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I had another new longhair experience last night that I thought I would share. I found it humorous ... but that's just my point of view.
I had just finished a meeting at our local public library and was sitting outside on a bench waiting for my wife to pick me up to go to my daughter's dance recital. I was pretty much self-absorbed in my thoughts about the meeting I had just left. So, this caught me off guard.
I noticed this woman driving VERY SLOWLY past my bench in her mini-van with a biggest, strangest grin on her face. Thinking this was just a weird thing, I passed it off with no further thought. Within a few minutes this same woman walked passed my bench and said, "Beautiful day to be sitting outside, huh?" (strange smile increasing) I agreed and smiled back politely, though thinking it a bit too cold because of the incoming rain storm, and because I was in a thin shirt, shorts and flip-flops.
She was a woman in her forties. I'm a man in my forties. I noticed the strange grin on her face again and put two and two together. The grin was an "I'd like to eat you up." type of grin. I guess I hadn't experienced it in so long that I forgot what it meant. Before I could put my guard up she blurted out, "How long have you been growing your hair?" This question immediately put me into defense mode because usually it's followed by "You should cut it." So, I quickly braced myself and answered, "About one and a half years." But, to my surprise her next response was, "It looks really good on you. And I really like the goatee. They're a great combination on you." Again she grinned like she was looking at a ripe juicy strawberry covered in chocolate and batted her lashes. I said, "Thank you." ... There was an awkward silence ... and she walked away. - The end.
The whole experience left me feeling refreshed, sexy and glad as all get out that I'm growing my hair. I told my wife about it ... and she wasn't as impressed as I was.
DavidH
I can't imagine why... XD
Haha but seriously great story and congrats. That's about as good a compliment as you could possibly get.
Thanks! I agree.
Some of us could use her phone number. LoL
If I see her again I'll get her number for you! LOL
lol thats awesome David, ive had random women say my hair is long and beautiful makes ya feel good inside and a sexy man lmao good story !
Thanks!
Hi David,
What a cool story, and thank you for sharing this with us. It is moments like this that make the journey to long hair that much sweeter! It sounds as though your wife may have been a bit jealous, lol!
David (one of many!)
Yeah, She would never admit to it though! LOL
Hi David
I sometimes wish that people would appreciate the fact that I am growing out my hair a little more. But since my hair is still have yet to touch my shoulders, most people don't pay attention.
My friends that I went to school with, on the other hand, is actually amazed and imporessed that my hair is long, since they were used to seeing me as a short hair. There are also a couple of people that I see often that said things like "you need a haircut". When they say that, I take it as a joke, and I do not find that joke funny.
The only person that have an issue with about me growing out my hair is my dad. In fact, he was the one that made me get a trim for my cousin's wedding in February. I did not look as good after the trim, since my hair became thin and flimsy. I tend to go into "defense mode" when I see my dad for this and several other reasons, which does not involve long hair and I have reduced the time I spend with him.
Regardless
I understand. I have felt the same about a few people in my life. It's sad.
Perhaps if you settle, for yourself, the reason for your decision to grow your hair, and explain it to your dad, he'll understand and support you.
DavidH
Hi David
It's Regardless again.
My dad said that I can grow out my hair if I wish, but he said that my hair will grow left and right, rather than up and down, since my hair is somewhat wavy. It is when things like weddings, or any event that requires me to look nice, then my dad gets involved with my hair, and then I regret it after the event is over. My dad may not completely support me, even if he understands the fact, simply because his mind is "set" and he is not very flexible on pretty much everything.
Almost all the other people that knows me actually like my hair or at least find it acceptable that I am growing it out, although they may make a joke about it.
I am going to be very strict about growing out my hair from now on and not listen to other people if it sounds negative.
Well, it's quite clear your dad doesn't care about your presentability at these events for your sake. He cares about himself, and how he will be thought of as a parent if he has a child that fits whatever brand of ethnocentrism he espouses.
In some cases, parents may be doing this subconsciously, or at least not fully realising that they're just being selfish. Try to take the issue to him, and show him that he only cares about his own image as a parent, while as a parent he should actually be caring about what your feelings are. Try it at your own risk though. It will either improve the situation, or make it worse by angering him (telling people the truth that they know but repress does that).
Good luck,
derf26
Let me give you some advice ... from a father (of teen agers).
The best way to get your dad to come around to your thinking is to have an adult (no attitude or yelling) conversation with him.
1.) Start off by telling him how much you appreciate and respect him (give him some examples so he knows your serious).
Appreciate him = "Thank you dad for ... (taking care of me, working so hard, wanting the best for me, etc.) "
Respect him = "I remember that time you told me to do "such and such" and I didn't follow your instructions. Now I wish I had because ... (I got in trouble later, it cost me extra, etc.)
2.) Next, ASK him to try to see your side of this issue (hair growth). And, ASK him to help you find a way to meet in the middle without losing your desire for longer hair. My guess is that he was around during the 1970's or 80's and might ACTUALLY have some good advice for you about how to fit into his vision for you at special events, without cutting your hair. This may involve gels, sprays, tails, etc.
I think it all depends on your approach. When my daughters come to me with a sincere desire to work out the situation without anger and drama, I'm much more ready to listen and cooperate.
Give it a shot and let me know how it works.
DavidH
Great story man. I love it when that happens! LOL Good stuff
;-))
While your wife got jealous about it remind her that sharing your experience with her should build trust and make her feel good that "her" man is good lookin'!! Ask her if she'd rather you be ugly instead... lol
Take care,
Tom
We've been married 20 years. We understand each other better than anyone else ... enough to laugh about these things together. "Not being impressed" was her way of making me realize that "I AM her man." I know she has a jealous streak, we're both jealous ... silently ... in a good way.
Well then congrats are in order for having a great wife and marriage! If we could all be so lucky.. ;-))
Maybe she thought you were bill bailey?
If only. Thanks though.
What a refreshing story David! How fortunate for you she had the courage to give you that nice compliment. There's probably more out there that are "secret" admirers. Good for you!
Bruce
Thanks! I think you're right about that. If only they'd speak up more.
Lovely story and great reading!
Cheers,
John.B
Thanks!
That's a great story david, it's nice that some people like long hair on men and say it!
Thanks! I agree.
Cool story David, but beware of flirty women in mini vans.
lol
Kevin
LOL! I take that warning to heart.
"I told my wife about it ... and she wasn't as impressed as I was."
HA! I love it. Every thing about this story is great. Thanks for sharing and a virtual pat on the back for your getting noticed POSITIVELY for having LONG hair. (A welcome change from the silent 'acceptance' or outright criticisms some of us face.) I am happy for you, mate!
Shawn (Mr.Crow)
Thanks! I'm glad I could share the event with you and allow you to experience it with me.
Was she hot?
No. Just weird. VERY strange grin.
Greetings David, now that was a good story. Of course the woman was trying to pick you up and she loved your look...woohoo! No matter what, it is a nice ego boost. The end! Yeah, I guess your wife was not as enthused. But this is a good story for all of us to hear, so thanks for sharing. Very seldom do I get positive comments and I've been growing for about 25 months now..
Cheers,
max
Thanks! Well let me give you some positiveness. You look great!! The hair and the body look great together. I've been trying to get my body to look like yours. It's not easy.
Hey David, thanks very much for your "positiveness"! Highly appreciated.
Cheers to you,
Max
I've gotten like comments and looks, but from the older ladies in my Church! I don't think they want to "pick me up", I mostly get a nice hug from them. Neat story David.
Say David, how long is your hair?
Frank
It's now below my shoulders. I need to update with pics but my camera is not working. As soon as I can, I'll post pictures.
Hahaha, yes, the sweet old ladies at church. It really wouldn't be as interesting without them though, would it?
Joshua
your wife should be happy she's got someone who's still attractive. i'm always flattered when people check out my boyfriend.
now get that camera working so the rest of us can ogle you! :)
LOL! Thanks for the encouragement.