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Hey all I'll be going to the salon soon to get stuff cleaned up and whatnot and I was wondering if I should get my split ends trimmed. Literally almost every hair site ive been to states that trimming split ends is important if you're trying to grow your hair out, and that trimming enables your hair to grow longer. However I remember a discussion on the site that talked about if you are going for length and your not at the goal length dont trim at all.
Whats a guy to do? I want my hair to look nice and great without split ends but I also want to reach my goal length and trimming will but me behind several months. Should I stick with my original goal of growing my hair past the point I want and then trimming so i am then at the length I want and the splits are gone?
Darkmetal,before you head to your friendly neighborhood salon I recommend that you check out this video.Should be required viewing for all us longhaired guys.Hope the link works.Cheers
Mark
When you get to the link please select the video on the right hand side with the above noted title.
Mark
I want to thank all of you very much for your input and comments:) I love Justins videos on youtube and Ive seen all of them! Ive decided not to get anything trimmed and wait until june or july and get a better gauge of my length then. Again thank you all very much! Heres a pic of me currently!
Hey DarkMetal,
I just love the black on black look in that pic.Add in the shades and its black on black on black.lol.I've always been a fan of black hair like yours:)Lookin' great!Cheers
Mark
Now I am really scared to go to the salon! For those who haven't seen this, here are my long haired songs for this topic. One goes by the music of to Astronamy Domain and the other is to Run Like Hell bothe by pink floyed.
Birdman
A Longhair's Nightmare
snip snippa clippa, a second scene a fight between the barber you once knew
Floating down, the hair, around around to the icy floor beneath
Nice curls, wavy hair, strait hair, blond and black, white and brown
Headless hair can frighten you.
(instrumental music in between)
Blinding scissor, clippa clippa clippa, good bye hair
falling down all the way passed the barbers lair
curls and wavy hair floating around and round the icy barbers chair to the floor below
curls and wavy hair floating around and round the icy barbers chair to the floor below
Run Like Hell
Run run run run run run run run
Run run run run run run run run
You better fix your hair up in your favorite ball cap
with your button down lips and you deceiving eyes
With your empty smile
And your long haired heart
fill the bile rising from your long haired past
With your nerves in tatters
and your protein strands shaking in fear
And the scissors cutting down your door
You better run
Run run run run run run run run
Run run run run run run run run
You better run all day and run all night
And keep your long haired feeling deep inside
If you are visiting the barber just for a friendly chat
you better hide that hair well out of site
if they catch you with long hair of any type
They'll sent your hair back to mother in a cardboard box
You better run
Hairball.
I think this is the link you want to put up?
take care!
// Jim
Hair cutters are about cutting hair. They're not going to tell you to let it grow. Do hairstylists usually have long, nice, thick, natural & shiny hair? No, theirs often is frizzy & short. When I go in to get mine cut, once a year, and have three inches taken off, there used to be this one heavy set short haired woman there who would get irritated with me & try to argue that I needed the ends cut more often. I'd rather not spend the money. They would all be in rapture over how long and nice my hair is at first though.
I had a female friend with hair down her back, and she said if she was in a hurry to let it grow, she wouldn't cut it for two years, and it was ok, she said. (Her mom was always trying to get her to wear it short, and she tried it a few times - it freaked her out & she grew it back.) Once it was where she wanted it to be, though, she would get the ends trimmed once a month or so, and a few times they'd do this thing where they'd take sections of it, twist it, then put a flame close to it quickly to burn off the frizzies - or she'd just pull them out herself sometimes! Heh.
O.O, that can't be safe can it?
- Apparently it was. I know though!!!!!! She said she was freaking out too! But they didn't get too close to the main hair though, they'd run their fingers over the straight twist, bringing the frizzies out a few inches, & just burn them a little. She only did it once though. It made her too nervous. :)
She thought it wasn't really worth it.
Hi there,
Well I think my comments are well known in the subject....eh trimmers! I'm sure some of us with a 12 week standing appointment will!
First of all the first trimming your hair to make it grow longer is an old wives tale. Either you want to keep growing the length or keep it the same.
As Mark says to and check out Justin's video.
Lastly if you do go to a person that trust and know. We've had so many horror stories here before.
Cheers,
John.
I recommend you see Justin's video too. That was quite an incident which I'm sure you would not like happening to you.
Also be a bit cautious about telling parents or friends of the stylist about wanting to go trim your hair especially if they do not like your hair... once I went to trim my 6 inch long hair but my mother had told the hairdresser from before to shave it all off, so I found out. I can tell you I was disappointed and very irritated about that happeneing, and haven't been to a hair stylist since (or told anyone about trimming my hair).
"...trimming split ends is important if you're trying to grow your hair out, and that trimming enables your hair to grow longer."
Who advises you so? How knowledgeable is that person/site/"hairopaedia"? Does he/she, secretly, want you to cut your hair, or at least never to get it authentically long? The trimmings might not exactly stop your hair from growing but certainly enough they will prolong it like hell (as a result of which, eventually, you may lose your patience and decide on your own to have it cut anyway). And perhaps most important: do you really believe hairdressers are that much into lush-haired men and women (men especially)? Their mouths would not be full of the copycat "shorten your hair as frequently as possible" phrases if they were, would they?
"Whats a guy to do?"
Whatever he and he only desires, disregarding the others' attempts to manipulate over you. The bonus, however, is often really achieved only after a guy has set down to living on his own, i.e. separated from his parents...which I don't think should be far future for you now...
"Should I stick with my original goal of growing my hair past the point I want and then trimming so i am then at the length I want and the splits are gone?"
MY SUBJECTIVE PIECE OF ADVICE is that you don't trim your hair and let it grow with no obstacles. Thus you will both preserve your precious time and energy (and money) and have a great head of hair soon enough.
Beauty is what you decide to create and stick with, not what you are imposed.
Wise words my friend :-) What do you think eh trimmers!
Hey DarkMetal
Healthy hair should come first before goal length, in my opinion.
That way you grow it out and by the time you get to goal length you don't have to hack off a significant amount which will make you wait long to get there again.
Go in for a trim, tell them how much you want off and be firm.
Well if he takes his hair early on then he shouldn't need to trim it and can shoot for his goal length right away.That means no hair dyes,straightening or curling irons,etc.
Again, if he doesn't abuse his hair there is no need to hack off anything.
But with extreme caution.Just ask Justin and again I refer you to his youtube vid!
Mark
I totally agree DarkMetal. I'm in the process of growing mine out as well (it's just reaching my shoulders now). I started going to a salon only after my wife had urged the suggestion (I WAS reading alot of the posts here that put the fear of God in me about salons, but I'm glad I stopped paying attention here.) My hair at my first visit was just covering the back of my neck. I swore however, that if the first words out of the stylists mouth would be something along the lines of "I think you'd look better with it short", I'd simply thank her for her brief time, and go to the next salon across the street. It's her and her company's loss like that.
It's as simple as that. A stylists refuses to give you what you want (a simple shampoo, followed by an urge to dice and slice your hair for instance), then you simply thank her, and walk off. Remember, THEY WORK FOR YOU PEOPLE! You are their clients, not the other way around. They cater to you, not you to them.
I guess I'm just fortunate. At first I was nervous about the fact that she sat me down and caped me FIRST before asking me what I wanted. But when I told her what I wanted, she went so far as to ask me how I eventually wanted it to look like, along with my goal length. She tells me before each cut how much if anything she will do to it. Sorry to tell you guys, my hair looks great with 8 weeks per visit trims.
It's like any other profession on the face of the earth. You have GREAT mechanics, and you have sorry / lousy ones who do good just to put air in your tire. There are great doctors, and those who amputate the wrong limb. There are great cooks, and those who's dishes rank as cullinary abortions. These are all PEOPLE, just like salon stylists. Does it make it RIGHT? Of course not. But it's one thing to have no control of a situation and have to live with the outcome, or be in as MUCH control as you can before letting that situation get completely out of hand...
Which brings me to THIS. One thing that get's me, is that after watching the youtube video about the "effin' salons...SALONS! SALONS! SALONS! STAY AWAY FROM THEM", I had to wonder why he a.) Allowed someone to practically DEBATE with him about the business that he was willing to give, followed by allowing that same person, who evidently wanted to do what SHE wanted and not what HE wanted, to come even CLOSE to his head (remember, THEY work for YOU!, b.) go BACK to ANOTHER salon AFTER the dreaded hair massacre (I thought we were supposed to avoid "SALONS! SALONS! SALONS!" and just let our hair grow without maintenance until it get's where we want it, and c.) admit how the new stylist is doing such a great job, when the subject of the video was how you should avoid them! (Nowwwww I know why I started listening to my wife and stylist. lol)
Hi Chris,
Perhaps you post an update picture and see how good your hair regime is?
I certainly would not label all salon as bad. I stick to the point that you should know and trust a stylist that will look after you hair and it sounds like you have done very well.
Cheers,
John.B
Nice arm pit, but can't really see much of your hair.
I'm sure it's in excellent condition and coming along nicely, keep it growing.
Kevin
LOL, yes, I agree with you, Kevin! As armpits go, those pits are definitely drop-dead GORGEOUS, never seen a more attractive pit in my life, in fact... Unfortunately, I'm not really into armpits; but hey, a little "diversity" is always entertaining to look at here, if nothing else!
- Ken
So IF you stopped paying attention here then WHY are you here?
JUST curious.
Kevin
That's great you know what you want and have local sources to guide you so then why do you come here?Sounds like all you need is your wife's guidance in regards to hair care.I'm curious too.
Mark