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I went out to eat at a restaurant and the greeter/seater said but two things to me when I entered.
First she asked how long I've been growing my hair (the first question everyone has to ask...it's like a reflex).
Second she asked how much money I would take to cut it off...WTF?
I paused for a few seconds expecting the Locks of Love bullshit but when that didn't happen I gave her the bit about Bo Derek setting the price for cutting one's hair off at $1,000,000 back in the '80's (not adjusted for inflation mind you).
And that was it as we were taken to a table.
I just thought what an odd thing to say to a total stranger who is obviously likes their hair (length is an indicator of that).
I wonder what she would have said if I had walked up to her and asked how much money she would take to let me shave her head?
Yes, most people just think that stuff to themselves. As for the price of cutting it off, I think I considered that at one point. I decided that if an employer were to ask for it, I'd reply "yes" under the condition that they pay me my projected earnings (full salary or regular time+16 hours of overtime for each day on an hourly basis) for the full time it takes to grow back. This seems only fair, since they are asking for control over your life that extends even after you are fired and/or quit, and over your non-working hours also. At present this would be 6+ years, and a princely sum even at minimum wage.
($5.85)(24)(365)(6)=$307,476
San Francisco has set a minimum wage of $9.36, which works out to:
$491,961.6
Most people earn *considerably* more, so figures in the millions should be quite common.
That's a really wierd comment! Never had that one before. However, I do agree that an employer asking you to cut your hair is taking control over your life, and next time I'm told to cut it I will bring up the earnings formula you put forth!! at $7.75hr over 3 years to grow it back that would buy me a house!!!!
If you don't mind I think I'll put that on my site (with credit of course).
hmm...perhaps you should have walked out and contacted the manager saying you lost your appetite due to stomach ulcers caused by the wicked woman. =P
Seriously though...Kharma's a *FIVE LETTER WORD* so who knows what might happen to her now.
Oh well...just one more close minded person, what else is new?
Don't let it get to you, it's sooo ot worth it.
<3
Tristram
So very well put. As little as one would have a stranger decide how one looks, likewise. don't let an unsolicited opinion from a judgmental stranger affect your mood.
She was kind of young and it seemed more of a query than a brash statement, but I think I gave her something to mull over.
Well from what I know of you my friend you would be the last person I would expect to curt their hair and it must be getting pretty long now. It certainly is a strange comment but I suppose it takes all sorts and perhaps does not have best skills in good conversation...rofl!
Cheers,
John.B
Yeah, the word "cut" in relation to my hair is a historical word going back to pre-1988. The operative word now is (occasional) "trim", LOL.
Good to hear from you buddy!
It is said that some speak because they have something to say; others, because they have to say something.
The hostess was the latter.
At work I encounter weird people like that often. They talk to you as if they've known you quite some time as though they don't get
where the boundries are.
Strange
Kevin
Aye, it seems a lot of people you don't know will ask you about your hair...and somehow it always ends with "How much to cut it". I've had $500 placed in front of me to cut it (10 people chipped in $50 each). I told them double it and i'll do it...although i still won't. I've been growing my hair for about 4 years, and it's gonna take a fortune for me to cut it. I hope a lot of people are the same way.
I shouldn't say that. i hope people will still stand their ground when offered a fortune :p.
I have to say some people just have no manners.For one thing this waitress is an employee of a restaurant and she right out of the box pisses off a customer.Ha nice way to expect to see a big tip at the end of the meal.Instead of money I'm sure you can offer up a nice verbal tip that will last longer in her memory banks than any sum of money:)HE HE. Oh well some people just don't get it.Oh yes and your hair is just awesome so there!
Mark
It's entertaining to think of comebacks, but in the end, the best comeback of all is to totally ignore rude comments. It carries the message that their comment was so worthless that it did not merit any comment at all.
Bill
Yeah, you're probably right. I tried to keep my response pretty easy going but no response to such a question would be like an effortless slap in the face...especially to someone who is supposed to be acting in the interest of customer service.
"If you have to ask, you can't afford it"
I'll remember that one, thanks!
That is kind of weird. A waiter obviously does not know you, but when she saw your hair, she was kind of interested. If that happens to me, I would respond to her "17 months" for the first question and "I will not cut my hair" for the second question. That never happened to me by the way.
Regardless
You're not alone!
A politician in Germany was in the news this week after a cheeky reporter asked him if he'd be willing to shave his beard off; the pol said: maybe for a million euros.
http://www.bild.de/BILD/news/politik/2008/05/03/beck/bart-ab-oder-dran,geo=4434572.html
That's a good level of beard commitment. :-)
In general, you'll get more negative comments from women than you will from men, because women(and I'm talking hot ones in particular) believe they can say whatever they want(as I'm sure you've had to have noticed). And the reason why is because they know most men, like idiots, put up with it. The best thing to do in this situation would have been to bust back on her in some way about herself, but not showing her you were doing so to get back at her. You wanna come off real. And also, at the same time, never give the satisfaction that a comment "got" to you. I'd be willing to bet she was attractive, right?
Actually I get more positive comments from women as well so I'm not sure how that works out.
She wasn't particularly.
Being a performer, I have many things said to me. They kind of go in one ear and out the other. The same way I receive people who want to tell me from the bottom of their hearts how much they enjoy my performances, is the way I recieve people who make remarks about my hair. With people who want to express things to me, I just answer them politely and pretty much keep on moving. I have so many things said to me I kind of forget them 3 seconds after they are said.There are all kinds of people out there who say all kinds of things. Who can know their agendas. I pretty much don't let it touch me good or bad.
Todd B.
Being a performer, I have many things said to me. They kind of go in one ear and out the other. The same way I receive people who want to tell me from the bottom of their hearts how much they enjoy my performances, is the way I recieve people who make remarks about my hair. With people who want to express things to me, I just answer them politely and pretty much keep on moving. I have so many things said to me I kind of forget them 3 seconds after they are said.There are all kinds of people out there who say all kinds of things. Who can know their agendas. I pretty much don't let it touch me good or bad.
Todd B.
Don't know how I clicked on that twice sorry!