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I was just wondering what reception those of us who are in school generally get from our classmates. When I was in high school a few people, mostly the rednecks, made disparaging comments about my hair being so long, but at university it seems like everyone just loves it and I get compliments on it all the time.
Usually when I go to a party it's the first thing people ask me about.
Hi Dylan,
It just goes to show how immature HS is and how university is much more respectful of a persons individuality.I bet those naysayers in HS never went off to higher Ed.I'm not saying that's the norm but one has to think as how their attitudes changed once outta HS.Cheers
Mârk
Maturity, open-mindedness and tolerance tend to go hand-in-hand with intelligence. That's not invariable but it is a tendency.
Your hair is awesome!
Damon
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People in general seem to be much more accepting of differences in university rather than high school. I don't have the most pleasant memories of high school.
I just have to say your hair is incredible. It is not only very thick (that ponytail shot in particular showed that) but very healthy. No doubt the trims help some with that. Given its thickness at the ends, I would think you'd be capable of a great terminal length. I had blond hair as a young child. It's cool that you've kept the color as a adult.
Hi Dylan,
I work in a middle school (not a high school or college, but still a breeding ground for disparaging comments) - I just brush it off. Who cares what others think, just as long as you are you ^_~ .
Sincerely,
yoshiki
When I went to grade school I had lots of complaints from teachers and parents. That tapered off as I entered high school which I graduated from in 1973. There were a number of kids with long hair in high school, some of them waist length like mine.
I got abaolutely no complaints about my hair from anyone at college. And that included a number of co-op jobs/part time jobs, etc. And by the 80s came my hair was knee length.
The first thing they ask you about is your GEORGEOUS, LONG, BLOND HAIR!!! It makes you stand out just a little bit and IT SHOULD because it is AWESOME!!!
It's the maturity factor. When I was in high school, the majority of the kids in my class were some of the most obnoxious people I'd ever been around. Now, many years later, the same people are like totally different individuals. People just have to grow up.
Steve
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Your long blond hair is absolutely gorgeous. That is why it is the first thing mentioned at parties. I am reasonably sure that the girls at the parties want to run their fingers through it. BTW, the small trim was a good move, your hair looks fantastic. What is your ultimate goal length? (Waist length would be an excellent choice.)
Scott
"When I was in high school a few people, mostly the rednecks, made disparaging comments about my hair being so long, but at university it seems like everyone just loves it and I get compliments on it all the time.
Usually when I go to a party it's the first thing people ask me about."
Over the time, I learned not to care regarding "the others", whereas the lack of reception on my family's part was something I never completely emotionally recovered from.
I don't think anyone with at least partially individualistic and artistic mind went through "a most pleasant" time in high school because, often, it's the time when conformist attitude is at its harshest; kids confess of their quest for identity, yet eventually end up willingly yielding it to society. It sounds still sadder if one thinks teenagers are the same, or at least similar, everywhere in that respect.
If you are complimented at university, it should mean you got surrounded with more mature people. Which is, well, still not to say you are done with suffering the disparaging, because you are yet to experience most "adults" are not much better than their childish selves, and their ill will, unlike that of high schoolers, is likely to be silent and implicit, but far from absent.
Hi! I'm a sophomore in college and have been growing my hair for little over a year and have shoulder-length hair and always wear it down. I go to a southern baptist college, so not too many people like it. In my school of maybe 3000-5000 people, I only see two other long-haired men. Just today in class one of my friends who is a girl who, along with many other people, disproves of my hair preference, told me she actually had a dream this weekend where I got a haircut and she was so surprised she fell out of seat only to wake up and find out it was a dream and was disappointed. I'm playing a solo piano recital tomorrow night and my teacher still advises me to get a haircut. I have had several other music professors get on to me about it and even judge my musicianship over it. So I greatly envy your social status! I like to think I take good care of it by investing in a good conditioner, combing through it, brushing through it, and not adding any chemicals, but as far as my friends go, they only joke about it, calling it "luscious" while trying to pet it or something silly like that. And my family hates it. I don't really like the attention I get over my hair at all.
Over all, you should be happy for your social environment! :)
How have you dealt with these problems with peers our age?
When you go for your music recital dress up like Beethoven. He also had long hair.
Duncan
Aww, don't let them discourage you, man!
Just stay strong and keep it growing, and remember that your look will still significantly change after shoulder length. My hair is now evolving from brushing my shoulders to actually lying down on my shoulders, to past my clavicles, and I have to say I think it looks much better now than just one inch ago. So people might suddenly like your hair better in a few months, who knows :)
Thanks man :)
I really love this site and you guys for all of your encouragement!
Always get compliments at College, and even in High School it was mostly compliments....all that i ever got from the rednecks was "how do you stand all that hair"
It's nice to hear that most people you went to high school and college with had only good things to say about your hair. Having the hair that you have, it easy to see why so many people pay you compliments. It's absolutely beautiful.
Awesome hair, Dylan! The long wavy blonde hair looks bad ass on you I have to say.