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in my town every time I see a guy with a girlfriend go by they all look like clones, buzzcutted short hair with a baseball cap on
I get the feeling that these girls like the conformity, and since there are so few longhaired guys around guys with long hair are too different and strange looking to them that they just stay with what they are used to and end up dating guys that all look like the latest ufc fighters with bald heads
I was just reading the responses on this forum too and it got me discouraged: http://tinyurl.com/3verjgx
I hate to say it but most women (not all but most) nowadays are not attracted to guys with long hair. I am not attracted to women with short hair and could never see myself with a short haired girl. Most women are the same when it comes to guys with long hair. It sucks for those of us who prefer our hair long, but that is just the way it is in 2011. But I say dont cut it just for a girl. If you meet a girl who loves you for you and it is meant to be, it wont matter what length your hair is.
Funny thing about that assertion. My girlfriend is attracted to me, but she told me it is in spite of my long hair. She said she got to know the person inside me before writing me off as a flake with "Peter Pan Syndrome".
She would love it if I cut it all off, but knows I wouldn't "be me" if I did. And she loves the man, not the hair. And she did admit she actually likes it now!
Give it time. The right woman will find you and will either love your hair, or accept it!
One more thing: In the Southern US, I've seen women more attracted to long hair than not. Just something to consider.
Are you growing your hair out because you like it or because you thing a girl will like it? Yes, there are some girls that don't like long hair on guys. Apparently a fair number of them hang out on whatever site that is. So what? They're entitled to their opinion, but that's their opinion, it doesn't have to become your problem. As has been pointed out before on this board, long hair actually works quite well as a "girl filter". It tends to automatically filter out the closed-minded women who have some preconceived notion of what their boyfriends should be. Do you really want to hang out with a girl that thinks you should be something other than what you want to be? I know I don't. If a girl can't accept you for what you are, hair included, than you're better off without her. Trust me, there are women out there that like long hair on guys.
Frodo
I couldn't have said it better myself.
How true.
Meeeeeeeeeeee.......!!!!!! My sister, my close friend, my niece.... (Yes. We are out there.)
Your hair - Your choice!
Ian
Most guys like having short hair, and most women like guys with short hair.
A few guys like having long hair, and the women who like guys with long hair tend to REALLY like guys with long hair. By having long hair, you place yourself in a minority. By placing yourself in a minority, you make yourself extremely desirable for women who want a longhaired man, but don't have many from which to choose.
If you want long hair, grow your hair long. The rest is just details.
--Val
What Laura and Validus have said about hair serving as a filter and an independent end in itself are wise observations. A man with long hair serves as a rather potent bearer of mystique, communicating rich spirituality and audacious individualism with the mere presense of his self. You are much more likely to attract women who care about the important things in life, rather than they who seek only strictly worldly things.
“If you want long hair, grow your hair long. The rest is just details.”
IF i may be blunt , i dont care what the hose-hounds say!!!!
There are several reasons why some women prefer (or think they prefer) men with short hair:
Some women just like the look of short hair, or very short hair, or bald men. Each person has his/her own preferences.
Some women believe the stereotypes of long haired men being overgrown teenage metalhead/pot smokers, or rough, crude bikers, and they are not attracted to this type of personality. Sure, there are some long haired men who fit into this stereotype, but most do not. However, stereotypes die hard in some peoples' minds.
Women who are younger, in that stage of their lives where they want to get married and have children, may view short haired men as having more potential to get and keep a good-paying job ~ hence, they may view him as potentially a better provider for a family. (This is also true for body piercings, tattoos, or anything else that is not mainstream/conservative. It seems the higher paying the job, the more conservative/conforming the dress/grooming/behavior standards.)
Some women just haven't figured themselves out yet - who they are, what they stand for, their likes and dislikes. And it is so much easier to just do what all their friends are doing - same dress, same activities, same type of man.
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Do not be discouraged. If someone is going to automatically write you off as a potential friend or romantic partner, based solely on your physical appearance, then they would not make a good friend/partner anyway ~ so view that as an easy way to filter out the most incompatible people right off the bat.
There are a lot of women who LOVE long hair on men, myself included. But I would never get with a man, or break up with a man, based only on his hair. All really good relationships (friendships or romantic relationships) are based on respect, trust, communication, and compatibility ~ not superficial things like physical appearance and materialism. And relationships like that take time and effort, for ANYONE, not just for long haired men! Just stay true to who you really are, don't try to change yourself or be something that you are not just for a woman ~ you will regret it. And remember that all good things take time, for *everyone*, but it is totally worth it. :)
Very well put laura. James/Tampa,Fl
There again, Laura, some of us do fit one or often more of these stereotypes. There's nothing wrong with heavy rock or motorcycles, and pot should be legalised.
However, most women don't like that type of music and think vehicles are only a way to get from A to B, so most of the time there's little or nothing in those interests they can identify with (although of course there are exceptions).
The slightly silly aspect is that short haired guys are seldom into baking and macrame (whatever that is) either, LOL! In short, guys tend to have masculine interests/hobbies, but with longhaired bikers, longhaired music fans, etc., it's visible upfront, which is ironic, given that so many people view long hair as feminine.
I think that's a possible turnoff, because women tend to want guys to pay attention to them and not their bike or WHY, but that short haired guy they fancy may be a trekkie or a dedicated monomaniac stamp collector, LOL!
Well, you are the woman and so the expert here, so you may be right and they may be thinking that bikers are crude and other long hairs are overgrown teenagers. I don't think they'd generally be right, though.
Alun
Laura has already given an eloquent response which I find myself in complete agreement with, so I'll keep it brief:
"Haters gonna hate".
If you like your hair long, grow and keep it long, if you like it short, keep it short. It's about *you*. Make yourself happy first and the rest will fall into place. As others have said, you'll also be happier when you meet someone, if it's someone that likes you for who you are. It's no good to be repressed, and you don't want to be in a long-term relationship (or heaven forbid, a marriage) where you suddenly decide you want your hair long again but your significant other says "No, that's not happening". You'll be stuck between a rock and a hard place. Best to just be yourself 24/7. People are going to be judgmental no matter what. If not your hair, then they'd just find something else to nitpick about. So why worry?
Many women wouldn't admit it, but their secret fantasy is the long-haired bad guy type. They will flirt with who they see as a disaster, as they secretly find him desirable. Women often think they can fix the bad guy types. They see it as a project. But when it comes to choosing the man to settle down with, they want conformity. Clean-cut, professional, stable income, well-dressed; he'd pass for those silly eligible bachelor lists in the gossip rags and women's mags. These are the ladies that glue their eyes to soap operas and Oprah and similar mindless TV.
So, how do I draw that conclusion? Look at the cover of every trashy romance novel on the shelves of your book store or library. Every hunky dude on the cover is some "wild child" with long gorgeous hair and a 5 o'clock shadow or beard. The romance novel hero is 'always' the bad guy to have fun with. Then pick up the latest gossip rag or women's trashy magazine, and check out the latest eligible bachelor section. A photo array of GQ buff guys with the 'classic' clean cut looks. The soap opera good guys look like Abercrombie and Fitch models, the bad guys look like long-haired hippies.
Women can be so fickle. You're better off with a lady who respects your choice to have long hair. I guarantee she probably isn't a romance novel-reading, gossip rag and woman's trashy mag reading kinda gal, She probably has no interest in soaps or Oprah or the rest of the daytime TV drivel. She probably is an open-minded kind of gal, casual dresser, laid-back gal. She can fix either her car, or her computer, or both to some degree. She's fiercely independent, and somewhat of a non-conformist. Kinda like the long-haired male, a rare breed indeed.
haha you are so right!!!
it's like the film The 13th Warrior - the only guy I DIDN'T fancy was Antorio Banderas....