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My parents just yelled at me like crazy. I was going to get a small trim tomorrow and was told to print out a picture of someone with the hairstyle I wanted. I printed one of Kevin Richardson. His hair hadn't fully grown out in the picture, but it was somewhere in the in-between stage. Just trimmed into a sort of style.
My dad yells at me for not printing the picture big enough. I tell him to quit getting mad at me, and he says, "You always think I'm mad! I'm sorry, but this has been my personality for 58 years, and I'm not going to change!" (I was born when he was 40.) Then my mom takes his side. She started saying Kevin Richardson looked like a bum and that his hair was "dirty" and "grisly." Then they both lock themselves in their rooms to talk about me behind my back!
I always end up apologizing to them, but they NEVER apologize to me! They'll be waiting a long time for an apology on this because I DID NOTHING WRONG!
Sorry, I just needed to rant.
we all need to rant sometimes. :)
18 u a man ..what u worried what ur prantes say
You should have printed out a picture of Willie Nelson It is your
hair, you should grow it out the way you want.
Do rant. It's good for you...
I used to get a lot of impatience from my mother about my hair when I first started to grow it (you know the sort: "LOOK what you look like - WHEN are you going to get it cut?"). I just ignored it - figuring they don't have a choice in the matter and they will accept me with long hair, providing I didn't *really* look like a tramp.
Don't try to justify yourself - you'll never succeed in their eyes. Instead just defend yourself against whatever they say: "you look like a tramp?" --- "no, a tramp has dirty smelly clothes and pisses in his pants - do I do that?"... "you look disgraceful" --- "no I look fine". ... "You'll never get a job with hair like that" --- "yes I will" (that's a tough one until you actually get a job) ... "do you like the way you look?" --- "yes" ... "hello hippie" --- "hey, man, you know, man, let's have some peace, man"... you get the gist If you stick to your guns without going on the offensive they'll give up sooner or later.
In the end it worked for me (though admittedly I did). My father never really minded (or cared) what I looked like. Since I started getting along with life just fine it seems that all their worries about my hair were totally irrational. I *did* get a place at university, I *did* get a decent job, so where's the problem? My mother gave up and accepted it and now jokes about it as much as I do. I did it by being no worse that any other son would be.
Unless you need your tuition fees paid there isn't much they can do for you. At 18 you're old enough to work. You mother is more likely to accept you as you are.
Hope that helps. Good luck!
Long hair is all about not seeking or needing approval.