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I know some of you have had this problem before, but the other day my girl-not-dating-friend was saying how I won't be able to get a job since I'm planning on re-growing my hair. And then she says that only guys who can pull off long hair should have it, which apparently isn't me. And that comment doesn't even make sense cause she also said that long hair on guys is gross and they should keep it short. And this conversation happens at least 1 or 2 times a week. I know that doesn't seem like alot but it adds up fast. And then I raised my voice with her which I never do, even when she yells at me on a regular basis for no reason. Then she got upset and was in a bad mood for a while, but I think she got over it. But I felt kinda bad for yelling at her even though I know I shouldn't. Do you guys think I should?
P.S. sorry for making this post so long.
Sounds like to me this really isn't a "friend" you should have.
Wow, much 2 much 4 mee 2 figure-out.
DEAR ABBY, ANN LANDERS, MOMMY DEAREST: r any of u still around???
"... she also said that long hair on guys is gross and they should keep it short. And this conversation happens at least 1 or 2 times a week."
She's a FRIEND of yours, you say?
Ditch the woman. She is a control freak who should learn to respect what you want and not try to impose her views with a mixture of untruths and frankly insults.
It is kind of wierd feeling like you are not from earth when you got home.
Birdman
My little friends says dump her goats are much better.
Your little friend is no fool when it comes to a guy getting the needle and being "snowed" by his dearly beloved(?). Good advice little friend. :-) Welcome to the board and we shall look forward to updates as I see you have just started your journey. Just remember..........Don't get a trim!
If she truly cares for/about you, then she should be able to accept who you are as you choose to be, not how she wants you to be. If she can't, then she's nowhere near the friend you may think she is. It's one thing for a friend to nag you over something that's an actual problem, like a drinking addiction that's going to end up hurting you, quite another to nag you over a choice of lifestyle that hurts nobody.
Your certainly better off without her and what sort of friend is that and certainly not down the aisle material!
Cheers,
John.B
Erm, well. You may yelled with right at her.
A REAL friend NEVER, really NEVER NEVER NEVER (!) tries to change such things on you. Well, I'd say people who don't accept you how you are - (with long or short hair - wich shouldn't matter in any kind of relationship) arent worth bein called "friends".
Greets,
Jack.
Hmmmmmmm,I'd say short of a nag she certainly sounds like a Dingbat!LOL.Time to go shopping:)
I myself would tell her to go find a skin-head. Tommie
I can understand her concern about you getting a job, there are quite a few narrow minded employers out there. I can even understand her dislike, even disgust of long hair on guys, to many women it is a big turn off. What gets me though is how she insults you by saying long hair won't look good on you when she's already biased. I have friends that absolutely can't stand long hair on guys, but they accept me because they're good friends. It might be a point of conversation or they may tease me but it never comes between us. If she's that against you being who you want to be, then I'm afraid I'd have to let her go as a friend.
She doesn't sound like much of a friend if she can't accept you for who you are. There was an excellent post made earlier by Justin which explains the concept of long hair perfectly.
Here's something you can do: If she does not like your long hair, shave her head off bald and see how she likes being a skinhead. Then stay away from her. She's not a friend if she judges you like that.
Matthew
Since she is bringing this up once or twice a week and she obviously doesn't like you because you have hair...HELL YEAH! I'd yell at her!
"GET OUT OF MY FACE WITCH!!!!!!!!!!!!! and stay away until you can learn to accept me for who I am and not try to change me into your little puppet."
(actually I was thinking of a more appropriate word other than witch, but I think you get the idea...lol)
Daniel
Hey Brett!
I understand your situation, and I am not going to make any mean comments about your friend, but I do agree with the other MLHH members. If your friend cannot accept you and is constantly insulting your hair, then it might be time to end that friendship.
I mean, my friends at school(all short haired), occasionally tease my long hair and crack a joke about it, but I can take it and its nothing too serious. But in your case, I think you should have a serious talk with your friend, and if nothing changes then end the whole thing.
Luke
P.S. It would be very funny if you did shave your friend bald and posted a pic! LOL!!!
I like this idea, tell her you think long hair on girls is gross and offer to shave it off for her ;). She might feel a little differently then.
I know it would be hard to give up a friend but she does not sound like a very good friend so I would let her go her way and you your own way.
She needs to learn to look at your heart and not your hair otherwise she is no friend
Birdman
You seriously need different friends. Comments like this I have learned are from opinionated bigots that one doesn't need in their life.
Dawn
Does she like anything about you? Jeeze! Give her the boot.
Paul
Brett, you are a handsome young man who is done with the "girls" and ready for a real lady.
Time to turn a page...
- Oren
I'm assuming you've seen one of my earlier pictures, LOL. And thank you.
I talked with my friend and she said she would hold off on the negative comments, besides the occasional joke of course. Hopefully she's telling the truth or I'm afraid I'll have to kick her to the curb, and then when my hair gets really long and beautiful, she'll realize what she's missing out on.
it sounds like this is more about her hang ups for guys with long hair than it has to do with you. maybe some time and distance would make her understand that your going to do this and it means a lot to you. after that if she does not see "its about your choice not hers" and the conversation still is about cutting off your hair then its time to find a new friend she cant see you for who you are.
Mike
She sounds like she might be jealous or something. Is your hair "prettier" than hers? Anyway, I agree with Paul....Give her the boot.
quote "girl-not-dating-friend / which apparently isn't me / long hair on guys is gross / this conversation happens at least 1 or 2 times a week / even when she yells at me"
unquote 'who is this person? why are you asking daft qns - look at the above'
DUMP NOW! and get out and get a life with real friends/females