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Please take a look at my pic. It has been 1 year and 8 months since I started growing my hair out. When I started, it was about 2 inches long all over. I am going through a divorce right now and am wondering if I should cut my hair. Just going through a hard time right now and need some advice from guys with long hair. I really like my hair, the way if feels down on my shoulders and all that, but there are just not many guys with long hair where I live. I am one among many short haired guys.
Obviously, you're going through an emotional period, so how you answer your question to your own satisfaction may be different now than at other parts of your life.
Choosing long hair is *always* a decision to visually stick out from the crowd. Maybe you don't need that with the divorce going on; on the other hand, maybe you do. Or maybe it doesn't matter.
Personally, I think it looks good, and you could even just keep it at the length it's at now- it's different without being really different.
Meditate. Imagine yourself having taken each path and search your feelings. Ultimately, the answer needs to come from within, but the board members here tend to be pretty open-minded and will support whatever decision you feel is best for yourself.
Ditch the Bitch....Keep the Locks !!
I like how your long hair looks in that picture. Instead of thinking about how you are in the minority, think about how you are unique! It doesn't matter what other people are doing. Any good friends will like you no matter how you look.
Don't make a quick decision because you are going through tough times. A few people on this board (Ken comes to mind, Bruce too if I remember correctly) can tell you their stories about how they rashly cut their hair when they were in difficult times and felt a change was needed. Afterward, they deeply regretted their decision and felt even more depressed then before! So please be careful.
-Dan
Keep the hair. It looks good. My RL friends tend to have short hair too, but they are broad minded and it doesn't matter. If they objected to my long hair they wouldn't be my friends.
Hi, I think you should keep your hair! I know someone who had hair down to his waist and cut it when he started having marital problems. I don't know why men feel that they need to cut their hair when problems arise, but my opinion is that your hair looks really good and makes you look more distinguised - not like everyone else. I think you should keep it long, but it's ultimately your decision - do what you will be most comfortable with. Best of luck to you!
Karen
Asking a group of longhaired men and their admirers "should I
keep it?" Your going to get the standard answer yes but do what
you want and feel is best. I'll echo that and go further to say
don't go off and think you have to re invent yourself. People
have this feeling that when things go bad in life if they just
change everything (cut hair etc) that will make things better.
It doesn't work
If I may be so bold as to guess she asked for the divorce and
like most forms of rejection it's hard to deal with but take a
deep breath and deal with it and have confidence in yourself you
don't need her to validate you as a person.
In addition if most of the guys in your town have short hair as
in most places then definitely keep it as it makes you unique.
Just a few thoughts
Kevin
I'd second that. It's good advice. Concentrate on what makes you happy now rather than trying to make major changes.
When you're going through a traumatic time in your life, that's when you find out who your real friends are. I'm sorry to hear you're going through a divorce, but hopefully it will go smoothly with a minimum of bad feeling.
If you do decide to cut your hair, give it a couple of weeks before you actually get it done to give yourself time to think it through and get used to the idea. About 15 years ago, I had my hair clippered off. I went from 18" to a No.2 crop. That took a lot of getting used to, and to be honest, I've regretted it ever since. You do actually grieve for your hair - or I did anyway - so it can end up making you feel even worse instead of better.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
Not much more I can add that Kevin and Viking didn't already cover.They really nailed it and I would seriously rethink a haircut.Loosing length won't solve anything or improve your situation.Good luck to you my friend.
Mark
To answer your question, no actually we both agreed to the divorce. We were so unhappy we decided to just go for it. We changed directions. We started out 10 years ago together but people change and we certainly did. I wanted to go and do more things since my kids are all grown and she wanted to just stay put. There were a lot of problems to deal with over the years. It has been difficult to say the least. I guess I am questioning everything about myself and wondering where I went wrong. But I appreciate your help and words of encouragement. And thanks to all on this website. You guys and gals are great.
Years ago if you had to go to court on a traffic ticket you would always shave off your beard before appearing before the judge. My son runs Charter Fishing trips in Maui. His hair was to his waist. When the price of fuel went sky high. he sold his boat and cut off his hair so that he could get a job with another boat owner. He still regrets cutting his hair. So Surferdude if you don.t have to cut it don't do it for yourself. Tommie
Don't worry about other people. How do YOU feel? If it gives you that self-confidence and specialness, keep the hair. If it causes you to self-doubt, wear and hat and see if that changes how you feel. My guess is that it is not the hair that is causing the squeemishness, and as soon as you address the root cause of that, you will start healing -- probably with a long and healthy mane. Thoughts and prayers are sent your way.
Hi and welcome! Your mane looks great and I think the reason you shouldb't cut it is the fact there are just not many guys with long hair where you live. :) It's original, plus your hair really does look good. You should even grow it longer!
-Andrea
Great looking head of "surfer" hair!
Be you, be unique - keep it for sure, and let that nice hair be part of a new chapter in your life.
BTW, Some years back we had a regular user here who went by the name Surferdude. When I saw the name appear again, my initial thought was "Well, look who's back!"
Welcome to the board,
- Oren
Of course you should keep your hair! Lol. And grow it longer.
Does it bother your ex? If it does there's another reason to grow it out.
Seriously though, if you like it then that's the only real reason you need.
Paul
Without question, the choice is yours. But, since you are looking for feedback, I say "no way!" You have a great, youthful look. Also, both women and men say that a long-haired guy with a killer smile is impossible to resist......so capitalize on your advantage, man!
Your hair looks very good, wish I had hair like yours!
Definitely keep it.
and that makes you unique and interesting!!!
Personally (she says) it looks good and, as has been said... the smile makes you ever gooder!!!
NO! Please do not cut it. I've made that mistake many times in the past and when you get older it takes much more longer to grow your hair out. Sorry to hear about your divorce, hope things go well.