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I never really posted here often, so I doubt anyone remembers me. About two n a half years ago I started growing out my hair, but under *constant* pressure from my sisters I finally decided to cut it last winter. I always had medium length hair and it grows faster, so my hair was *just* about to start resting on my shoulders when I caved and cut it. Last time I got my haircut was September. I honestly didn't plan to regrow my hair out simply because the awkward phase [and even after] was such a blow to my confidence because it was weird for me to have long hair, and most people bashed me for it. But I was lazy, and just didn't get a haircut.
I still don't know if I'm going to try and grow my hair out again, but if I do my goal is for my hair to just to rest around the end of my shoulder blades. I'm not quite as hardcore as some of you, who just never cut it! ;]
Anyways this picture was January 24th, just wondering what everyone thought/advice if I decide to try and grow it out again [specifically harassment from my family!].
Also I'm pretty concerned with my hair being overly long at the back, the last time I got it cut I actually planned before hand and so my hair was roughly the same length all round, I've kinda got a mullet [honestly not the best picture so you cant really tell] and thats bothering the hell out of me. Guess thats part of the awkward phase and I should just ignore it though, eh?
Hey Will, welcome back! However I honestly don't quite remember you but still as long as you thought of us here that's all that matters.
After reading your post I would have to say if you really aren't 100% committed to being a longhair then your journey could be a rocky one.I say this because you obviously have some negative forces working against you,particularly your sisters.If you are unsure of having longer hair yourself the kiss of death would be everyone around you being flat out against it too.Fortunately you will not get that here as I and everyone else certainly support you in achieving your goal.Ultimately it will be up to you whether you succeed or not.Your pic looks great and I think long hair does suit you:)
Anyway I wish you the best in your next attempt and anytime you are feeling the urge to give up be sure to stop by here first my friend.Looking forward to future progress pics!Cheers
Mark
To be honest, I think your hair looks great in this picture! In my opinion, it's not a "mullet" (I hate that term...) unless your hair on top is super short (like 1-4 inches), and from the looks of it, you have bangs and/or longer hair on top. So I don't think it'd be that noticeable, unless you chop the top off.
Best advice I can give you is regardless of how you actually feel, don't give any indication to your family/friends/acquaintances/random people that see you that you have any doubt about whether you really want to grow your hair. Even if you doubt yourself, don't show that to them that way they can't take advantage of your weakness and pressure you. Also, you don't have a mullet. It would probably be best if you let your hair grow out naturally, all one length looks good for some mediumish length hair styles but if you are going for shoulder length you probably want the natural v shape. At least in my opinion it looks way better instead of a straight line at the ends of your hairs.
Good luck
Hi Will,
One of the hardest lessons I've ever had to learn in life is the value of staying as far far away from negative, non-supportive people as possible, -- even if that means staying away from those people in your life who SHOULD be "closest" to you....
I realize that, being your sisters, it's quite possible that you might still live in the same house with them (which would make it hard for you to get away from them very easily). Just do whatever you can to at least be SCARSE: spend as little time with them as you can get away with. For example: certainly there's no need for you to intentionally "hang out" with them, especially if you have more fun and supportive friends that you can choose to spend time with instead!
By staying as far away as possible from people who are full of negative energy, people who think it their "right" to always be making their unkind, highly-opinionated critical comments, this is the only way that you will ever be able to find out for yourself how YOU really feel about your own hair length and style choices.
Trust me when I say this: freedom from being around these kind of people is the greatest gift you will probably ever give yourself towards having a life full of joy, peace, and sanity! If your sisters truly do LOVE you, then they will eventually come around to learning their own hard lesson in life... that to be a loving relative and genuine "friend", one has to EARN respect, -- rather than to 'demand" that others have to listen to their fowl hogwash!!
- Ken in San Francisco