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Hi! I have a problem here. Hope you guys can help me. I love long hair very much and i wish i could grow mine to certain length. For now, I intended of growing my hair to chin-length one length bob hair first. The problem is, when i'm in society, including when i'm with my college mates, i tend to like short hair especially the spiky styles because when i'm in society, i tend to being influenced by the ideas that men will look stylish and trendy more with short hair especially with spiky or out-of-bed-look hair. but when i'm surfing the internet all alone, i will surf for almost long hair stuffs and will be craving for long hair so much. but when i'm done with surfing the internet, and back to the real life, my thinking will shift back, to the ideas of "wanna have those stylish short hair". what am I supposed to do? One more thing, at college where I'm studying, the male students are not allowed to have long hair, so this is quite a problem when i'll be reaching my target of having the chin-length bob hair, thus I need any advice from all of you on how to hide my 'future' bob hair instead of using wig and any hair accessories (hair accessories will automatically reveal if someone have long hair). Thank you :)
I went from sort of mid-back length hair to a bob but mine is a bit longer than chin length. At first I pulled it back behind my ears a lot and still do, although rarely, for the most conservative occasions. When pulled back it looks like the infamous "awkward phase" that all of us went through growing it out real long. My cut in the back is layered some (they call it "stacked"), and shorter there so when the front is pulled back there is not too much bulk behind the ears.
Still, I wear it "down" probably 99% of the time and enjoy the look and feel of it. I don't try to put it in any kind of spiky look and I am not sure that would even be possible!
Thanks for your opinions and ideas. I really appreciate it. I'd love so much to wear my hair loose but only when i'm alone. I seems to have quite low self esteem with my long hair when being with people. I don't know why.
I really think that you have to make your mind up, your suggestion that you like spiked hair is very strong.
It sounds like you have a strong urge towards long hair, my advice is to follow your instinct, long hair may be your key to expressing yourself and freeing yourself from the majority. Be who you are, no matter what other people think.
Regards, James
Thanks for your views and opinions. I appreciate it so much.
Hi ah seng,
Sounds like you are a closet longhair. You've got to pluck up the courage, grow your hair and show the world your proud of your long locks. Be brave - it's worth it! Good luck, Ian
I can understand - the feelings you may have in public may differ in different parts of the world... one can begin to think, though, that individuality never hurts, especially when it's something that you feel like you lean towards, but aren't quite sure. There are ways to figure this out...
Try this - Do a real trial run on growing out your hair around your friends and see what both you and they think at the different stages (and at the same time see if you can skirt the rules at your college). Grow out your hair a bit, then trim some and shape it up to make it look nice (and perhaps trendy). Then grow it out some more (a bit longer than before) and then do the same trim and shape again. Repeat until your get to your desired length and see how you look & feel in public and to how your friend react. You might be pleasantly surprised!
Personally, when I see all of those male fashion models in the Sunday ads with their long hair, I have to think it can't be all of that bad...
Anyways, good luck with your decision!
Sincerely,
yoshiki
wow! Never come across this idea. Thanks so much. Really appreciate this.
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Life is too short, grow it out and be confident and positive.
Be yourself either short and spiky or long and beautiful.
It's all good