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Hi, after growing my hair for about 4 years I succumbed to constant pressure from family, boss and some friends to cut it. Although self inflicted it is a devastating experience. Especially as I have always wanted long hair, the longer and thicker the better. On the plus side I now know that I will never cut it short again. I think I know what it takes to grow it and keep it. It's just so disappointing to lose 4 years growth due to my own stupidity. A hard lesson to learn about myself, to figure out what is really important. I had decided that if it means dealing with a lot of rejection, that is just how it is. It has therefore being such a pleasure to find this site. I really appreciate it and it has strengthened my resolve. I am 48 next month and I just hope it grows back.
I'm sorry that happened to you, my friend, but treat it as a learning experience even though I know it's very tempting to dwell on it. It may be a dumb question, but is that picture you posted a before or after photo?
Rich
Hi Rich, before photo, which is why it is so frustrating as it takes a long time to grow
Welcome aboard Lance!
Glad you found our little "oasis" here. We're rootin' for you. Best of luck on the rebound!
- Oren
Much appreciated Oren
I enjoyed the timeline progress of your hair growth. I will be using it a marker to plot my own progress. Thanks
I think many of us know how you feel and have regrets. But the good new is that hair does grow! I'm much older than you and am determined to grow mine back. You're still young, have great hair and the will to achieve, so just have patience. Good luck
IanB
Such people should always be told to mind their own business - in as strong a manner as is needed to make the point.
Hi Lance,
I'm very surprised that at your age people would even have the nerve to criticize your appearance.Usually its the young, up and coming longhairs that take the heat.I'm you age and I can't even remember when someone said something negative about my hair.Who knows maybe they are afraid of me but I don't look mean:)Regardless no amount of pressure would make me waver about my hair as I love having it long too much.I guess I was meant to be a longhair forever;)I wish you the best in your new journey and please do keep us posted on how you are doing...OK?Cheers my friend.
Mark
Hi Mark, and all others,
Thanks for all of your responses and inspiration. I appreciate. I will post updates. The first update I will post will be for 6 months progress, but I think it will only be after 3 years that the beginnings of any real progress will start to show. So frustrating, but unfortunately I cant change what is done, only learn from it. This site has taught me a lot too, I only wish I had come across it sooner. I never realized that there were a group of people who think like I have thought. Sometimes you cant see the wood for the trees, or something like that. All the details, you are too old, your hair is grey, it's not professional, girls don't like long hair, you look better with short hair, etc, etc, obscure the simple truth. I want to grow my hair long! It's that simple.
Lance
Well said Lance. You sound like a true innate longhair, someone who recognizes that having long hair is part of your identity.
Confidence goes a long way. You know who you are and people will see that. The lame, bullshit reasons fed to you why you shouldn't have long hair will soon bounce right off you and may stop altogether as people see that you're not going to change to placate to their whims.
If I could give your post a thumbs up or an up-vote of some sort then I would do so in an instant. Then I would rush to find my roommates' computers to do the same. You couldn't have put that any better.
Good luck in your new hair journey Lance, and you are NEVER too old.
Please keep us updated on you're progress.
Cheers Dave