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I've recently been on the receiving end of some compliments about my hair, which always goes down well.
Yesterday afternoon, I was in a supermarket helping a blind friend with the weekly shop when a (long-haired) Polish woman took hold of my braid and said it looked and felt fantastic, and started asking questions about how long I'd been growing it and what my haircare routine was.
To be honest, while I was flattered, I'd have been a bit happier if she'd asked permission before touching my hair, but the compliments still put a smile on my face. My friend was quite surprised because, while he was aware that I had long hair, he hadn't realised just how long it is.
That's cool about the compliment, from a stranger, as it is nice when the beauty of ones longhair is noticed:)I am surprised she took hold of your hair but I guess that's part of the compliment.lol.Anyway it sure beats the standard "Get a haircut"comment you'd expect to be hurled at you.Cheers
Mark
Good to hear some positive comments on long hair for a change!
That's cool ! I don't like either when someone touch my hair, but it can seem weird to ask : "Can I touch your hair please ?" =)
Vivien.
I feel the same as well I don't like it when someone touches my hair-it's a personal thing in my opinion...My friends sometimes do it and I always comment-Did you wash your hands? lol
I like that!
Since she's Polish, it might be a cultural thing -- some cultures are more touchy-feely than Americans. But I wouldn't like a stranger just coming up to me and touching my hair either.
It is nice that you received a compliment! :) You do have nice hair! :)
Thank you. Compliments are always welcome.
I think it was just the fact that she was surprised to see a guy with such long hair.
The best compliment I've ever had was from my friend's three-year-old. I'd been giving her a piggy-back, and one of her buttons snagged in my braid when I set her down, yanking a chunk of hair out, so I undid the whole thing, planning to tidy it up. She started laughing and playing with my hair, and then burst into tears when I started to plait it again, and told me I had to leave it loose because it was so pretty. (Her mum won't let me forget that now, but I don't care.)
Viking,
This reminds me about 8 or 9 years ago, I was in a movie theatre with my wife and some frends. My hair was at almost to the middle of my back then. I drapped it over the back seat as I leaned back. A lady starts petting my hair, I turn around and say "excuse me ? " . She replys " Sorry, but I couldnt ressist your thick beautiful hair ". Then she replyied " I have to go to the salon to get wave and curls like that, you got it naturally, right ? ". I replied " Yup, Just wash it, condition it and let it dry " . I had to laugh at her last comment, " Why is such beautiful hair wasted on Men ! "
Just some memories,
Glinka
Hair envy!!! :) And it is NOT wasted on men, it is AWESOME on men!!! :) :)
Maybe the reason men often have better hair than women is men don't do so many unnatural and abusive things to their hair such as dyeing or straightening it. My hair is totally natural. I do not dye, straighten, use a blow dryer or even use a comb to my tresses! I simply use a natural shampoo and natural conditioner and I comb my hair with my fingers only. I add olive oil to my ends weekly.
J.M.M.,
I believe that you're right, man. Girls used to always ask me if I straightened my hair (because apparently, it was very smooth), and I sort of laughed at the question, as I've heard such terrible things about the effects of straighteners.
Personally, I prefer natural methods of hair care, and think the costs to outweigh the benefits of things such as dyeing and curling hair. Too much harm and damage can stem from tampering with the laws of nature. Though I'd rather not face male-pattern baldness, honestly.
Venya
I got a similar comment when I first grew my hair long in my early 20s, but from a hairdresser. She said she knew women who paid out hundreds of pounds a year to have hair my colour and texture and she could tell from the condition that it was all natural, and again, that long hair was wasted on men.
I got a complement the other day, also from a woman. Personally, I don't mind people touching my hair if they first get my attention by speaking, and they are clean.
Exactly. I don't mind that either, but this woman was just some random stranger passing me in the supermarket and the first I knew of it was when she lifted my braid to get a better look at it. If she'd said, "Hi. Would you mind?" I'd have had no problem with her touching my hair. It was just the fact that she touched it before speaking to me which I got irritated by. Imagine if the shoe had been on the other foot and I'd grabbed her hair unexpectedly. She'd have been screaming blue murder and I'd have been arrested. A bit of common courtesy goes a long way.
I agree -- however, in a setting where you are familiar with a group of people, like whenever I go C&W dancing or Swing dancing, it's not uncommon for some of my dance friends, whether male or female, to grab my braid or segmented ponytail and gently tug, "hello!" with my hair before saying anything to me. I totally don't mind that, because in that setting I know most of the people in the room (and most of them are dance partners of mine, anyway)...
Just an example of where touching my hair before speaking to me is perfectly OK w/ me; but in a supermarket like you narrated, I probably wouldn't feel so comfortable about it, unless I already knew the person, first.
- Ken