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My mom won't let me cut my hair.
Me: Mom, do you think I can get a trim sometime soon?
Mom: Absolutely not.
Me: O_O WHY?
Mom: You just got one three or four months ago.
Me: But I have split ends!
Mom: Just grow it out already and hush.
Me: BUT!
Mom: No cutting until you're past shoulder length.
Me: ._.
XDDDDDDDD I love my mom, but I really do need a trim. ;-;
I still think no one REALLY needs a trim. I haven't had one in 18 months and i'm fine, although I suppose it's different for everyone.
Eitherway, be happy it's that way, you have no idea how lucky you are lol.
I think you can go a very long time with no trim as long as you seek and destroy split ends when you see any.
LOL my mom would be happy to hear of me cutting split ends off. You must have a really cool mom.
It sounds like you got a great mum there and so nice to see a parent being positive about longhair. However I would have to agree with Derf as it's not worth having a trim before 18 months. I would just ask her casually where is so called advice comes from.
I'm sure if Bruce Gallagher our resident stylist was reading this and I'm sure he would agree.
Cheers.
John.B
You should NEVER complain LOL
It's not that the original poster has a cool mum for making them keep there hair long so they should be 'lucky' or not complain. It's that a persons appearance should not be dictated either way by anyone else.
True, however, I am glad for her support. XD
It sounds like GlassEyes is getting basic motherly advice, just like when moms tell you not to pick a scab because it delays healing. Same principle actually, leave your hair alone and it will grow. To trim to remove split ends is a waste unless the splits are causing tangles or appearance problems.
Most of the time a split only has the effect of dividing the hair shaft an inch or so until one side falls off reducing the length of that single hair. So to cut half an inch off everything (if you are lucky to find someone to trim just a little) to prevent the loss of an inch from a few hairs counterproductive. Besides, every trim cuts the protective taper off newer hairs that had never been cut before exposing them to splitting when they would otherwise be at less risk.
If we thought GlassEyes was getting pushed around by his mother we'd be all over her but I think most of us see it in a different light. If she really was bossing her son around that would be calling her on it because it is detrimental to a person coming into their own identity. While my own parenting style would be to let kids learn from trying things, within limits of course, it doesn't hurt to advise him not to trim until more time has passed.
Elizabeth
I'm with Elizabeth on this one.
If you had a trim three months ago, you don't really need another one yet unless your hair is splitting badly, which I doubt if it's not past shoulder length yet.
My advice would be to ladle on the conditioner and get a pair of small scissors and snip out individual split hairs when you find them - or get your mum to do it for you. Going by what you've said, you can pretty much guarantee that she won't hack off two inches of your hair just to get half a dozen split ends. It won't make any great difference to the appearance of your hair from anyone else's perspective, but you'll feel better about it and I'm sure she'd enjoy lending a hand.
You have a cool mum, can I come round for tea?
Mother knows best, listen to your mother.
Kevin
You didn't say what your goal length is (your mom's goal length?). If it's waist length or longer, don't get any trims. If it's much shorter, trims may be ok.
GlassEyes, Mother know best! Would love to stop by for a spot o tea with you, Dave and Mom of course!
peace, jonalbear