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Now, I'm currently seeing a guy with long hair (a bit past his shoulder blades) and have always had a huge "thing" for men with long hair. Now, I'm not looking for dates, but I am curious as to you fellow's opinion on how a girl should go about doing this?
Obviously a female can haunt likely haunts of men with long hair (metal shows, goth clubs, etc) though that's rarely terribly sure fire, and it's hard to talk over the music in such places. So, I'm curious as to what you recommend when it comes to finding and attracting a male specimen of sexius longhairus?
hmm you make a good point but i would say the internet like myspace you can meet good ppl off of or just walking the streets sounds corny i know but hey never know who you might run into lol :P
Hehe, true, I rarely have the courage to tell the random long haired men I see on a daily basis *just* how lovely I think their hair is, hehe. Once or twice when I've been out and waiting around I'll just sit around and ogle ponytails *laughs*
So true it is scary, I always thought they'd think I'm crazy LOL.
Anyway, I met my (long haired) boyfriend on a dating site. That was the easiest way, as I felt strange about contacting guys I'd see at cafe's/restaurants etc. I am curious what guys actually think if a girl does this!
So on that dating site I just stated in my profile I liked guys with long hair (by long hair I mean longer then shoulder lenght) I did still get reactions of guys with short hair (or even no hair), but I sent them a polite message back that I was not interested.
I have been straight to the point about this when I met my boyfriend, that I like long hair and really dislike short hair and that it's something he had to accept of me. Lucky for me that was no problem. But I think it's best to be upfront about it, otherwise it might freak a guy out I think!
Thanks for bringing this topic up!
I expect I'm pretty bad about staring though... I'm probably as bad as guys are supposed to be with women's boobs. I just can't help but stare. My own boyfriend prefers my hair short (as he thinks it looks "cuter") though right now I'm growing it out since i think it ups my "babe" factor to have it long
I know all about that, I used to stare my eyes out, but now I try make sure it's not too obvious. I have no idea what guys think of it, but my boyfriend says that it happens to him a lot that girls stare at his hair but he sees it as a compliment. So there are guys who don't mind.
Poor you that your guy likes to have his hair short, but maybe if you explain what it means to you he would be willing to grow it for you (of course you have to give him heaps of compliments on his hair when he does grow it!)
Oh, no my boy does have his hair long (past his shoulder blades) and has had it long since I met him (he's got lovely shiny pretty asian hair too *sighs contentedly* he just doesn't like me playing with it :(
Poor you! Guys can get annoyed by that unfortunately!
Do what I used to do and just hang out at the mall and see if you can find someone ya like
XD Sexius longhairus.
I don't think it's any different than attracting 'regular' men...
So I have no clue. D: Good luck though. When you figure it out, I've got a friend who'd reaaaaaally like to know. If I have to watch her drool over longhaired guys again, I may kill myself...
Or join in. Whatever.
The local Wal-Mart in my area.
Well, hanging out at metal shows and goth clubs only works if you like hanging out with metalheads and/or goth types. (Not saying there's anything wrong with either, but those scenes aren't everyone's cup of tea). If you don't, any relationship you start is probably doomed to failure.
They work pretty well for me as I'm somewhat into goth, and appreciate metal. Though I think taste in music only tells you so much about a person *hides her extremely pretentious record collection*
Wow, you broke the trend! The question is usually backwards. More along the lines of: "How's a long haired guy to get a date with a short haired gal!" :-)
Try hanging around the coffee bar at large bookstores. If the customers aren't longhairs, some of the staff may well be.
You might find some friendly longhairs at hobby shops or gaming shops. I know some in my area have nights where people gather to play various role playing games and/or collectable card games (ie magic:the gathering, etc). Generally speaking these hobbies are known for attracting some folks with long hair. Anyway, just a thought in case you're into gaming or such.
Good luck in you're quest :)
Ugh, just correcting a typo:
Good luck in YOUR quest :)
Ahh now i feel better.
Hehe, that's served me well in the past, I'm a hardcore pen and paper RPG chick *laughs* I like call of cthulu especially
I'd suggest approaching said guy with long hair and tell him you think his hair looks great.
I swear, if girls would do that, it would greatly help ME!
Because now, all I have to rely on is stares from them. Those said stares can be either of interest, or disinterest. So there's no clear cut answer that way!
If girls would take this step then I guarantee you, there would be world peace. Well, ok, maybe that's pushing it, lol.
Honestly, just be yourself, don't try too hard to get a date with long haired men. Hopefully they will appreciate you for who you are, and plus complimenting on their hair is always a good thing.
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The danger in women who are only attracted to you because of your hair is that you could have a full head of hair when you meet them and be completly bald in 10 years and they may be too shallow to accept what you look like.
You make a good point, though I think what I'm attracted to is the personality that goes along with long hair (individuality, caring about their appearance, usually liberal politics) though the hair itself is undeniably a turn on. Obviously if I loved a guy with his hair, I'd love a guy without it (not that I wouldn't miss it, because lets face it, I would) but lucky for me I seem to be attracted to guys who lack a familial history of balding (it's the weirdest thing, I never check up on it before hand, and yet every guy I've dated, all of whom have been long hairs, have been from families that don't go bald)
This is a very difficult topic, but you know it is kind of like a preference: if a guy is only attracted to women with big breasts no one will say that he should be attracted to women with small breasts. Or if a woman falls for guys with brown eyes, no one will attack her for that. But when it comes to something like hair, it's suddenly something 'bad', while it is just a preference.
People forget that physical attraction and love are 2 seperate things, you can love someone but not be physically attrackted to them anymore. But you wouldn't leave that person for that. That's the same with the guy who has long hair and goes bald, maybe the woman who was attrackted to him and loved his long hair, still loves him when he's bald, but maybe isn't necesairily physically attracted to him anymore (maybe mentally yes). Anyway, maybe it's not such a worry as there are solutions for these things nowadays.
Now of course it's not all about the hair, a guy can have long hair but be unattractive to a woman, or he can even be the most gorgeous guy in the world, but if he's a mean guy, who likes him?
But for some women long hair is more then just the look. I have noticed it is much more accepted when a man admits that that he only likes long haired women then when a woman admits she only likes long haired men.
For me it's simple, I just don't like short hair. It can look good on some guys, but it wouldn't attract me. Which I think is fine, different people have different tastes, so what does it matter?