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Hi,
I've been growing my hair for about a year and lately have noticed people giving me dirty looks since it's been growing.
anyone else experience anything like this?
Well I hardly even remember my early growing years because that was in the 1980s.However if I did get ugly looks I could care less because I love my longhair and nothing is going to change that:)Cheers my friend and keep it growin' as the saying goes!
Mark
I think the question you should be asking is "Do I give a f***?"
Seriously, most people are jealous that you have the balls to be different and not just another drone. Be proud, it's rare today...
I've been growing for over 2 years and have noticed more people looking in my direction, but if anyone actually gave me a "dirty look" or the "evil eye" then I can't remember it, and no one has actually had the nerve to say anything yet (at least within earshot of me). I would just ignore it, or if you're feeling cheeky then put on your best smile and wave hello to them! :)
As it gets longer more people will stare but the thing to remember is that not all of these people are hating on you (unless they're just obviously making rude faces or something), some of them may just be curious or think it looks good. Anytime I see someone with a unique appearance I can't help but look a little as well, and it's hard to do that without appearing like I'm "staring at them".
Josh, pay these nimrods no mind. Remember, our country was founded on individualism, which many people in our society conveniently forget, due to ignorance, or the idea that someone dared to defy their definition of acceptable appearance for men.
I'm not sure what your hair looks like, but in my first year, I had a shoulder length mullet. No one really gave me the dirty looks, unless I just didn't notice it.
In short, don't let others' foolish judgments deter you from a look you would be happy with.
Good luck!
Hi Josh, just bear in mind some of those looks could be envy, some could be "wow", some could be complimentary, some could even be admiration. But whatever the reason, it's your hair, your choice and your life. Enjoy the looks! Ian
It is actually better today then in the 70's. I grew my hair out on several occasions, a few times during the 70's and I would get not just stares but some derogatory remarks like 'Get a haircut' and 'The 'H' word'. In some towns, if you had long hair some guys (with regular hair lengths) would surround you and beat you up. I grew my hair out again starting in 2006 and have heard no derogatory remarks.
Just last week, my brother-in-law and his wife were visiting in our home. His wife is one of those people with a license to get in the business of everybody around her. She happened to see a picture of me that really showed the length of my hair. The immediate response from her was, "Oh, God!" I frowned at her and asked what her problem was. She shook her head and said, "I juat can't get past that hair! I hate it!" Let it suffice to say she has been informed that I didn't grow it out for her, anyway and that she won't be coming back to our house anytime soon.
All I can say is, get used to it. People are going to judge, and things like this can really help in examining how we feel about ourselves, and if we view ourselves through the lens of other people's expectations.
As long as you feel good about your hair, this can give you the opportunity to find some humor in how ridiculous many of the societal "norms" are, and how boring many people really are.
Keep growing!
Take care..
Yeah, i've grown mine out before and experienced the same thing about the same length, it's like they start to challenge you, I live in TX so i've had some o dem der bubba rednecks really go off. I just ignore them
live in Alberta and get the same looks and comments, universal idgits. lol
They are probably jealous! You have really cool hair!
Hi Josh,
There are always going to be people who feel uncomfortable with anyone who operates outside the so-called social norms. I get stared at more then I did before growing long hair and it doesn't really bother me. You do get used to it, and most of the time it is just curiosity on the part of the onlooker without any malice. I also have to confess that I myself am more likely to look longer at someone of either gender who has beautiful or exceptionally long hair but I try to do it in a way that they don't see me admiring their hair, often when they have passed and I see it from behind. I have had a great consciousness shift since growing long hair and think that most men in this society look abnormal and kind of silly looking with short hair. At the same time I have found that long hair can be a real icebreaker with people that I meet on the street. I hope that this will quickly pass for you. Often people will get used to seeing you around and not take any more attention to it after they have seen you more then once.
Duncan
Hear is what I would do:
1. Don't look at people to see if they are looking at you. Just go about your business. (Can't really stop people from looking anyway, and people look at everything.)
2. If you DO notice a stare or diry looks, raise your hand and wave at them with a great big smile on your face and say "Hi, how are you doing!" (And then chuckle to yourself as they take-off.) :-)
Justin~
Or....Blow 'em a kiss.
Ha Ha Ha. What a killer great thought. Go for it! LOL :-)