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I was out in a bar with friends in Kent on Saturday night. We were all standing near the door having a drink when this group of women came in. They got served and stood beside us. Next thing I know, one of them's got a hold of my braid and is saying, "I've got a pair of scissors in my bag." Then she stopped and said, "Your hair's so soft. I've never seen anyone with such long hair. How long did it take you to grow it? What do you do to keep it in such good condition?"
One second, I was getting ready to defend myself, and the next, I'm handing out hair advice! Still, hopefully made a convert there.
She was probably teasing you. People tease me all the time. ;-)
I think you're right. There certainly wasn't any malice in her tone. If there had been, my response would have been different - along the lines of, "It's hard to use scissors with broken fingers." Saying that, I'm usually pretty laid-back and try not to resort to violence if I can at all avoid it.:¬)
Hey Viking,
That's a weird situation as I would have pulled my braid in front of me,said thanks for the compliment and walked away from her as fast as I could.Who knows she could have whipped those scissors out in an instant and chopped your braid.Her first comment,I think, really set the tone my friend.I trust you made it out of there with hair still intact.
Mark
I think she was only teasing, but I certainly didn't turn my back on her just in case.
I've often wondered if a braid could actually be used as a weapon... It certainly hurts enough when I hit myself across the face with it playing sports and I remember being hit by my granny's braids when I was a kid. Ouch!
WOW, what a freaky experience! For a total stranger to make that first comment in a public place like a bar is VERY risky in my view, because could be so easily interpreted as threatening.
A long-time friend of mine whose house i used to occasionally sleep overnight at would sometimes tease that she was planning on cutting off my braid off while I was sleeping; but I knew her well enough to know she would never actually do that (or, trust me, I would NOT have dared to stay overnight in her house!!!)!!!!
Maybe this woman just wanted to say a good opening line to have as an excuse to be able to touch your hair; but, as opening lines go, that is NOT one of the "best" ones (an understatement - LOL)....
I think you definitely made yourself a convert, though -- if not also possibly a future date!!!
Take care, and thanks for the fun read!
- Ken
I can sleep through a thunderstorm or fire alarm quite happily, but I'll be woken up by the cat cutting her claws on the scratching post, so anyone who knows me well enough wouldn't try to be stealthy about it. However, none of the people who knows me that well would want to cut my hair - well, apart from possibly my other half, who's tired of hair in the Dyson and being slapped by the braid if I turn round too quickly.
Yeah, after that first comment I don't care what else she was going to say I'd have gotten the hell out of there.
On the other hand. I have these conversations all the time. I've got tons of girls who I very often talk to about hair, makeup, etc. etc.; and 3 or 4 of em who I let do any random makeup, braiding, other styling. But they all know that if you bring scissors into the equasion I'm never talking to you again.
Then I've got the longhairs, former longhairs, future longhairs, and non longhairs who I talk to about hair a lot.
Because I have the 2nd longest of any guy I know (and only by a few inches) and like 5th longest hair of anyone I know, and only guy I know that ever wears makeup, and the only guy who openly accepts any random styles that people want to put in my hair, these things come up in discussions a lot.
And why my hair is so soft asked a lot. I usually find some way to avoid the "I only shampoo it once a week max" answer to avoid the weird looks from the people who I actually DO care about (not many, I probably care about more people on this board more than than ones I know in real life).
On that one I'd say she just wanted to say something but wasn't sure how to strike up a conversation with you. She probably read your expression after the "scissor" comment and decided to change her approach quickly, she liked your hair from the start.
Man, that sounded like a home-run just waiting to happen.
Paul