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I suspect many of us have experienced this, and maybe deal with it better than I do, but I sometimes still find it uncomfortable to be the only man with long hair in the room. We go to concerts or plays or things where it never seems to even occur to me how few men in the auditorium have long hair.
Last night I went to a party at my wife's work, and in addition to not knowing many people there, which tends to make me uncomfortable, I noticed I was the only man in the room with long hair. There were probably 100 people there, and I didn't notice anyone staring, and I did find a table to sit at where I knew the people, but in certain situations I do feel the "odd man out." It isn't enough to encourage me to cut my hair, but sometimes it is noticeable.
A few years ago when I started growing my hair out I did notice a few people with whom I interacted regularly began to treat me differently. Seems like there are still lots of people who like to judge a book by its cover.
The pic is of me in 2008 with flowers given to me by a group that appreciated my speaking out on a social issue at the time.
I wouldn't worry about being the only longhair in the room as sometimes its cool being unique:)If people treat you differently now then in the past just because of you hair I'd have to question what kind of people they really are.A normal person wouldn't care a wit that you changed your appearance in such a way.What is it to them anyway.Do they feel jealous!HE HE HE:)Anyway great pic of you with the flowers as they go nice with longhair too.Cheers
Mark
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I do understand your situation, but I don't feel discomfort if I am the only longhair in a room. It has happened to me many times without me even being aware that I was the only longhair. In addition, I am nearly always the person with the longest hair even in a crowd of 20,000 people.
See the photo and you will know why.
Scott
Very nice.
That's an impressive head of hair. I doubt I'll ever have the patience and dedication to care for my hair enough to get it that long.
Nothing wrong with being the odd person out in the room and just show the rest of them that some of us can grow our hair out. You know how they like to label and box us etc!
Cheers,
John.B
I never mind it. Actually I deal with it on a daily basis, I know very few longhairs in real life.
I'm the only longhair at work and everybody is fine with it. It's accepted that my hair is a conversation piece and there are never any bad comments about it, jokes all the time but no criticism.
I do like being the "odd" one.
Once in a while I'll run across some idiot who feels he has to let me know how much he is displeased by my appearance. But it may not be the hair length, it may be the hair color, it may be my goat-tee, it may be the shirt I'm wearing. Who knows? A causal "is there a problem buddy?" usually fixes it. I guess it's not their fault their mommy's didn't teach them manners.
Paul
I attend many meetings, and although my hair isn't that long by MLHH standards, I am often the longest haired person in the room. I used to feel a bit self conscious at first, but soon developed a pride in being the only longhair, and am now so used to it that I don't even think of it any more.
I have often been the only person not wearing a suit in the room, but then I have a (female) cousin who wears jeans to weddings and funerals, so at least I have a style guru.
On the other hand I was at a fund-raising spagetti supper a couple of weeks ago to raise funds for team uniforms.
I was surprised that there were 2 other dads there who had long hair as well which doesn't sound like much but for rural Ontario that's quite a few.
AndrewB