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Hey All,
I've decided to finally let go, let loose, and let it all hang out.
NO MORE HAIRCUTS! (This was an especially hard choice to make as I have a great love of barbering, and I cut my own hair as much as my barber does. I keep telling myself 'Put the scissors down...it's just that awkward phase...give it time').
Truth be told, I prefer the way I look with a well coiffed pompadour, every hair in it's right place. But I FEEL best with long hair.
Are any of you like this? You don't necessarily look the best with long hair, but you feel like a million bucks?
I relish in the act of standing at the sink, wetting my long(ish) locks, and running my hands through, feeling the weigh of the hair on my neck. Getting my hair soaking wet in the shower and shaking the water out, feeling the hair moving about.
Am I alone here?
Or are most longhairs motivated by the asthetics of it?
Well, I think you're not alone. I don't juste love the aesthetic of long hair but all that little sensations associated with long hair too.
I love swiveling my head side to side and feeling the hair brush across my neck.
Hi EastCoastAdam,
Only occasionally do I miss the well-coiffed aspects of shorter hair (as well as the compliments from others who apparently liked it that way); but after a disastrous short haircut in Y2K, I now prefer BOTH the way I look with long hair, as well as of course the feel of long hair... I've had my hair long for so many years now that I can't imagine going back to short hair ever again; but I do understand the sentiments in your comment, even though those sentiments have faded away a long time ago for myself personally.
LOL, far from it!!! You've come to the right place to ask such a question. As somebody said in an earlier thread, it's like asking the Pope if he likes Catholics -- OF COURSE he prefers Catholics (ROFL); just as most of us here enjoy the feel of hair moving about... (I'm a big "fan" of wind moving my hair about, for example...)....
Having said the above, though, I've found that everyone is motivated by slightly different reasons re. the main factors for their wanting / keeping their hair long. We are all just as unique about our primary inspiration for growing our hair out as any other aspect of our individual differences; but I do believe that most guys here would answer "yes' to your question, above.
In fact, I'm so pro-longhair that I've never understood why in the hell the vast majority of the world's male population ever wants their hair short!!!!
But hey, your thread is preaching to the MLHH choir here (LOL)....
Thanks for your comments, I enjoyed reading them!
- Ken in San Francisco
They are well-coiffed.
I choose life.
Bill
Don't be so bad against short haired man. Most of them are just victims of the society ;)
I'm another second-time around grower. I know I look better with short hair - it suits my face better - but I prefer the feel of my long hair except when it's cold and wet and slaps me on the back after a shower!
I like to play with my hair, especially when it's braided. (Click my avatar picture.)
Thanks for all the responses guys! I'm glad to see that I'm not alone in this! Cheers!
I have a feeling that much of the confusion and lack of understanding directed towards long-haired men is due to the misconception that we grow our hair solely for 'the look'. Many of you just proved that this is not the case.
You hear this type of negativity and confusion all the time:
You LOOK like a girl!
Your hair LOOKs much better short!
Get a haircut! You LOOK ridiculous!
What a shallow pool we all must have come from! :)
I'm willing to bet that if most men (many of whom have never worn their hair long) were able to experience how much FUN long hair can be, our numbers would increase from the dismal 3-5% of the population we are today.
Next time someone asks you about your hair, explain it to them in terms other than looks; I think they'll be surprised, and more understanding!
Thanks again guys, and keep it up! Or down, however you like wear it! :)
What a poetic thread! And how true.
Even in the awkward stage, out of which I am slowly gestating, the feel of my long hair is intoxicating and simply makes me feel good about my body. Short hair has no "feel"; you hardly know it's there. Long hair constantly reminds you of its benevolent presence, like a good friend accompanying you everywhere.
This seems completely apart from the vanity of looking in the mirror and judging that it looks good. Even when it's messy it just feels good. I think those who have never had long hair cannot really understand this.
Most spiritualists preach the virtues of "living in your body", being aware of your body and praising its amazing abilities to heal and take care of itself, being aware of your heartbeat, your breathing, the smell and feel of it. This is commonly touted as a gateway to a higher plane of awareness. To me this is logically contradictory: why would we need to become more in touch with our temporal manifestation in order to transcend it? It would make more sense to simply direct our attention away from the body and toward our inner, more spiritual self. But for some reason it does work out, at least in my experience, that rapt attention to my body translates to a serene, other-worldly experience.
Being aware of and loving my long hair - and the rest of me - is at some level simple vanity, I suppose, but it is much more than that. It is a celebration of my life and my individuality.
-- George
Hi George,
I totally LOVE your analogy here. In Y2K, when I impulsively decided to cut my then waist-length hair short (due to going through a lot of mid-life crisis issues at the time, and thinking I was "ready" to return back to short hair), I remember bemoaning the haircut to a close friend over the phone afterward.
"You're grieving", he said.
"No, that couldn't be: people only grieve over losing other people, not hair", was my reply.
But, my friend insisted that I was indeed grieving the loss of my long hair, and that I was depressed because it -- and as I gradually faced the facts more and more every day, I realized he was absolutely correct.
Now that I have my long hair back again, I can't help but be very aware of how happy I am having it around VS. not. My hair is indeed "like a good friend"... It goes with me wherever I go, and is a part of whatever I'm experiencing at the time and emotionally going through in life, whether good or bad. Even if I was to go bald, and only have 3 hairs left on my head, I'd rather keep them long than cut them short -- that's how much having long hair means to me!
Thanks for your beautifully-worded comments, snakedog, I loved reading them!
- Ken
George,
Did you sneek into my brain when you were writing that post? All of what you've written rings so true to me. Well said! You are the poet!
Thanks so much for your kind and flattering words! I'm bright red!
My friends said that "I could do long hair." Having cut it all at one point, they now express that I looked better with it.
Spiting my mother who wasn't for it was also quite a motivation.
Having to regularly straighten my hair to maintain a professional appearance (my hair is coarse with irregular waves) is a major annoyance that led me to cut it in the first place, but now we have thermal rebonding.
I'm no longer sure what motivated me to grow it out in the first place. What makes me keep it though, is how much fun it is, and the nearly endless possibilities it brings. This week I decided to never have the same look two days in a row, and I'll continue to do so for a while. I have been rotating between tail, segmented tail and regular braid, and just yesterday I added a twist braid to my arsenal. I hope to soon reach seven different styles, one for every day of the week :D
//Sebasthian