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Hi Bill S.,
Until now, I've been only a lurker here at MLHH, but I really wanted to write you and let you know some of my thoughts. I think it's terrible that you've been going through so much pain lately, both physical and emotional. I think it's also unfortunate the way you've been treated by a couple of the members on MLHH. Luckily, the positive comments far outweigh the negative, and I admire you for shrugging the negative comments off and continuing to post. I probably would have quit posting on MLHH a long time ago. So I really respect you for that. You are your own person and it seems you have been able to keep the opinions of others in perspective.
My main goal for writing this, however, is to address the whole "Peter and the Wolf" thing. I'm not sure if you're familiar with what is meant by the "Peter and the Wolf" comparisons, but essentially it would seem that some posters on MLHH are beginning to question your integrity. That is, they wonder if you are always being one hundred percent truthful. At times it seems as if perhaps you are making up or exaggerating stories because you enjoy the attention it brings, but please don't take offense if this is not the case.
To entirely dispel any of these suspicions, I think in the future it might be useful for you to include, for example, a picture of you in the hospital when telling about your recent surgery, or to include a link to your band's mySpace page or a video of your band on youTube (not just of a video of you "warming up" by yourself on the drums) when you claim that you are in a band that has just been "signed." Anyway, I'm sure you get the idea.
I sincerely hope you haven't taken offense, but my point is that your life just seems too eventful. People can usually tell when someone is being untruthful and they often feel disrespected when being lied to. I think most people would be reluctant to post these suspicions on MLHH, but I think that many are probably sensing it.
Please, (if you haven't learned this life lesson yet) ALWAYS tell the truth. You'll make many more friends, have much deeper relationships, and lead a much happier existence if you do.
Thanks for reading,
Matt
But if no one can like me for how I present myself, I guess that's just too bad.
And we weren't signed to some major label, it was more of a local thing :]. Anyways, our guitarists (they're brothers) moved to Oklahoma with their mother so it's not really working out.
And if you truthfully want me too, I can post of a picture of my scars.
Personally ... I would rather you not.
Oh please I'd rather you didn't as that takes the biscuit ot at LEAST make it an off topic!
It sounds like you didn't take offense, and for that I am really glad. Take my comments only for what they are worth. Message boards can be a rather inadequate tool for really getting to know people, so there is certainly the possibility that my interpretation was way off base. If that's true, I apologize, but if not, hopefully you can take some of it to heart. Thanks for not telling me to simply buzz off!!!
Matt
Bill, we are more than happy to see share your hair journey and support you, and we DO feel sympathy for your grandmother, BUT just remember this is not 'Dear Dierdre', and please we don't need to see the scars - Thanks!!
Cheers Dave
Hi Matt,#
We all have our ups an downs in life as I have highlighted before in a previous post. If you have an issue with people I'd rather ou say it up front than gloss over it with "a couple of people". I'd like to think that if I was in the frame for blame that someone would have the manners to let me know than to point a general finger!
Thanks,
John.B
I'm not sure where you live, so perhaps there is a culture barrier between us, but in my opinion it is not at all rude to give a general glossing over by saying something like "a couple of people..." In fact, to me it seems less rude to do that than to name names, although that's exactly what I did to Bill S. (Sorry Bill.)
Honestly, I don't remember who wrote what and whether or not I had issue with anything you wrote in particular. I'm sure you remember what you posted, and if you have a guilty conscience regarding any of it, then yes, I probably was referring to you, among others. I apologize if I came off as being rude.
Matt