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All I have to say is that I'm disappointed that you all would judge someone before even asking for the full story.
I put 4 years into this company (not a lot but that's still something!) and well, I come from a single parent household. My mom is working two jobs while me and I younger brother can go to college without having to worry about going to school full time and working full time too. When we go to this store, we don't buy any of the products the company makes, we only go for tickets to area attractions to take a break from things (which isn't even all that often!). When we can save 15 to 30 dollars a ticket for something ($45 to $90 dollars total!!), that helps. This is why my friend understands where we are coming from. Now, he won't get into too much trouble, I asked him this!! Friends and family are allowed to shop in this store, as long as the employee is with them. He leads a very active life outside work and this seemed like a good way to where we can both have our cake and eat it too.
Getting tickets there while not working for the company might be wrong, but who's it really hurting? If anything, the company is still going to make money off what we purchase, which the more my friend makes for the store, the better it looks for him at the end of the year. What's the harm?
So, with this being said, I shouldn't have to justify my actions but I felt as I must defend myself. Now, I'm sadded by your actions, you shouldn't judge people when you don't know their reasoning. And now, I bid you all a fairwell, I will find another site to ask questions, that maybe isn't so judgemental.
I will say this site has helped me and I thank you all for everything you've done for me to this point. I'm sad that it has to end like this.
Shane
When posting on online communities such as ours you will from time to time get responses like the ones you got. People in general throughout their lives will get criticized for some of their actions by their peers. If you want to respond saying we shouldn't be judgmental and I'm taking my marbles and leaving, well that's your choice.
My suggestion is do as I would do take it in stride don't get all upset. I may not agree with all my critics but I'm not always going to argue with them especially if they have a point.
You could say something like. "Hey guys I see this looks bad to some of you and all I can say is it's not as bad as it seems. Without writing a novel I can't draw a clearer picture but I'm really not a bad person etc. etc. Bottom line I want to keep growing but need to hide it temporarily."
Now having said all that it's still BS. Sooner or later you will have to make some sacrifices somewhere down the road. I ask do you really want long hair or is it just a passing fancy
do you think?
If you choose not to participate in our forum any longer than I wish you all the best in growing your hair and life in general.
Cheers
Kevin
I'm glad that we have helped you...bye then!
Sorry Shane if you feel that way as I don't think the criticisms were meant to be mean spirited.Val was just making a point that if you no longer work for a company then trying to take advantage of the perks and possibly getting your friend in trouble is wrong.OK, so there was more to the story so maybe knowing that he would have said something different.Anyway sorry that you feel the need to leave this board but remember life is full of criticism so you'll ultimately just find it elsewhere.Just take the good with the bad as that's what life is all about.Take care and good luck with whatever you do.
Mark
Always a shame when a member decides to leave the board especially under such circumstances.
In life you are always going to be Judged by alot of people
rightly or wrongly, you do Have to learn to ignore such comments, especially the wrong ones, If they are right and you know so, it may touch a nerve and force you into making changes,Or maybe you dont care at all what people say.
but if you were to post such a thing, to stop people judging you wrongly you have to post the whole thing in the 1st place so the whole story is told, then the comments may of been different or not.
I Personally would never Judge anyone (Anymore) over anything good or bad, as I Have no right to be such.
Only one person can Judge you at the end of the day (And Will do)
and thats God on the day of your Judgement.
"For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."
Matthew 7:2
That being said, Judging others is human nature, and untill you've changed if ever (been born again), it will always happen.
By the way, I Respect everyones comments, and opinions, its good to debate and disagree from time to time.
Also I Respect religions and beleifs, wether I Beleive or not.
from personal experience I Chose mine, and the Truth has set me free!
and I Have to say that was an excellent post by Val previously! in the original post a bit further down!
Right back to the Hair Posts lol :op
A bit of trivia: Shakespeare's play, Measure for Measure, gets its name from this Bible verse below...
So Mr Shakespeare was influenced by the good book eh!
Seems so John! thanks Matt, i didnt know that, infact i confess i didnt even know of the play! :o/
Well Will has written a good few plays of merit and well worth reading and enjoying.
Hey Shane,
I wouldn't knowingly buy anything from some place that discriminates against us unless I had to for some reason, but I understand why you did it and maybe they deserve it.
Nonetheless, it's incredible that you are so thin-skinned as to just leave due some negative feedback. Val's response was not that harsh, I thought it was nicely put and sorta funny and you did set yourself up.
If you want to see some harsh responses look in the achieves for "Longhaired Christians". Some of those made me pretty angry but I didn't leave. I've made some friends here and I know it would be my loss, no one else's.
I have nothing against you but it is kinda childish to post like this and leave. I know you'll be lurking.
Good luck anyway,
Paul
Ahemmmm!!... "Judgemental?" And WHO is the one passing judgement *now*??
Personally, I find "the full story" a bit to complicated to even want to bother asking any further questions, --- I mean, it baffled me enough as it is! I have trouble enough figuring out my own day-today events in my own personal life, --- so, why am I supposed to come here and sleuth out the plethora of complications in anoher's life on an on-line site such as MLHH? Gimme a break!!
And, please please please skip all this drama about bidding us all at MLHH a fond fairwell, and save the tearful handkerchiet-waving instead for the starving students from the Acting Academy... That kind of drama is for another website!
YOU are the one ending it; not us. As Paul so eloquently said, "Good grief!" Trust me when i say this: if you're serious about growing your hair, you'll be back.
In the meantime, though... Happy Lurking!!
- Ken in San Francisco
Well said Ken...waving my hankie!