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I have been trying to grow my hair how to shoulder length hair and have been reading the longhair faq which has been very very helpful. But I have a question...
In the faq the writer says "But forget trimming." and "You should be very aware of these two items in case someone suggests you neaten your hair by trimming, because trimming is not on the list. Not only is trimming not on the list, it runs counter to both the items that are."
Now I understand what he is saying but here is my question. My sides of my head the hairs are down to the bottom of my hairlobe as of this month. The back of my hair is split up. The top layer reaches to the bottom of ear but the bottom layer and the lower section reaches to my lower neck and tends to curl outward. So I look like I have a Mullet.
So what are my options? I do not want to run counter to hair length but I am also not a big fan of mullets. I guess I should mention that I have no split ends of any kind. *wife is jealous of that fact".
Should I trim the lower and bottom layer until the top layer lays over top? Or if I don't cut it will my top layer ever reach over without the bottom layer hanging out below it along with my sides uneven?
What does most who grow to be long hair due regards to the mullet "effect"?
I would have asked the writer of the faq but he no longer wants to be contacted with regards to hair and points questions to this forum..
One way to avoid the mullet "effect" is to change the way you wear your hair. What I did was to comb mine straignt back (and use a fair bit of gel). Combing to the side etc is also effective - anything but letting it hang down, or parted in the middle of your head.
AndrewB
Never had that problem. Mullets hadn't been invented yet when my hair was that short!
That FAQ was written with info from this forum for the use of this forum, and the current users of this forum will give one a well-balanced variety of up to date answers to questions, and they will give answers promptly. Meanwhile, the now-retired author of that FAQ is likely to be out smelling flowers and chasing butterflies and rainbows, sometimes for weeks on end, and unlikely to write you about your hair when he's out sitting in a field of flowers watching the wind blow about his.
Bill
The contrast between man and nature in that picture is amazing, I've seen it before but I still love it.
~ Dave
Glad you like it, Dave!
It speaks to a different contrast, relevant here, as well. My career was that of an electrical engineer, and I designed systems in many of the buildings you see there. When I left that career, I did not go down there and blow up all those buildings; I left them there for people to enjoy. On the other hand, I don't field questions about my work back then anymore.
Similarly, when I've moved on from projects on the web, I haven't erased all the pages if I've felt others might still find them useful. But I don't field questions about them anymore.
The older a man becomes, the more ex-projects he leaves behind. Life to be enjoyed at its fullest is a chain of varying and exciting experiences. No experience remains exciting if you linger at it too long. So you move on. Younger guys who've never had but one job may not see this, and people who have not been on line as long as I have may not see that life on line mirrors life off line in this respect. But they will.
Another thing that comes with years at life is an understanding of appropriate immediacy. I remember more than once reminding people at work that the building being built would still be there tomorrow, that the office was not an ER room, and that if I wanted to work in that environment I would have become a doctor and I would have been making a hell of a lot more money. I maintain a genealogy site for our family, and while on a monthlong vacation I've had people get all twisted out of shape because I would not add their great grandfather, who died a hundred years ago, to the family tree until I got home. Hell, he's been dead 1200 months without being there, 1201 months instead is not going to make a bit of difference. And I've had people write back after 24 hours having not gotten answers regarding the hair page, and the truth is, the dude's hair is not going to grow but half an inch in the next friggin month. Yeah, we CAN send electrical signals around the earth seven times in one second, but do we really WANT to live our lives at that speed?
Nah, I'd rather sit and watch the flowers grow. For years I resented all the money the government was extracting from every paycheck, but now the government is paying me not to work, and I'm enjoying every minute of it while not feeling the least bit guilty, because, Dave, I've paid for it.
The locale of that picture is one many have seen, by the way. Lots of car chases and car commercials have been filmed on the curvy road that twists about that patch of grass and flowers. It is Twin Peaks Boulevard north of Christmas Tree Point, the tourist vista point on Twin Peaks, right in the middle of San Francisco. It is less than a mile from my house, and I walk up there often.
The photo also has additional significance here. It was taken on the first day of spring. That life is about rebirth and looking forward to future growth is the real topic here. All those buildings are "over there" now, while I now choose to be "over here".
Bill
Hey Bill,
I have to say that beard of yours is getting very impressive. I bet all those Billy Ray followers could not do that.
Cheers,
John.b
Most recently I've been tagged as "ZZ Top" and "Cheech and Chong". Never mind than in each case what comes to mind are TWO PEOPLE! Has my beard grown to be bigger than life? The ZZ Top guy would not take no for an answer, and the Cheech and Chong guy was really drunk, but both of them were a real hoot.
Bill
Amazing piece of text, I really like it.
Lately I'm thinking a lot about life and other things, so that's why I like it so much.
Should I trim the lower and bottom layer until the top layer lays over top?
Yes.
It would be useful to see a pic of your hair. :)
I've seen you posted a pic but your hair is all combed back so we can't see how it looks like. I suggest you take a couple of pictures of the back,the sides and the front of your hair so we can judge better and tell you what's best to do.
I think you shouldn't worry,it's never a problem when the back is longer than the front. The problem is when it's the opposite! I'd say let it grow in peace. :D
I'd recommend waiting a little while. At least a year of growth before getting any trims. Then only trim the back to avoid the mullet look. It can make a world of difference, but only trim the very back.
Lol, there seems to be a lot of "mulletphobia" from first time growers. I remember just a couple of weeks ago someone else asked to same question.
I personally don't think your hair will grow into a mullet. Just let it alone for about a year or so. With a mullet, the sides are much shorter than the back, much shorter. The back would have to grow twice as fast to get that big of lead.
Anyway, what the hell's so wrong with a Mullet? Some idiot give the style an awful sounding name and I bet that guy was not>b a longhair. (More than likely, a Hair Nazi.)
My first reaction to seeing a mullet was, "Damn, just grow it out already." Later it changed to, "Well at least part of it is long."
Mulletproof Paul
(More than likely, a Hair Nazi.)
More precisely a Hair Nazi who wanted to preserve his post-punk street cred!