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As I was paying the bill at the check-out counter yesterday, this big bossy woman in the queue behind me said in a loud voice to her friend she just didn't know what the world was coming to these days and how much she disliked long hair generally.
Looking directly at the girl behind the till I said just as loudly I'd heard on the news that buzz cuts for some women can definitely enhance their sex appeal.
She nearly choked....
THATS CLASSIC! LOL!
Good job!
ha ha ha ha. nice job. :)
I feel sorry for someone who equates "what the world's comin' to" with men who have long hair.
How moronic can ya get?!
Good job shooting some back at her!
She must have always lived in a box where there are no other people.
You could always offer to report her parents to the police for child abuse.
I liked your comment to the nasty woman. But I think I would have confronted her directly. I would have turned around and looked her right in her eyes and said "I don't appreciate your nasty remarks. Would you now like me to comment on YOUR appearance?" I understand you used humor to diffuse the situation and put the woman in her place. I just think I would have used a more direct approach. The reason being, someone like that needs to understand if they make rude comments to people they will be confronted.
Waist of time, if you are going to turn around and get a flusterd over some stubbern chick, atleast say something a little more effective..
That statment you said would only arrouse laughter or a smerk..
no offence.. Im sorta tired
No, I disagree with you. The woman at the checkout was trying to be mean not funny. I think it is important to confront someone like that directly. She is a bully. Her only intention was to purposely try to make someone feel bad for no reason. Like all bullies, she DOES NOT want a confrontation. My point was she will get one everytime her or someone like her picks on someone. I don't think it is a waste of time.
I agree with you all the way on this one Austin.
Personally, I don't care what anyone else thinks about my hair, after all, they are entitled to an opinion, right or wrong. I'm also not bothered about what people may say when I'm not there...they will do it anyway.
Okay, friends and familiy are allowed the odd jibe and I can take the "joke", but any open and unprovoked insult made in my presence by a stranger is a different matter.
These people always need dealing with in a very firm and direct manner. This may take the form of simply telling them to p**s off and mind their own business, or sending them away needing a premature appointment with their dentist.
We longhairs already face discrimination, and a lot of people expect us, just because we have long hair, to be rude and/ or unruly...or even outspoken.
In public, I allow anyone watching to see that I handle stuff like this with class. Rather than attack back, I make a comment such as "thank you for your opinion, and unlike you, I'll show some class and not comment on what I think of your appearance".
This serves the purpose of getting them back, while at the same time not attacking them, but leaving them to feel personally insulted.
The longhair comes off looking classy, smart, and not rude while the offender looks like an a$$.
Being mean or confrontational, in my opinion anyway, only helps to serve the negative stereotype some people have of longhairs.
Yay I know one finnish word.. though i think I spelled it wrong.. storry of my life..
Er what.. oh yea..
Sorry about what I said, I didnt mean to get you upset.. [this is where you say, im not upset] and you probably arnt. but to me you seem a little tence, and that is no way to win an argument. People will play you like a naked ken doll of you replyed with heated remarks like that.
Who are you addressing this to? Can't be me! I didn't see anything in anyone's remarks to get upset about.
No, I am not tense nor am I upset. But when I say something I stand by my convictions. You are misinterpreting a strong opinion with me getting upset.
Again, I disagree with you. Telling someone that their behavior is wrong is NOT unclassy. Everyone has a right to stand up for themselves. I dont think most people think longhairs are on drugs or are mean. The people that do are not going to care whether you didnt say anything or not. I would have mentioned the woman's appearance to show her she would not like to be made fun of when it is her. It is a taste of her own medicine.
By the way. I think it was wrong of you to say that I didnt show class. I was always taught to stand up for myself. When someone is wrong or acts like a bully, there is absolutely nothing wrong with telling that person off.
I agree. When people (other than family) make bad comments about my hair, I never make a joke or start talking bad about them, I simply tell them that I do not appreciate their remarks and something along the lines of what you said. People seem to think that because I have long hair (well actually I'm in the awkward stage) that I am some idiot living in the streets who's on drugs and has no education, I enjoy proving them wrong. (I'm only 16 by the way)
Thing is folks when I now see her at the check-out I can't stop spending a fortune on stuff I'll never need because I get THE most warm and friendly smile every time !
It's turning out to be the best opportunity I've had in years ;-)