more than others!
Even seen in the limited way of judging men by their earning potential (which really is just as annoying to many of us as women find it when men judge them by their cleavage or other obvious physical assets), a longhair with a college degree or some sort of professional licence ought to be seen as a better 'catch' than a shorthair with no trade or qualifications, for example, except that their first impression may lean the other way.
Perhaps having long hair is a useful strategy to avoid 'gold diggers'!
Not something I really bothered with all that much. Generally the only ones you get to ask are the ones you are seeing, and then it doesn't matter! OTOH, with the exception of a couple of 'biker chicks' who regarded long hair as part of the bike scene, they all told me that long hair on men didn't do anything for them, but none of them ever suggested that I cut it. That goes for my wife too, although she prefers my hair tied back and I prefer hers let down, but we don't make an issue of that.
There is one woman I currently know who has been known to fondle my hair in front of my wife. I think it annoys me just slightly that this doesn't seem to make my wife jealous, LOL!
I'm sure we could arrange for more women to do this. How many do you think it would take? :-)
Hmmm...
Well, My friends all make fun of me because i find men with long hair attractive. When I asked them why their reply ws that men with long hair look more like women to them, and not very masculine, and they didn't like the fact of being with someone who looked like a girl.
I, on the other had think that it is the most attractive thing ever!
Some people don't realize that having long hair doesn't make you look any less masculine, I mean look at Sabastian Bach!!!!
Everyone has an opinion.
-Dee
Dee, I'm smirking at the thought of women who need hair length to help them identify men. Don't they know mens' bodies are different from ours in lots of nice ways? :-)))
Elizabeth
I'm laughing too. My co-workers think I'm nuts. They just see it as "weird" or "unnatural" or "too femenine" or "dirty." Long hair is quite natural and VERY masculine in my opinion. And it's no more clean/dirty than a womans long hair. Oh well...more guys for me. ;-)
Mouse
And think about how many women have short hair, does that make them "masculine"?
Depending on who you ask, then yes, sadly. Probably those are the same people who declare women must cut their long hair off by 40 (if it even lasted that long or ever had it at all) otherwise with long hair the women are reviled for not acting their age. An ugly cycle all around. Still, women do get at least some time during their lives when long hair (within certain limits) is socially acceptable. Seems like males are generally permitted long hair as long as they are under the age of three. :-/
Elizabeth
And hey, some of the most masculine figures of history and myth had long hair. Sampson, Hercules, Beowulf, hell, show them a classical rendition of Arthur or Lancelot, and they generally have longer hair than is the norm nowadays.
Usually the answer I have been approached with is that the shorter length would look better. So not necessarily a comment on why long is bad but rather that short is better. Of course, showing people an old picture of short hair me versus now, they still think the much worse old picture is better than now.
Reasons for preferring long do include having hair to play with. My girlfriend likes to play with my hair, comb it, brush it, and run fingers through it. I think she once referred to me as a "living doll" but in a good way.
as I already have posted, especially with the younger women who were either born during the late 1970s or 1980s, they don't like it for a list of reasons ranging from many of the stereotypes that they have been conditioned to believe.
many seem to have this impression that all long hairs do "drugs". (sorry, I don't)
other females think that short hair looks more attractive and when I ask them why long hair isn't they come up with some very asinine responses which are probably the result of narrow-mindedness ranging from "lack of personal hygeine" to "dirty" to "sloppy" to "effininite"
of course I've seen some really dirty guys with buzzcuts and to tell a young female who hasn't been around to many long haired males this is like talking to a wall.
some women are different, but there are too many that are PRO-shorthair.
the next time a female with long hair suggests that you would look better with short hair, reverse the situation immediately and tell them "you know what I think you'd look better if you got a short Hallie Barry/Alyssa Milano/Natalie Portman crop too! " and they'll walk away ticked off never to bring up the subject of your hair again.
That aggravates me to no end. Women can have their hair long or short(and scream sexism if men say a woman should have long hair) then they turn around and say a man has to have short hair. I'm with Eric Anders(reminds me of Khan from Star Trek) you are the man so take charge If your girlfriend give you crap about it throw her out. Oh and of you are getting married get a prenup that will get you out of the marriage if she comes on with the short hair crap.
I for one intend to vote against that butch woman running for president.
As a woman, my very presence on this community shows that I like long hair on a man.
My uncle's wife gets snippy when their grandson's hair gets "too long". The boy has soft facial features to begin with, and up until he was in the 5th grade, everyone thought he was a girl, even with short hair. The long hair (more like a mullet) just made the androgyny more pronounced, and frustrated my uncle's wife. But the woman can't handle changes, even in styles and beliefs.
I recently joined the LHC and was most disheartened how many of the women (especially those growing their own hair for religious reasons) said that they did NOT like long hair on men, wanting the "man in uniform" thing.
Hmmph. They just don't know what they're missing.
The women there fall into two distinct groups, those who just like long hair and those who are into the traditional stereotypes. I don't like any form of regimentation and conformity myself, so obviously there are some there who I don't get on with so well. What really bugs me, though, is the ones with Corinthians in their signature.
I do like long hair on women, but in the past I dated some who had short hair. I don't think I'd be happy if my wife got a short hair cut, but mainly because I don't think it would suit her. I've seen old pictures of her with short hair, so I have some idea what it would look like. IOW, I don't think women should be forced to have long hair any more than men should be forced to have it short.
Yeah, there's a contrary part of me that wants to shave my head every time I see that.
Exactly, it's personal preferences, what you have the time and patience to deal with. Forcing someone in either direction, for whatever reason is wrong. The only exception I can see would be firefighters, police or soldiers in combat, long hair can get in the way, and can give an opponent something to grab onto in hand-to-hand situations.