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So there's this snobby girl in two of my classes that keeps harassing me about my hair and how much I look like a girl. I've put up with it but today in my last period when the teacher wasn't looking she used her fingers to make a shadow of scissors cutting on the projector and then smiled in my direction.
So while we were waiting for the bell to ring at the door I positioned myself so I would be at the door with her. As we were walking out I swung my head and smacked her in the face with my hair. This itself isn't that big a deal, but when I was 50 feet from her going up the stairs I could hear her screaming the scariest most frustrated sounding scream I'd ever heard.
Just thought I'd share.
I can understand and appreciate how frustrating this girl's behavior must be, but escalating the situation by getting physical with her probably wasn't wise and certainly wasn't honorable. Indeed, in my opinion, it was pretty cowardly of you to essentially "sucker-punch" a girl just because she's been teasing you. If you manage to avoid getting your butt kicked--or your head shaved--by her friends on the football team, my advice for you would be to just man up and ignore her in the future, as retaliating against her just proves that she's able to get a rise out of you and control your behavior.
--Val
I wouldn't call that a "sucker-punch" at all. It's more along the lines of someone telling you that they don't like the sound of knuckles cracking, so you crack your knuckles right in their face. It's not violent at all, just annoys and grosses the person out. I applaud him for doing that, because it's comical and doesn't really hurt anyone.
Another fairly hard one...
I generally agree with the people who say to ignore her, but I have no authority to say that since I never could. It is easy to get under my skin, or at least it once was. People would say "ignore them", and I just couldn't for some reason. I think I imagined I could somehow turn them around or get them to stop, as if years of teasing couldn't teach me otherwise, as if it weren't patently obvious that these people weren't worth my friendship. The idea that ignoring them would get them to stop seemed like utter nonsense to me, but there's a real technique to it and it doesn't work immediately.
What I'd say is: Try to take control of the situation. If they say your hair makes you look like a girl, the best response is, "Sucks to be you, then." No one was there to put it to me quite that way--I pretty much had to learn it on my own (though I do remember one friend of mine in eighth grade who gave me a pointer or two). Let them know it's their problem, not yours.
The scissors movement is harder; that could be interpreted as a physical threat. I really don't have an answer to that one besides "Don't take it seriously", which is the key to ignoring it. That was a hard lesson for me to learn, because I always wondered if I should take it seriously.
I suppose the hardest teasing to deal with is the kind that involves touching or "tweaking", because it's not hitting, so you're not allowed to hit back. How do you get people to stop that without escalating or telling the teacher (who has no reason to believe you)?
I agree with Val. You escalated the situation with your action. Your best bet would be to just ignore her as best you can.
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Splat
For the most part violence is not the answer. If it was on purpose that is violence. Who knows perhaps she secretly likes you, it wouldn't the first time a woman picks on someone when she really likes him.
Bullies are hard to deal with espeically if they happen to be female. But my best bet would be to leave her alone and ignore her. By doing this she knows she can control you.
Harassment is just what it is and people who do this really are bullies. I suppose you could retaliate and the next time she does something like the scissors action, do a buzz-cut action back and point to her
And if you get comments like 'you look like a girl' laugh (dont look at her) and just say something like 'yeah, right and you look like an ugly girl, one who fell outta the ugly tree and hit all the branches on the way down..' (sarcasm always gets to bullies!)
OR better still, any further comments or stuipidity dont even answer just YAWN, stretch and ignore her completely - that will let her know that she's not bothering you