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I bid my fellow long-haired brothers farewell. I cut my hair short yesterday, I regret it completely. I can't really give you a reason why I did though I can give you a few reasons that influenced me. It just hit me that I cut 5 years worth of hard-work and pride to a 'fade'. I just got fed up with all the slurs, maintenance, and hassle and I wanted a change, but it was not worth it. I feel like part of the herd now. I look around at envy at guys with long hair remembering how I had hair nicer than them only 48 hours ago. I hope you guys would let me stay in the community. I am not ruling out growing it out again, and if anything can comfort me its knowing that with all my knowledge i have gained the hard way I can make it look better and grow it out faster. For anyone thinking about cutting it, do not! I'm sorry I let u guys down.
My thoughts are on the one hand you'll get a lot of sympathy from users. However you will also see some frustration in replies by others. We do accept that not everyone will be a success story and not everyone is a dedicated longhair for life but sometimes it does feel like we're wasting our time with some people.
Be prepared for some criticism as well as sympathy.
As far as your remaining in the community you still have your longhair experience and regret of cutting to contribute. You can encourage others in that way. No issues there and I will say thanks for not posting a after pic of your short hair. We can visualize that and would rather remember you as you were.
Hopefully you'll regrow it someday.
Kevin
Why oh why!
Such a great shame and a beautiful head of hair. Long hair is easy to maintain and I've known about this community for 10 years and I have no reason to give in!
If I fancy a change I'll try a different shampoo!
Cheers,
John.B
PS...I'm sure there will be some more "fluffier" replies!
I have to say its a real shock to me that with such beautiful hair how could you even think of cutting it.I further would think after having longhair for around 5 years you'd be used to what its like to care for it and as for others comments...who cares!
Fortunately for you I don't feel like beating up on your decision as you already acknowledged your mistake. I also know of another great longhair here who did the same thing but eventually regrew his hair better than ever. However you don't sound totally committed to starting over so who knows.I agree with Kevin that you still participating can be a good thing as you do have a wealth of experience on growing hair and the after effect of loosing it.Thanks also by leaving us with an image of you with fantastic hair to remember you by.We can live without the hair cut pic.Hopefully you fulfill your desire to regrow your mane.Good luck to you my friend.
Mark
What a shame to destroy a cool mane!
When I want a change I put it in a tail, a braid, part it different, there is a lot you can do. I might even even put it up in pig tails, go into Wendy's and demand a free burger. Cut it? never.
Having got that out of my system, I chopped off about 4 or 5 inches once when I was in a foul mood so I know how you feel.
"Part of the Herd". Exactly, sheep get sheared. One of my main reasons not to cut mine is to be different. If everybody grew their hair I would still wear mine long because I rarely ever see two longhairs with the same kind of hair.
It won't take long to grow back if you start now.
Paul
Hi Camilus, so sorry that you cut all that wonderful hair off, I'm sure you felt you had good reasons at the time, but I think you are still a longhair at heart so you should stick around. No critising from me...just sorry you put yourself though this. You'll be a longhair again...don't worry. You'll only get support from me brother.
Cheers,
Max
PS for now enjoy the low-maintenance. :-)
Hey, I did the same thing myself, back in Y2K, on the first day of Summer of that year...
I learned a lot of extremely valuable life-lessons out of having gone through that particular experience, though. MANY lessons, in fact, --- too many to name!
I'll name a few highlights , though. Here goes:
1) Beware of impulsive, drastic, mood-based decisions: they can cause deep regret, and an even greater sense of loss and grief, --- and, in some sense, many, MANY years years to repair the damage (as well as, physically-speaking, the return to "normalcy" - lol)....
2) "Easy to cut; hard to grow!" (a direct quote from a fellow-longhair who made that statement to me, immediately after having seen me for the first time with my hair short)...
3) If you want to cherish and protect something that you love, it is best to have a full COMMITMENT to it!!!
4) When it comes to issues about what makes you happiest within your own body and your own sense of personal identity, it is crucial that you learn how to ignore all other opinions!
5) Physically-speaking, it is just hair, --- just "protein strands"; but, to most of us here, hair is also very symbolic and deeply meaningful in more ways than at first meets the eye, including.... Throughout history, because of its capacity to constantly regrow, hair has been viewed as having a powerful parallel with holding within itself the very seat of life itself... Hair also helps us keep track of our own personal life's history! These statements are true, whether referring back to ancient writings from earliest Biblical times, or even as recently as our modern prose or poetry of today.
All is not lost, though. Your hair is growing, even as I type this reply!! It's totally up to you, now, as to what your next chapter in your own hair history book will say, though... In any case, you should feel totally welcome coming here to MLHH anytime you wish, --- it's just that most of us here tend to prefer hearing all about a return to loooooooooooooong hair history, rather than boring us with too many short tales (lol)!!
- Ken in San Francisco
I'm sorry to hear this, but at least you learned your lesson and if you grow it again you will never cut it short again.
What a sad decision indeed. You had such magnificent long hair.........the best! But please remember, what's done is done and now you KNOW that you have lost something that was very precious to you as long hair was a part of who you were. (I can relate as I once fell for a buzz cut and afterwards felt so sick you would never believe.) NEVER AGAIN! EVER!!!!!!!
But let's look at the positive side as what's done is done. Now you KNOW what is right for you and how it makes you look the best as well as feel inside about yourself. Mistakes like this happen all too often, and about 90% of the time there IS regret afterwards.
A brand new beginning awaits. Embrace the Awkward period and find enjoyment all along the way of growing-out a fantastic mane
once again. Next time this won't happen again. Such is life and how we learn, and learning the hard way though it hurts the most is the best way to REALLY know.
With all best wishes-
Justin~
ps: Now is NOT the time to beat yourself up. The curtain will rise once again and who knows, next time may even be more glorious than the first.
I'm sorry to hear you cut your hair. It was a great looking mane of hair there. However the positives coming out of this experience is that you now know how much your long hair meant to you and often when we no longer have something that we once had we can realise just how special it was. If you do decide to grow back your hair you might end up with better hair then before from knowing how to look after it from previous trial and error experience when you first grew it out. And your still young enough to grow it back out again.
Yeah, your hair looked great,
imagine how great it will look when you grow it back out the second time with all of the stuff that you learned :D
Best wishes,
Josh
I had the exact same experience and i do feel you. Our hair was really quite similiar in that I always wanted to see new pics of your progress but we all make mistakes as have I.