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i was reading a book last night looking for the right definition of a "hair fetishist," as in a person whose attraction to another somewhat depends on their hair/hair length
i always notice beautiful longhairs; even women
yes, of course there's more to someone, but to me, it's as definitive about a person as their voice...if they have a voice that grates an my nerves, i can't date them.
where i live is very cubs fan-yuppie type baseball cap wearing sorts, and so i don't date anyone...that creeps me out. everyone looks exactly the same--ick.
problem is people trying to look like everyone else, which i find icky under any circumstances.
forgive typing/syntax mistakes and so on--writing with broke right hand
Hi michelle
Well I do agree that hair is a main visual in deciding if you are attracted to a person.Obviously there are others such as facial features,their physique just to name some others.Sorry to hear that you live in an area lacking of longhaired men but I'm sure they are out there as you just have to find them.Its too bad that men are mostly short haired or worse shaved heads.Yikes!LOL.Anyway its always cool to know that females do like longhaired guys even though the perception is they hate it.Just be patient and I'm sure you'll find someone nice.Also take care of that hand.Take care and thanks for the post.
Mark
As far as I can tell, everyone's got their own unique preferences when it comes to the physical characteristics of potential mates. I've got no idea what the psychology behind it is, or if there even is such a thing as a long hair "fetish."
I have, however, noticed that some women seem to prefer men who are, by description, similar to their fathers. I know one girl who is absolutely *fascinated* with beards, whose father is and always has been bearded. It could be pure coincidence, o'course.
I know I personally have quite a few very specific preferences when it comes to women. Makeup--lipstick, mostly--bugs the heck outta me, for example.
With regard to long hair specifically, I would say I agree with the notion of one's appearance serving as a social filter. Girls who aren't cool with long-haired or bearded guys just won't approach me, and that seems to work out just fine. :)
Hi Michelle,
I know many women here in Georgia that like my hair but don't like guys with long hair... It hasn't kept me from dating as they would get used to it and a couple even tried to talk me into cutting it, obviously with out any luck.. I'll find someone one day, I hope, that likes my hair as much as I do!
Great pic by the way!
.... And while I'm here I might add that I'm single ;-P lol
Take care,
Tom
psssssst Michelle.. he's single... :)
My last girl friend hated my hair. When I started dating, I had my hair short, but I didn't enjoy it short as it was just not me. So I decided to grow it long. As it started growing long, the comments started flowing in. "Aren't you going to listen to your girl friends opinion!" "You looked better with it short!" "Your going to look like a girl!" "Guys are not supposed to have long hair!" "It's not the 70s anymore!"
Finally it got to be too much, and when the "I'm going to change you" crap started, that was it, good buy! She got real controlling at the end too. To the point where I couldn't even spend time with my friends. :-( She even got upset because I didn't spend enough time with her when I was studying for finals!
I know there are girls out there that like long hair. My problem is, finding them...
Maybe we should move. Where I am it's almost imposable to get a date. That's ok. My long hair will never do me wrong LoL.
I think I get where you're coming from. Hair isn't the sole factor I'm looking for, but I start feeling like I'm "settling" or compromising when I date someone with short hair. But then, no longhairs have ever asked me.
I don't fit the current societal standards of beauty, and it hurts when my date obviously notices someone who does. Do they feel the same pain when I do the cartoon double take when I see a man with long hair?
Some people might too naieve to get their feelings hurt by your "double take".. Self confidence would also play a big part as well.. I personally would be attracted to a woman more if she had a solid sense of confidence and self esteem. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with somebody else! Then you keep an eye out for somebody you can be happy with.. Don't look, it's a big let down when nothing comes along.. Good Luck
Tom
So if a woman likes a man because he has long hair, it's a hair fetish? hmmm.. So if a man likes a woman because she has nice breasts is that a breast fetish? And if a man likes a woman because she has long legs is that a leg fetish?
It sounds like its just attraction in general and we all like different things. Let's face it, men usually like women's legs and breasts (how many conversations have I had with a man staring at my 'bits'??? And I'm thinking .. 'oi! I'm up here...' .. hmmm ... LOL)
I think there are men out there who don't realise that there are women out there who don't care about fashion or being cool but who just want a man who will be their best mate, and if he happens to have gorgeous locks, all the better. Personally, I think shaved heads are ugly and are a total turn off, long hair is a turn on. So do I have a fetish? Well, i'd say yes I probably do, it's what attracts me, but is my 'fetish' any different to what attracts the breast or leg man?
I dont think so. If we all liked the same thing the world would be full of clones.