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Had the talk with my dad, and he don't wanna see me. OH WELL, HIS LOSS!
By the way, I am sure that your dad will regret how he currently treats you and warm up to you. Just give him time. Obviously, when parents get very old, they often rely on their children to take care of them.
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Sorry to hear. Hopefully in time things will work out. Take care
Hopefully your dad won't always feel like that. You tried, but don't let it get to you, we'v all got to live our own lives.
As painful as that sounds you would feel much worse if you caved into him all the time to appease him. I had issues with my dad and didn't see him for years.
In life in general appeasement is never a good option for most situations. People find very quickly that's how to push your buttons and get you to do things for them. Standing up strong and confident in yourself and what you want, people will be less likely to try and manipulate you. Some will still try but as they fail they give up.
I hope all our comments were helpful and although not all that you have heard is easy. When you ask advice here at MLHH you get blunt advice and honest opinions as I'm sure you've noticed. some of us are a bit more blunt than others but we all mean well.
I hope your dad comes to his senses someday as mine did.
Take Care
Kevin
I'm glad you've made the call, and you've got the right aditude now. Keep it up and hope your dad will change his opinion.
Well, gotta agree with some of the others. Although it may be painful, better to stand your ground now and let him know he's no longer in control of your life. Hopefully in time things will work out, but ultimately that's his call. All you can really do is make sure he knows that you're ready to see him whenever he's ready, as long as he's willing to accept you for what and who you choose to be.
I went through a period of almost ten years with little to no contact with my parents because of issues we had, but now we're getting along fine. So hang in there, don't give up hope on him, but stay true to yourself.
Best of luck,
Jim
Keep in mind that as the years pass, more and more of the cards will pass into your hand, and his loss will increase. He will need you more than you need him in time, and there will likely someday be the question as to whether he will ever get to see his grandchildren. That will be up to you.
Bill
Glad to hear you made the call, easier dealt with like that then after investing in a very dissapointing trip you have to return from! Your father will one day regret pushing you away although it will require time no doubt. Took 10 years for my parents to cave in and start acting their age. Be paitient and he'll come around eventually.. Now you can get back to growing that hair! ;-)
Tom
"...Had the talk with my dad, and he don't wanna see me. OH WELL, HIS LOSS!..."
.....his loss indeed ! Still I know that has got to hurt you....take care my friend and share yourself with those that will appreciate you for who you are !
Walter
Very good advice, Walter. Good advice for us all.
Bill
I believe you have done the right thing by not cutting your hair just for your father. If he had any sense of decency, had respect for you and the longhair community, and wasn't such a pretentious jerk he might be worth your time.
Be glad you don't have to see him unless YOU want to.