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Just a few short days ago I made a post of how I was perhaps contemplating on growing my hair past waist and onto belt level.
And oddly enough, in the past few days, I've had serious thoughts on trimming it, or layering it, or just doing something different with it.
I think I've reached a point where I feel the length where it's at now, just doesn't suit me anymore. Sure, it may look great/hot, from the back. But from the front, eh.
I guess I'm just tired of caring for my hair only to put it in a ponytail 99.9% of the time. That's basically what it comes down to. Atleast with shorter hair, I could show it off more.
Perhaps putting my hair in a ponytail is a minor inconvenience that I'm whining too much about?
*shrugs*
How do most of you guys with hair as long as mine, manage to stay the course and deal with it?
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And a question to the girls here:
It seems to me, that even amongst women who fancy men with long hair, it ends at a certain point.
Meaning, for many, anything past shoulder length and/or midback length, is too long and unattractive.
I'd like the girls on this board to chime in with their thoughts.
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Thanks for your time.
P.S. Anyone psyched for Wrestlemania tonight???
I personally Like men with hair that is extremely long and when I mean extremely long I am talking if their hair was to their knees or past their butt I would be soo happy.
You'd be suprised what people consider "long hair" these days.
If you wish to no longer grow your hair out that is your decision but when you said it didn't suit you anymore I disagreed with that statement,you have a face that IMO is perfect for very long hair,so that is my 2 cents.
Thanks for the kind words, Jasmine.
I tried to send you a msg via your myspace but I couldn't since I wasn't your 'friend'.
Then I tried to add you as a friend, but cause I have a 'comedian' profile, I couldn't cause you don't accept it.
So hopefully you see this message and maybe add me on there. LOL
my email is lilysandremains@yahoo.com
try that:-p
Well ATP that is great advice from Jasmine and that is good advice indeed. It's alwaus good to canvas an opinion but at the end of the day it's up to you. I certainly think longhair does suit you and should keep on growing it.
I'm sure you have seen people Danny Cecati and Baron who have extremely longhair and I'm sure it suits then and they have got used to dealing it. I would certainly not have any issues with having hair longer than belt length. But you don't often see apart from a few cases hair than mid back or waist length on men as they reckon it's to hard to deal with. They are some great examples in the community that are contrary to that view.
I hope you come to a decision that is right for you.
Cheers,
John.B
Thanks.
Um, can you point me to a link of Baron? Not sure who that is, but I do know Danny Cecati.
Baron Misuraca from Vasaria :
who is this guy with the ankle-length hair?
who is this guy with the ankle-length hair?
I don't see why you need to wear it in a ponytail most of the time? I don't, and my hair is just touching my waist. I braid it now more often than I put it into a ponytail, but 90% of the time I just leave it loose.
There again, I think it depends on how long you've had long hair, and how much you are used to long hair all over the place, not just how long it is. Mine has been long for decades, although not long enough in the past due to too many trims. I don't get bothered much anymore if my hair gets in the way, but I had long air for very many years before I even tried a ponytail.
The more you tie it back, I suspect the more it irritates when loose. If you read LHC atall, you'll notice how many of the long haired ladies there wear their hair up all the time and then get irritated by their hair if it is down. OTOH, it it is loose most of the time, you just get used to it.
On the other other hand, LOL, I would probably cut mine a little if I found that I couldn't wear it loose very much, but my idea of too long to wear loose is probably if it was long enough to trip over when loose. I doubt very much if my hair will ever get that long, although there are some people like that.
I think if you have thin hair, shoulder lenght, or a LITTLE longer is all you're going to get and still have it look nice, and for the record, I love long hair so much, short hair creeps me out...
if you have very thick hair, like Orientals and some Hispanic people, longer is not only better, but REALLY fine...
this is myself with Journey's legendary singer Steve Perry...he has the most gorgeous long hair, or he did when this was taken in 1994.
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Just a little tip: The classification of people is "ASIAN". Oriental is considered an insult.
And I always thought Asian people to have mostly thin striaght hair
Todd B.
Really?
Where I live asian has become derogatory in some cases, while Oriental certainly bears no semblance to an insult...weird.
The other problem is that in the UK the term Asian **always** means South Asian, i.e. Indian or Pakistani. Hence if you identify Orientals as Asians then people will think you mean someone who looks like the're from India rather than China, for example. Americans may know what you mean, but it's not likely that everyone else will.
One of the problems you face being on the Internet is that everything you write is read globally, whether you intend it to be or not. Even if Oriental is offensive when used where you live, Asian definitely identifies an entirely different racial group from the one you intend when used in other parts of the globe.
If you really can't say Oriental, you really will have to think of something else other than Asian. I suppose you will have to say South-East Asian if you mean Oriental, and refer to the other group as South Asian. It seems if you don't it will be by turns either offensive or misleading. This is the price of being on the World Wide Web, payable in full.
I wear my hair loose and am pretty good at keeping it out of the way.
I think you just need to get used to having long hair. Waist-length hair is not very problematic.
Uh, no (;-)
Ed
Many long-haired women around here have the front and sides actually layered or in some sort of style, and just the back is long (BSL or longer), not quite mullet-ish.
Maybe try varying what you do to put it up -- one day a ponytail, next a braid, then loose, then a half-tail, then a bun, etc. -- so you aren't in a rut, and can enjoy it down some of the time.
When my hair was waist-length, I rarely wore it up, it seemed like I was defeating the purpose of long hair, and I'm too lazy to fuss with it. Now that I work in a climate-controlled environment, I can wear it down in the summer without getting hot, sweaty, etc.
My own personal opinion, and it is just MY OPINION... The length, as in number of inches or where it hits you, isn't the issue, I have a preference for all the long hairs to be the same length. And, too, keeping it clean and healthy looking is key.
No. My first celebrity crush was on Andre the Giant, and I lost interest in wrestling when he died.
I always knew you were cool, Juli, but that statement just multiplied your coolness factor by about a million!
The gentle giant is dead; long live the gentle giant.
--Val
Hehehe... I first saw him as Bigfoot in Six Million Dollar Man episode. Well, I saw the name in the credits. The next week, we were visiting my mom's parents and my grandfather was watching "pretzel bending", and I heard the name, put a face (and body) to the name, and that was it. I was 13 and fell head over heels in love. LOL
Yeah, I'm a girl, and I like romances, but I don't know if I would have watched Princess Bride umpty-bazillion times if he wasn't in it.
Seriously, I read some interviews and biographical articles about him, and he was a good guy. He was robbed when Hulk beat him...
I have, or the many years that I have been on the board, been a little surprised at the working assumption that a man who grows his hair long MUST want to grow it to terminal length, or way past his shoulders. Often, it is subtle, but the message is there--long haired men are those who grow it to their butts.
Well, yes. And, we are those who grow it to mid back, and to shoulders, etc. In other words, you can get caught in a dogmatic sense of long hair just as much as you can get caught in the dogma of "men have short hair".
If you trimmed your hair up to shoulder length, you would probably find that it felt thicker and behaved in a way that was more interesting t you and easier to manage without the tail. Why not consider that? It's not like you won't be a long haired man!
Bob
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I put it up in a lazy bun most of the time, let it down for show...and when someone asks how long it is, I just pull the stick out and let it fall down...then put it back up shortly.
But I'm pretty used to having thigh length hair by now.
As for the other question...there appear to be a significant number of women who do like extremely long hair.
Who, me? :P
To the OP, I'll echo what Elizabeth said about being yourself first and foremost. What is really unattractive is doing something that isn't in your core nature just to please or impress potential mates.
With regards to female preferences for male partner hair length, what I've noticed on another hair forum is that many women seem to prefer the extremes. Extremely short, or extremely long. In between tends to have mixed response.
Another thing that has nothing to do with gender is that well-meaning friends/family are often unable to imagine what your hair will look like when it's longer. A few years ago I made the mistake of casually mentioning to my sister that I was planning to grow it to ankle-length, she was convinced that it would just be horrible and creepy. Now that it is at ankle-length, she's seen it and realized that she thinks it's actually kind of nice.
It's better to just do your own thing and see what happens. :)
I would echo another poster and say try out different styles like braids and buns. Practice will certainly be required, but if a 27 year old woman who hasn't had hair this long for more than 20 years can figure out the basics of braiding and making a bun, I'm sure you can. I still just tail it most of the time for convenience, but I'm at least working on branching out.
Shop an online store, visit a Ren Faire, make your own creative device/hair piece. I bet you'd look great with some of those Celtic hairclips/tailcuffs I've seen before.
Besides, someone confident enough to shave hearts into his chest/belly should be fine with styles outside the American male norm. ;-)
I very rarely see any guys with hair past those points in real life (not many women either), though I get plenty of exposure on the board. When I do, I certainly don't find it to be any more or less attractive than hair that reaches the shoulders or midback. It's really more about personal expression in my opinion. You could always let it keep growing but experiment with styles that "hide" the length a bit (such as making a tail and then folding it up and back down again, securing it with a clip or other device).
I hope that helps a bit,
Mouse
Very easy in my case. I just do it and think nothing of it. No sweat to me in the slighest no matter how I choose to wear it.
Simple really, I just don't think about it. It's there, it's been
there for years, it's going to be there until it falls out or I die.
Kevin
I just don't think about it. It's there, it's been
there for years, it's going to be there until it falls out or I die.
Well put Kevin :)
Todd B.
I'm just thinking back to when I was an undergraduate. One of our PhD students had mid-thigh length hair and wore it loose around the lab - probably not the best thing to do when you're a microbiologist - and never had any complaints.
Some women don't like long hair on a guy, but those who do LOVE it. Your hair will also make you stand out from the crowd, and, Like Trolleypup says, if you have it tied up and let it loose, you get quite a major reaction.
At the end of the day, it's your hair though, and if you think you'd like it shorter take a few inches off. It'll only take a couple of years to regrow if you don't like it, but at least you'll know then what you prefer. Failing that, grow it longer and then cut it back if you don't like it. At least that way, butt length will only take two years from where you are now rather than four if you chop it off and change your mind.
that line is really different for a lot of guys, however i think the majority it would be between mid back and waist length, though not because its unnattractive by any means, I mean I absolutely drool over the band guys with ankle length hair and such, however it becomes an issue of functionality....i like having the hair loose to play with it and run my fingers through, however, I do not want to worry about ruining thier hair if I roll over on it in my sleep or having to have them take 2 hours just to do thier hair up before bed...or worse, worrying about it wrapping around my neck or something in my sleep (don't laugh, it just about happened with an ex of mine, lol)
I mean, if a guy had a ton of hair, took care of it well, and could do so with little maintainence, I think it would be great....but even as a girl i have to be really careful about my hair and I know you guys have it tougher so I try and be realistic. Plus, for guys in my age range..if you have hair longer then mid back, you really have to make sure it is immacualte looking if you are looking for a career or anything....and with younger guys they don't mind long hair but it must be well kept....no frizzies on the top, tied back neatly, clean...pretty much hard to tell its long unless they are really looking.
Though, I guess I'm biased, as I'm not looking for guys and I have a bad habit of if I am taken my eye for other guys kinda...diminishes.....I have my knight already and I'll love him anyway he is :)
Huh??? I have ankle-length hair and I don't spend 2 hours getting ready for bed.
As for causing trouble in bed... well, see that's the neat thing about very long hair. Once you get past butt-length, the hair stays out of the way much better. My hair just hangs off of the bed and stays there regardless of whether I roll around in my sleep. Between shoulderlength and waistlength, it's long enough to get into everything but not long enough to behave. ;)
Dear Alexander,
Being yourself scores pretty high with women. While I can argue the merits of any length of hair the most important question is really what do you want? Besides, as Kett so aptly pointed out- "I have my knight already and I'll love him anyway he is".
So far it sounds like you are leaning toward shorter. Robert suggested going shorter and I'd agree. That certainly would let you know if that style is what you were looking for or not. Even if you realize longer hair is what you want after all, you'll be confident in that knowledge in a way you aren't at this time.
Elizabeth
I suppose the best way to deal with long hair is to want it enough.. Being raised in a "church" family and christian schools and then military I was NEVER allowed/able to grow any hair per se... 10 years ago I finally launched my body piercing business and long hair is par for that course.. I grew it, I've got it and nothing short of a trajedy is gonna' make it go away! Took 6 years to reach waist length and I trim it occasionally as past my butt was a little too much for me.. Tired of sitting on it!
I guess the "rebel" in me keeps me content with managing long hair.. Good luck!
Tom