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When I see a woman with lovely long tresses I think her hair is beautiful, but when the same woman is with a man who would normally have a full head of hair has his head completely shaven to the scalp it repulses me.
what is it about this so-called "Style" if you can call it that which these people continue to find attractive because I definitely don't and it reminds me of some who have either undergone chemo and lost their hair or concentration camp prisoners during WW II!
it's probably the least attractive look as far as I am concerned and maybe it's just me, but you would think having some hair on the head should be considered attractive to most rational thinking people in society, doncha think?
Funnily enough, that's exactly what a work colleague of mine reminded me of every time I saw him across the room. His head was totally shaved right down to the scalp. I thought it looked horrific.
We have since become close mates. He has a perfectly good head of hair and has recently started to let it grow. He says he is going to grow it shoulder-length and that he was inspired by me!
I never ever mentioned his hair (I figured it was none of my business) but it's awesome to think I changed his mind even without knowing it. There's hope yet! :)
Damon
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It's good that he changed his mind without you even having to say anything. It's funny, but a lot of people with short or no hair feel like they have a "right" to set longhairs in their lives straight by telling them to "get a haircut." I didn't hear you tell this guy something like, "Hey, dude! Grow your freakin' hair out!" You simply said you minded your own business. I wish the short haired guys would do us the same favor.
Amen to that!
Damon
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Haha, truly. I've never been told to cut my hair (other than from my good Mother and 'silently' by my good Father), but would flip my lid if someone said 'get a cut' straight up to my face.
My sister-in-law did it to me. In my own home. And mind you, this was after she and her husband had stayed with my wife and me for a week, had eaten our food, etc. I will say she is the type who has always acted like she had a license to tell people what was wrong with them any time she wanted to, but it's wrong just the same. She was looking at picture of me that showed the length of my hair really well, and she just shuddered all of the sudden and said, "Oh, God!" Then she looked at me like she knew she had to explain herself, so she said, "It's the hair. I just can't get past it!!" She then got to the testy part when she motioned toward me and told me that I need to understand that her little grandson "...will never be allowed to look like THAT!!"
Since that night, she and her husband haven't been back in our house and she has also been told that she WILL NOT speak to me like that again. In our home, or otherwise. I have found out lately that she BLOCKED me on Facebook and that she refuses to speak to me on the phone since I stood up for what I believe. Like I told my wife, if this lady will only communicate with me if I give her permission to run me down any time she feels like it, then forget it. I don't need that. My wife agrees and we're good!
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Why do men shave their heads or crop hair unnaturally close? It could be insecurities as some folks percieve the look as more "manly" 9at least in present society) Sometimes a man will just accept MPB and deal by removing what remains. Sometimes it is not a choice. It might also be laziness, as a lot of men can not be bothered with tending to hair, all the shampooing etc.... I suppose society is lucky if these same dudes bathe often enough. Peer pressure (see insecurity) may also be a factor. What ever the reason(s) it is a sad commentary that the male of the species has been made to believe he must remove what can be a beautiful part of their person. How many times have I heard women lament the fact they wish they had hair like mine or some other long haired male. and I agree, a full head of healthy hair is quite handsome and always preferable to seeing a blotchy scraped scalp. Some men can carry the hairless look well, most do not and those are what I call the Ballpeened doorknob look.
I have two friends one who shaves his head due to MPB and the other who had really nice curly locks at one time but now keeps it buzzed because "It's so much easier to care for". Both had long/longish hair in their youth but have decided to go short for different reasons. I can sort of understand the reasoning for the first guy, but the second seems like a total waste because he still has great hair coverage.
--Dale
I know!!! Yeah!! That's just what I think! I was born in the 60s, and the only one with a shaved head that I knew of was Yule Brenner, an actor. I've talked to people like that and they think hair is something dirty. They seem to have that phobia of dirt, you know, that anxiety over normal life conditions. Oh my. :)
Sure beats me as to why they think this look is so great and yes, it DOES remind me of the things of which you have spoken above. Hmmmmmmm, bet if they suddenly found out at a young age that they were going bald (even though they just about look that way anyway) they would have an Anxiety Panic Attack! LOL
Justin~
Yes, in short it's ugly. In my book, Our LONG HAIRitage, I mention a time when the close-cropped Corinthians came to Sparta for help. The Spartans were very repulsed by their close-cropped heads and stated: "they looked mean and unsightly."
Why would anyone cut off a completely good head of hair? In my opinion, it is not rational. Certainly, they are the most ignorant of people and need educated. They need a copy of my book so they can learn the importance of longer hair - how it is suppose to hide the unsightly features of the skull and protect their head. The bad news is that about 50% of modern men don't even seem to care if they go bald. However, the good news is that the other 50% do care. So they need to learn that longer hair is healthier and can even prevent baldness!
why do you think Men have been indoctrinated into believing that closely cropped and shaved/buzzed styles are more acceptable than having a full head of hair?
years ago it would have seen quite strange for such a look on a young Man with the ability to have a full head of hair and only military recruits wore such styles, but against their will, not because they wanted to!
we need to return to some sort of neo-hippiesque way of thinking about our appearance. maybe that is the wrong choice of words, but I think they had a better concept of how things should be.
it's too bad many of them morphed into Yuppies and wanna-be yuppie types during the 1980s.
maybe a new counter-culture based around the concept that longer hair will rise up in the coming years.
let's hope because there has got to be change!
I realize that the "shavers" are our hair-opposites, and that a lot of us are going to have some strong opinons about that. But I personally have no problem with them.
My problem is with the people to go for the "stuble-head" look. To me those people either need to grow it out so it looks "normal", or simplely stop pretending & shave it off properly.
Please note, I would NEVER tell someone with a real hair length (and especially not a felow longhair) to shave it off.
I completely agree. I think men in general are Much more afraid of being judged and criticized for their appearance than women who will try anything that suits their fancies. Just think of it, men have even allowed society to decide that Colors like pink or purple are now somehow not allowed them, though they occur naturally, just like our hair and can't be "wrong". I think it is society's decisions as to what is "masculine", that is, military, tough looking etc. which prompts men to keep their heads shaved or buzzed, because the opposite of "masculine" is feminine and they connect that with their irrational homophobia. They will do anything rather than be considered homosexual, even be complete non-thinking robots and clones.(and ironically, almost all gay guys these days have Short hair apparantly in an effort to appear strong like their straight counterparts).Any admittance that you care about your appearance, would tend to your hair,etc. brings ridicule, but lots of guys secretly and Obviously Do take care of their skin, clothes, and so forth. Really unfortunate to deny yourself your own natural identity that way.In fact, as We here all know the Confidence and strength it takes to really appear as We would choose is the most masculine trait of all.
I don't generally care what length other guys hair is, except for shaved heads, which I think are awful. I think it looked good on Sinead O'Connor when she was thinner, but not on anybody else, regardless of gender.
Generally I wouldn't say anything, though. There are plenty of people who don't like long hair, so why bring up the whole subject? Of course, they are wrong and we are right, but that is an argument that no-one can win, because it is subjective, or at least that's what people say. I can't see why anyone would want to go for the concentration camp look, though.