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Im new to growing long hair, and even though I am just started on my journey, I love how it is growing thus far. I know I saw nervous to tell my parents about me wanting to grow my hair long. Surprisingly they were very accepticing to it and have helped me along the way. I have not told too many of my guy friends yet but my friends that are girls love the idea and can't wait until I have hair just as long or longer than theirs. My goal is at least mid back. I was wondering how did your family and friends take you growing out your hair?
I will only say this: they will LEARN to like it.
Le fin.
Nervous to tell your parents?
I think i remember your pic you ain't a kid right?
But my friends noticed big changes you might not see a certain
crowd for a while then all of a sudden you meet up and you've spurted 3 inches they gasp like you put on a wig. They tend to mentaly freeze your hair growth from the last time you met.
That always amused me and gave me a boost.
I play in a bagpipe band which prides itself on its para-military appearance.
When my hair started getting long, it was still OK because I wore it in a bun. However, the color sargeant, who was in his 80s, joked and said that he was getting concerned about the length of his hair. I responded that I was concerned about the lack of his hair. We both laughed.
Nice quick-thinking comeback.... [grin]
n/t
My mom at first HATED the idea, and constantly asked to me to cut. Then slowly her opinion shifted and now she likes it a lot. It just takes time, as was mentioned earlier they learn to like it. :]
Funny story. My baby cousin who last saw me two years ago just saw me at my graduation and started crying because she didn't know who I was, my hair had grown that much!
Same thing happened to my friend though, except he had long hair and chopped it all off and his little baby cousin didn't know who he was really.
When I started, my hair grew past my ears and my dad FORCED me to cut it. So I started to grow it again, and this time I was over 18 years old so he couldn't force me anymore, and I moved out. SO he tried to pay me to cut my hair, he offered me $100. I said hell no, and now im 21 and my hair is about mid back.
Boy, I wish I'd had your balls back when I was 18. (My parents were paying for my college, and I figured if I left home the boss would make me cut my hair anyway...)
Nice to see ya stopping by man, i seen you were new but never got a chance to see any posts. Maybe you should do an introduction if you have and i missed it Damn!
Memorial Day, I went to my friend's house for dinner. He had a digital slideshow going on his TV that had pictures including everyone at the party, and the pictures went back about 10 years. So there were a lot of pictures of me with short hair. A kind of consensus seemed to develop that I looked better with shorter hair.
Eh.
Could be that I was thinner, and yes, younger in those pictures from 7 or 10 years ago. That was certainly true for most of us! Or that my hair is still in the awkward stage--although I seem to be emerging from that, finally.
Either way, it bothered me for a bit, but hasn't made me want to cut.
Chris
. . . not that you need to justify growing your hair out.
But (!) it helps people accept and move on if they have some way to understand the why of it. People fear change. If you're changing something about yourself, maybe that will force them to change - or force them to face something new that they don't like.
I run with a very conservative crowd (I'm a Catholic clergyman...), so when people approach me it is usually to TELL me to cut my hair. As a result, I have a several easy answers to the why, depending on how I judge they will react/listen/accept what I'm saying. Sometimes its as simple as 'I want to grow my hair out' or a more in-depth conversation about what it means to me.
But have something to offer the people you're close to, so as to give them as much opportunity as possible to understand and accept this change in you.
Good luck.
- Deacon M
My parents and in-laws seem to have accepted it, although that doesn't stop them from kidding me about it now and again. And my oldest brother loves to mess with me over it, but if he wasn't messing with me for that, he'd just find another reason. It's just that kind of relationship, and I pay him back in full measure [grin].
Having done a cross-country move about the time I started growing it out, I have my "old" friends and my "new" friends. I don't see my "old" friends in person much, so don't really know what they think, and most of my "new" friends accept it as the way I've always been.
I can relate to this, I've had a similar experience. My dad used to have long hair back when he was my age (back in the 70s, I think), so he gives me the odd joke about it. My sister seems to be getting jealous, as I'm coming up to her length, and she's afraid I'll overtake her!
I've recently been away on exchange, so I've been surrounded by people who've never known me with short hair, so they just accept me (except the guy who shaves his head, but you can probably tell the reasoning behind that one!) But it should be interesting when I return to my main group of friends back home, who won't have seen me in coming on for 9 months. But of those guys, my female friends have been the most supportive, I'd say.
Hi there, at first both my family and friends assumed that I just forgot to get a cut and branded me as a tramp and scruffy, then as it got longer they saw that Iwas serious and now after three and a half years they leave me alone and hopefully like it. Many of my mates and collegues have said it looks good on me. Anyway I ain't cuttin' for anyone!!
Cheers Dave
In my 20s, it's been an constant drama... before 27, with my parents living just two miles from me, I never came far beyond the awkward phase, as they never stopped insisting on getting a haircut. But it helped a lot when they moved farther away into the countryside twelve years ago, and after I passed the age of thirty, they pretty soon became accustomed to it - and nowadays, at almost 40 (this year in July!) they even accept my long beard (and Germany is not too friendly towards long beards)! Yes, they grew much more relaxed and tolerant with age...
See you in Khyberspace!
Yadgar
Watch out for the paranoia police!
The what? Here in Germany?!?
No, there are not any anti-longhair right wing conspiracies here around, as Germany is, 40 years after '68, already almost traditionally a longhair-friendly country - you'll find the occasional longhair (albeit the sharp-dressed yuppie variety) even with hardcore conservatives like the Landsmannschaft Ostpreußen ("fellow countrymanship of East Prussia"), and Christian fundamentalists thumping on 1 Kor 11,14 are just a tiny minority here.
Other than a stint in the navy and a few other occassions, I've always had long hair...
Most still just accept it, but i get a few snide comments every now & then...I just ignore it or flame em...
I started growing my hair, and my parents didnt really mind. my mom actually liked it she said "I like the way your hair get when it grows long and curley". my dad doesnt really care. in fact my hair grew to about 7-8 inches then my sis cut her hair to about the same length. atm we have the same length hair.. kinda funny looking at us XD