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Looks like the family strikes again. Now, my mother is telling me that she's going to have my head shaved. Just f*cking great. Guess it's time for me to hit the road, then.
-J
First, a question: how old are you? I'm 19, and I basically told my mom what was gonna happen, and she gave up trying to stop me from growing my hair. Now, she appears to be cool with it.
But that sucks that your mom's bein' like that to you. How long is your hair now, and how long have you been growing it? I hope everything works out for you; my best friend's mom made him cut his hair short, and he was getting some nice length on it, too. So I can relate to you... Try to hang in there, and do everything you can to not get it shaved!
26. Only reason why I've been living at home, is, no job.
I used to have the back between the shoulder blades, currently, everything's at the bottom of the neck.
-J
Not to be nosy, but is there a concrete reason barring you from employment? Depending on what area of the country you're from, employment is almost always available if you're willing to perform less-than-ideal tasks (i.e., I am a telemarketer for not-for-profit organizations). Might help if you tried something off the wall like that. Anything to save the locks.
About the only reason is, that, in the past couple years, I've been rather lazy. Yes, I actually admit it. :) But, things are soon to change.
-J
Well, I'm willing to be nosy. You need to hear this: twenty-six is too old to be living with your parents. I've been on my own since I was seventeen and I'm proud to be independent. There are no excuses for burdening your parents. If you're going to sit around on your ass, your mother has every right to tell you what to do. If you act like a child, you'll be treated like one. If I were your mother, I'd get a backbone and toss you out on your whiny, spoiled ass.
And here's my answer:
My family is quite a bit different. My parents never wanted to force me to leave and, even though I did want to leave earlier in my life, they wanted me to stay, so I did, which, at the time made sense. Here in the Seattle area, you need at least $15/hr to be able to afford an apartment. I was only earning $10.50 an hour, and was in school at the time. For the past year, I have been looking for employment, only to discover that the market has been rather thin. Only lately has it improved enough to the point where I will have a chance at getting a job that'll pay enough to let me move out. And, no, I really haven't been a whiny person about it. I've just stated what's going on around here. My family is quite conservative, so, with my willing to challenge the social norm, they have freaked out. Ok, since I'm also a nosy person, what is your age?
What a crazy world. It was my mother that encouraged me to let my hair grow out when I was 50. I'd had GI and corporate hair all my life. She thought it would look nice long.
She was right.
Seems like most domestic violence and child abuse laws would protect you from any forceful shaving if you're still not a legal adult.
Some power struggle...what's it really about?
Good for her. It's nice to see people who actually have their heads screwed on right.
Unfortunately, I'm definitely a legal adult. I'm only 3.5 years away from being in my 30's.
Well, it involves the fact that she doesn't like long hair on men, and the fact that I'm also a skirted man. She really detests that. Which, I can understand, considering how she's 61 years old, and came from the south, where things were much more conservative when she was growing up. So, in her mind, long hair and skirted clothing are female-exclusive items. Even though, in the middle ages, it was quite common to see both on either sex.
-J
Well cool, Always thought skirts made more sense for men than women...we need the freedom they don't. My ancestors in Scotland sure enjoyed that freedom.
Sure understand your mother, I was born in Selma, Alabama - it doesn't get much more southern than that, and lived in the south longer than I really wanted to...
But hey, you're an adult so you should be well protected by your state's assault and domestic violence laws.
Congrats on your bravery for being yourself.
Yeah. If you haven't experienced the freedom yourself, it's time to do that. You will never want to go back.
Yup. She was from Nashville.
Yeah. I'm not worried about it, tho. After she cooled off a bit, things are all hunky-dory here, so once I have my apartment, I'll be leaving on good terms.
Thanks.
-J