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In all honesty, apart from the odd mentions of haircuts back durring the worst months of the awkward stage, the closest I've goten to someone commenting on my hair - besides the people on this site - was a week or 2 ago when a friend of mine asked me why I was growing my hair out. That was seriously the first & so far only time that someone's actually asked me that, and I can't even remember if I gave them an answer or not.
Anyway. I know this is going to sound at least little strange, but there are times that I find myself almost wanting people I pass on the street to give me negative comments about my growing hair. Not because it would impact my opinion of it, or my dedication to growing it, but simply so that I could hear a comment about it from someone not on this site.
Has anyone else on here ever experienced this?
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I get a moderate amount.
Most people give me positive feedback about my hair. It is super long (knee length) and does attract attention.
Scott
Wow, really? Do you think could post some pics in another thread, maybe? I really admire the dedication that someone with hair of that length has, and I really am curious to see what it looks like.
Thanks.
I'll note that Absalom is located where guys with shoulder length hair are common and unlikely to receive comments so long as their hair is in decent shape...you probably could wander around in SF for a long time with unexceptional (good or bad) mid-back length hair without comment.
And given the local societal norm NOT being "All Males Must Have Crewcuts", negative comments based solely on length are less common in general.
What comments I get (at thigh length) are almost always positive (it has been several years since I have gotten a negative)...more, or course, when it is down (and more again when it is freshly preened AND down). But I do get a significant number of comments when it is up in my usual bun...if someone is curious about the actual unbunned length, well, easy enough to pull the stick, show it, and put it back up...because, hey, given male privilege, I don't mind a bit of objectification from time to time.
I noticed a significant decrease in the number of comments and questions I got after I passed the awkward stage, and almost never get any comments now. I think it may simply be due to the fact that the people we see every day are already used to it and it no longer catches their attention. In public, people tend to worry about what other people think about them rather than what their opinion is about others.
I personally have an intimidation factor added to the mix. I am nearly six feet tall, weight over 250 pounds, and wear all black with my leather motorcycle jacket and riding boots. Not many people would feel comfortable even approaching me, let alone offer negative comments.
I know what you mean though. It sometimes feels strange to not get any comments.
Hard to be negative about such great looking hair on or off this site!
Well...
I think many people would agree that real life experiences are almost always stranger than fiction,
but because they actually happen they cannot be denied.
Having said that I can tell you that during the first five
years that I was growing my hair I received not a single comment,
not even one word! It was as if my hair was invisible or something. It was only AFTER I got a trim that EVERYBODY,
including people I did not even know, began commenting
non-stop--and ALL of them, to my surprise, turned out to be NEGATIVE opinions like: "Well, it will grow back." etc.
Do this day I cannot understand any of it. because of
that awful wave of negativity I received back then, I haven't had a trim since. I don't need that kind of grief while I have
so many projects going at the same time.
How much did you have trimmed off when this happened?
Honestly, I know what you mean... I think that for me at least, the issue is that I feel sometimes that people have an opinion or bias that they are keeping in. Sometimes I want them to bring it up just to clear the air. Not in a mean or confrontational way, but just because silence is the best friend of misunderstanding,.
Attention is one of the reasons I'm growing my hair too. Nothing to be ashamed of lol!
How nice for you.
However I'm not growing my hair for the atention.