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Christmas has always been my favorite holiday. Can't believe it's less than two weeks away, now.
Wanted to ask if anybody else anticipated certain comments from relatives, in-laws, etc. about the length of your hair. I only see some of the people I see that day once a year and there is always some remark made that could make the time a real downer, if I would let it. These are my wife's relatives (brothers, etc.) and most of what is said is said in "fun." But, this year, for some reason, I find myself kinda dreading it. I don't want to dread Christmas, no matter who's saying or doing what.
Any comments?
Steve
Usually, when I tell the "kidders" how much I enjoy my long hair, even expanding on how much longer I'm going to grow it, they usually just drop it.
When people see an inner conflict, they will keep making comments. When they see how much you like your hair and your indifference with what other people think, most will just leave it alone, unless they are bordering on abusive or controlling.
There is an old saying "What other people think of me is none of my business..."
Ignore the comments and Enjoy your Holiday !!
WWT
If you are dreading it, then it is not fun. Ignore the comments or just turn and stare for only a moment, and say...Nothing! which in itself will say a lot.
Mu older sister was the only person in my family to attempt to dissuade me from growing out my hair. her line of reasoning, of course, had no effect. She finally gave up. Had a few friends make some surly comments as I embarked on the new growth, but those have stopped as well, when asked why I grow my hair so long, I usually answer with "Because I can and I like it."
I don't now. i did a few years ago but then i reached the point
where I blew them out of the water. I'm working, have my own
house, am married, etc. so it is my choice how I wear my hair.
If they don't like it they can lump it..
AFter I blew them out of the water I got no further complaints.
I'm also 57 years old now, so very few in the family are now
older than me, which also is a factor too. After the last
few family get togethers i've gotten zero compliants.
(Ironically at one recent get together one dad wss giving
his kid a hard time about his long hair but he said zero about
my hair. His hair was shoulder length and mine was waist length.)
Only one Uncle from the World War 2 era is still with us, and he
is fine with my hair.
when it comes to family the view from 57 years old is much
different than what the view wss at 21. The compaints i got at
21 are now gone the age of 57. And my hair also waist length at
the age of 21.
I know what you mean. I turned 60 in August, so I'm in the same age bracket you are. I guess what's really bugging me is that I really DON'T CARE. I don't consider it anybody's business what MY hair looks like. And, I will tell them so. That's my problem. I already had it out with one sister-in-law this last year who insulted me in my own home about how stupid I (or anyone) was to wear their hair long. I know it was just her own opinion, but to do it IN MY OWN HOUSE within earshot of our son was way out of line, and I made no bones about telling her that.
I'm just looking forward to celebrating Christmas. Concentrating on being with my wife's family, catching up on things with various ones that I haven't seen in awhile, honoring Jesus' birthday, and just enjoying myself.
I don't want to offend my wife by telling another one of her family members to take a hike, even if they did start it by delving into my business, rather than staying with their own.
Make sense?
Now i on the other didn't hesitate to tell certain relatives to
take a hike. It's my hair, my business and if they don't like
it they can leave my house.
I don't care whose relative they are.
My hair has been long for just about all of my adult life so I can safely say no one ever comments on my hair at family events.In fact, last Friday I attended my company Christmas party and one woman even complimented me on my hair when she saw how red it was probably because her own hair was just as red!LOL.Funny thing she was an older woman and her hair was shorter than mine:)I can safely say the older you are the less you get hassled about having long hair.If anyone does have a problem with my hair they must be keeping it to themselves because I can't even recall the last time anything negative was ever said about my hair.Cheers
Mark
I understand how you feel; on the one hand we think who cares, but on the other who wants to badgered by people who should have the good sense to hold their peace. This is my second go-round with growing my hair out and this time the comments are minimal. This may be that they simply relize it will do no good since the hair is here to stay.
The only annoying comment I've delt with was a landy I work told me I should grow my hair out long—I was like yay!—only to add the jab; "then you cut it off and give it to Locks of love", oy so original.
I'm sure if you just make up your mind to pay them no mind and remember at the end of the day what they think doesn't matter. Besides, if things get to bad just make your way to the restroom and look in the mirror at your awesome head of hair and just calk it up to jealousy.
Jeremy
My family knows better lol. Im a bit of an @#$ when irritated so theyve learned to keep opinions on my appearance to themselves. But my fathers a longhair to so most everyone is used to it.
I got shit from my parents when it was in the awkward phase. My mother has a sort of crush on Owen Wilson, so she liked the "shaggy" look, but once it was longer than she was complaining constantly. And now, many years later, she has adjusted to it.
Whenever the cousins flew in from Texas—the preppy types, with the firm bodies from playing volleyball all day, and designer clothes and brand new cell phones—they would complain about it and try to get me to promise that I would cut it. But the last time they saw me, I was able to tie it back in a very comfortable half-tail for a funeral, and they said, for the first time, that they "liked it like that." Of course, they also like the "emo fringe" look on guys, so that might not be a good thing!
And recently, my grandmother (whose husband was the one who died in the funeral mentioned above) said how much she would have liked to see me cut my hair back to "normal" length, which made me sad and a bit angry. But I did not succumb.