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Hello All:
I haven't posted here for a while but when I saw the link to the Chicago Tribune article on guys wearing their hair long I thought that it would be interesting to see what women would say about it. I posted the link article on the Woman's Day magazine forum. I was expecting to get blown out of the water but the reaction was quite positive. Here is the URL to the forum thread if any of you are interested:
http://forums.womansday.com/tips/board/message?board.id=2&thread.id=1594487
Plenty of disgusting women on that forum and ime glad my mother dosen't share their mentality.
After reading that forum ime angry now.. i don't care what these women have to say but it angers me when i see things like "any male living under my roof will have short hair". I've seen it happen to somone i know, wanted to have longhair but his mother and father said that as soon as it got long they would cut it during the night..
After reading the two responses to this post I don't want to read the article. I don't like being angry. they are probably snobby stuck up rich bitches anyhow so who cares?
Yeah, I don't like being angry either. I could see myself reading through it and getting all worked up for the rest of the day...
Isn't part of the fun of having long hair upsettng status quo types?
; P
Don't worry about the couple that were negative. Look at the overwhelming number that were positive. Five years ago that post would have been thouroughly trashed on that site. Both the Tribune article and the reactions to it at a Woman's Day forum shows that a lot of advancement has been made.
what you have to remember is 'who is being asked this question?'
I remember a bloke in a supermarket where I lived had a long ponytail. He was told to cut if off and he refused. He took them to court with sex discrimination as the cause. He lost. To me that was wrong. The supermarket said that they had polled their customers to find out what they thought. Myself, my then boyfriend, my mates all used to shop there and we all (males and females) had long hair. Not one of us were ever asked our opinion. So the opinion-survey was skewed because the supermarket picked the kind of people who would answer the way they wanted them to answer.
This is exactly the same kind of thing. Dont believe everything you read in the media. It's skewed, twisted and represents zilch.
imo
p.s we stopped shopping there
"It seems there should be a happy medium. Some have shoulder length and some shaved. I don't care for either. Men should look like men. It's their choice, I guess, I just don't have to look at them. If I had a son he would have short hair and keep it well trimmed and clean."
Most of the comments were positive, but that right there made me a bit angry. Children are not dolls. If I have a son I won't make him cut his hair (obviously), but if he wanted a buzzcut and put some serious thought into it I wouldn't hesitate to get him one.
There were some real prizes in there, that's for sure. But there still was a lot of very positive feedback, something that would not have come from that site just a few years back.
You notice the comment "not longer than shoulder length" I wonder why they don't like it longer than that. Good job they don't decide on hair length rof!
Cheers,
John.B
They would get to jealous obviously ;)
That sounds more like a personal preference, which everybody has. The bottom line on that comment is that she liked guys with long hair.
So glad I don't keep up with Women's Day Magazine.
I like the really important mags in life like The National Inquirer. Just read that an Android was found with two heads wandering south on an east-bound parkway in north-west Brazils south-west section eating a Hostess Twinkie.
Wouldn't that be the Weekly World News? :)
Probably should be or better yet the New York Times. But somehow all the TRUE stuff hits the National Enquirer first at record breaking speed! LOL i,i,i mean it really DOES! Just was reading a few moments ago that scientists have at long last located the grave of "Little Red Riding Hood."
I didn't read the article (I was kind of surprised Women's Day is still around) but I had a hunch there would be some anti-long hair remarks from the women. I figured out a couple of years ago that many women say they don't like long hair on men because they associate long hair with sexuality and the sexuality they have been conditioned to associate with long hair is feminine. When a man has long hair it disturbs their sense of gender sexual roles and instead of trying to sort out their feelings in a rational way, they do what many people do in a situation that they are unaccustomed to being in, they react. But whether or not they realize why they go negative, they simply say something like, "I don't like men with long hair." which while being extremely superficial, is easier for them to say than what they really are feeling, which is more like, "My sense of sexuality feels threatened."
The bottom line, which we knew all along, is that these comments can be ignored, like all anti-long hair comments.
Actually, the comments were much more positive than I expected.
As a woman (yes I am) men with long hair are the ones I notice. Why are you so bothered about this stuff? It's total rubbish. People are conditioned by the society they live in, people also like certain things in themselves. It's part of life.
And forums, media, newspapers are there to sell themselves and they will do so by making up stories of this-that-and-the-other. What you have to think of is whats right for you.
btw I have hair on my legs, according to western media it's wrong for a woman, t's unclean, ugly and (guess what I'm supposed to spend $800 a year getting rid of it) Never had any complaints from men though.. they just like me and most have never even noticed, or they've realised its actually very smooth and silky (better than stubble I have been told LOL)
Think about it. Who has the right to say what's right for you? And what are they selling?????
And who has the right to speak for me (as a woman) in some 'womans' magazine article or forum, without my input or consent. Don't put us females or you in a box. We're all different.
Sorry, this stuff makes me mad, especially if guys out there actually believe it.
blah blah blah... grrrrrrrrrrrrr
LOL
So right and absolute twaddle!
i say anyone of those girls that said they dont like longhairs are just jelous of our awsome manes
I know this is off on a bit of a tangent from the original post, but I remember reading an article about divorce years ago which said (paraphrasing a lot) that as women got older, they were more likely to want to cut their hair short and quite often, within a couple of years after they did so, their husbands were off chasing younger women with longer hair. That kind of implies that men are more partial to long hair than women are.
Getting back to the original topic, I was surprised at how little vitriol there was in that forum because long hair on guys has been an inflamatory topic for decades now. To me, that indicates that even the most militant buzz-cut pushers are mellowing slightly.
I read the whole thing and thought maybe half the reactions were positive. Still, I don't think it really matters. I don't need their approval.
I find that long hair on men can be good or bad. It really comes down to the facial structure of the man. I think that long hair is not for everyone. Currently though, long haired men at my college are the only guys I notice. I still remember waiting for one of my classes and being excited because a guy who had well-cared, waist-length hair would exit the classroom at that time. Sad thing though is that I have friends that tease me for only noticing that physical feature. Looking back, I think my positive outlook with long haired men derived from all the historical films my parents made me watch, all the 60's/70's music my parents played in the house, and the introduction of Japanese animation into mainstream television where I was growing up.
Of course, I can also emphasize with the maintenance of the long hair. I'm currently growing out my hair(belt-length now) and will have it cut when I graduate. (I'll donate the cut too)