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So I'm wondering what the women in your life think about your hair? Girlfriends, mothers, sisters, etc.
I consider myself lucky in that I have a girlfriend who actively supports my having long hair. She prefers it long, I prefer it long. She's a fan of glam rock type dudes (which I am one of when I'm not being a lazy ass because it's too hot to do anything with my hair)
My mother's fine with it. I had it long when I was a kid and she fussed about it needing to be trimmed and brushed (both of which I complained about) but doesn't have an problem with it (she fusses about my short haired brothers the same way).
My paternal grandmother thinks I look like a girl, but tells me I'm pretty (so I've got no clue what that means)
My maternal one thinks my hair and I are incredibly gorgeous and insists on commenting upon how stunning my brothers and I are (I'm the oldest of three, two younger brothers) in a very grandmotherly fashion every time we see her.
I've always had my girlfriends like my hair (my first girlfriend got quite upset when i cut it short in highschool) and the one after her liked it longish and wanted me to grow it out again (which I did) and then the one after that liked it too, and then my current one is probably the most enthusiastic about it (she seems to enjoy brushing it and washing it for me, so she takes a lot of the maintenance off of me)
Yes, I'm lucky too. I'm too old to have "girl friends" but here's a shot my lady friend took yesterday! Most of the ladies I know and girls come to that, seem to like long hair. Ian
HAHAHAHAHAHA! The only time you're "too old" to have girlfriends is when you're dead. I'm sure you have ladies who fancy you, Ian!! Nice photo, love your color! :)
Thanks, as always, Laura :-)
None of their business whatever.
My mom is cool with my hair; its taken awhile but she's become secretely proud of it (although she'll never admit it).
I'm gay, so girlfriends aren't an issue, but generally female friends are supportive and/or enthusiastic about my hair.
I have a question, im not gay but i dont going around proclaiming LOOK AT ME IM STRAIGHT!!! I dont understand James / Tampa,Fl
Dude, I'm not sure what you're complaining about. Are you complaining about the guy bringing up the fact that he's gay? Or are you complaining about other guys talking about female significant others.
Either way you really need to take a step back and think about what you're saying. Significant others are a huge part of people's lives, my partner matters to me, her opinion matters to me, her happiness matters to me, you know what? Because I'm a decent guy.
No matter what someone's orientation their romantic relationships have an effect on their life, saying a gay guy can't bring up his orientation in a conversation is really messed up. One of my little brother's is gay, and he gets shit like this all the time. All of us heterosexuals flaunt our heterosexuality in a million ways every day, we talk about who we think is attractive, we talk about our relationships, and basically you're saying gay people can't talk about that part of their experience in life. LGBQA people can't talk about that part of their life without bringing up their orientation.
Though if you're saying we should shut up about our significant other's in general, I repeat my above point that they've important parts of our lives (or at least mine is to me)
Thanks, MrD, I couldn't have said it better myself.
In my case, I interpreted the question to be about "girlfriends" in the context of "romantic interests", and faced with the choice of either ignoring the issue entirely and having everyone think I'm an 11 year-old who still thinks all girls have cooties, or jumping in with both feet and saying my BOYFRIEND Tom just loves my hair because its so manly... (although there's another post just a few above mine who did go this route, and its a very nice post I feel!) Well I chose to just mention the "gay" word in passing while elaborating that my various casual friends who happen to be female generally do like my hair. Little did I realize that I'd make someone so uncomfortable.
One would hope that in a community that goes a little against the short-haired "norm", that going against another societal "norm" wouldn't raise an eyebrow. I've lurked here off and on for ten years, and I post perhaps a couple times a year, but I've noticed a LOT of gay guys here. Steve's post is the first I've ever seen that took offense.
All, everyone of the women in my life, friends,relatives, coworkers, clients, Like my hair. Only one to espouse negative statements was my older sister, but she has always been a bit of a "Bossy Boots" and, once she realized I had "muled Up" even she has since releented.
My boyfriend always liked it, except when it got in his face a few times. Lol. But he said not to cut it, that he'd deal with it. He said it looked good short too, but that that wasn't really me. It encouraged him to grow it very long too, eventually. He's grown it out off and on for more than 15 years. These two girls I've been best friends with since 5th & 6th grade absolutely LOVE it, and could never stop saying how nice it was and how jelous they were of what good condition it was in. One of them has been inspired to grow hers, and it's almost as long as mine now. I just sent her some old hairsticks I made so she can try putting it in a bun.
My mom, who I never speak to, and my sisters, laugh at it, mostly behind my back, and say I look like a girl, but their views on alot of things are distorted, so I moved to the other side of the country from them. Their views had a bad effect, which I try to stay away from, but I'm jelous of anyone who's had enlightened tolerant or even supportive and enthusiastic parents. My mom is like your grandma. They just see things that way - your grandma was just expressing her views, what she sees when she looks at you. She can't help it. It doesn't make sense because they come from a time period that had alot of things that didn't make sense about it, and we're just not there anymore. I don't think it looks like a girl. not completely anyway. To me it looks like a guy with long hair, which it is, but my mom doesn't have that kind of concept. To her, long hair IS a girl. it's very simplistic, and not in line with reality.
My gf is a big fan of long hair on men, which is lucky :P
My mum doesn't mind at all. I think she sees it as a young person thing to do. Also, shes a teen from the late 60's and early 70's and I think she likes the memories that come with me and my long hair.
My nan on my maternal side didn't appear to like my hair much at all. She was a lady cut from old cloth who thought men should be smart - which I have the utmost respect for. I just chose not to follow her ideas - if I can't have long hair when I'm young, when could I? Alas, she passed away a couple of years after I started growing my hair.
My nan on the paternal side is more relaxed about my hair. She's of the opinion that it's all good as long as I keep my hair nice.
Really, I've been lucky with my family and my hair. :)
Neil.
The women in my life LOVED my long hair. I have always been fortunate to have a thick head of hair. When my hair was long, it is now short, women went nuts over the length of my hair. Surprisingly, it was the men who hated my hair. Most of them, yes, you guessed it, had thinning hair or no hair at all.
Latino
Lessee, I can thank my mom for my long hair (both the genes and the growth), since I started growing as a teenager because she didn't like it (and then realized I LIKED long hair).
Female friends like it, although with a bit of envy over the length, thickness, and condition, I've had several who enjoyed playing with it.
GF likes and supports it, not surprisingly, given where we met and that her hair is longer than mine.
In general, I get positive reactions from female co-workers and acquaintances and the public, the negative are rare and usually of an age and social background that one would expect.
Despite the typical lack of long hair in that community, I get compliments on it from gay men. The only negative comments from men are usually from cranky old white men (with little or no hair left).