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Dunno why I was just thinking about these. During the time I had my hair (was at my beltline at 16yr) Ive had "can I help you miss?" or "what can i get you ma'am?". Also been called a hippie, white trash, sinner, satanist (i listen to metal), gay, and accused of being transvestite. Just made me wonde what some of you have had to put up with for being different.
I got called a hippie, get a hair. Whenever I would brush my long hair down in the men's bathroom, people use to give me these dirty looks. I have a right to groom too, just like you short hairs. Old men would confuse me and walk right out of the men's bathroom. It's quite funny to be honest.
I don't recall much name calling, although I did have someone shbout "You having a laugh, mate?" to which I responded "Yes, mate, every day."
Yeah, people are kinda driving me crazy about my long hair now. Some of them really seem to hate it and call me all kinds of things.
I don't really mind if someone mistakes me from behind - but some people call my "Miss" and they know!
Hairball, hairwad, ratsnest are all names I get called a lot.
At a family party, one of my younger cousins (about 7) asked his mom why Uncle John has such long hair. Her response was "Because he doesn't know how to look after himself and go to a barbershop."
To be honest, I don't know if it's worth the grief. Maybe a haircut would be a good idea - I think sometimes - but then I look in the mirror and LOVE my long hair !! So........ I don't know.
Yeah, I think you do know. Ask yourself this: If you DID cut your hair, you already know that you wouldn't like it. The people who are saying the things you told about are being obnoxious, right? Obviously, they don't care anything about you and what you care about--they're just popping off to hear themselves talk, it sounds like. So, would they actually APPRECIATE it if you had short hair? Goes without saying that they would simply be obnoxious about some other subject, if you did cut it--and you would wish you had your hair back, just because you like it. Is it really worth it to try to please them that much?
For how long and in HOW MANY WAYS do we deny our own desires every day to in some way please others? It can Never please them or satisfy them, because they criticize because of their own insecurities or fears. They can only get a high when they feel Better than another person which means the victim has to feel Lesser. That is sick. We have all probably done it over something we perceive. The Only way to be happy is to decide Who you are and just start Being it. For us, it is long hair, pure and simple. Just admit it, and forget about it. If it isn't your hair, it would be your weight, your clothes, how you speak, what politics you espouse, etc.etc.etc. Those who Judge to exist will Judge. Nothing you can to about it. If you cut your hair, you will Not be happy, you will just lose a little bit of your soul once again to Conform for no reason. YOU will go home and mourn the loss of your self esteem as a result of cutting your hair. The Judgers will soon forget their conguest over you and Never give you another thought once back in their own miserable lives. Be a role model, and just be Happy being yourself, as YOU see yourself and leave Others Completely out of it. If it is a girlfriend, a friend, relative or anyone who claims to care about you, they will want you to be happy. If they don't,then you need to know that and place them in your life's priority list accordingly. They will have shown that they are all about Themselves and don't know what caring or compassion is. The Most ridiculous thing I see here on a regular basis is the tale of the so-called wellmeaning person in someone's life who thinks he or she knows better than Any one of us what our hair should be like, especially women. Would Any man who likes his life EVER try criticizing a woman as to her attire, weight, or clothing? I think not, but they think they can criticize a Part of our bodies without fear of recrimination. It is time to just buck-up and decide that if you are a longhairman, you ARE, No permission or explanation needed, just as if you are tall or short. Stop apologizing to anyone and Stop explaining. Just Ignore the critics and the haters. They get the message when you just freeze them out. They eventually realize that words hurt and they have no right to hurt you. Sorry for the long post, but I AM a longhaired MAN, and I have been a lot happier once I stopped reacting or giving Any energy to judgement by others.
I'm now at the ripe old of age of 57. I have up long ago trying
to please others. So I wear my hair the way I want to, I wear
the clothes I want to, when I want to. If people don't like it they can lump it. I don't care what they think or want, especially now at the ripe old age of 57.
Wow !
I'm glad you are on my side (and my long hair's side).
I know I'm ridiculous to care sooooo much about my long hair, but I do.
Thanks for the support.
You always have a right to care more about your hair than anyone else does, because it is YOUR hair. So if you are ridiculous, then they are ridiculouser.
Bill
Dude, they have GOT to be jealous, your hair looks awesome!
And family or no family, that aunt deserves a glass of water splashed onto her, or at least an argument about being a more open-minded parent instead of instilling bias into her children.
No....It's because Uncle John refuses to spit in God's face by cutting off his hair. If God wanted Uncle John to have short hair on his head he would have made it grow that way dear. Just remember that if you cut you hair off, your're telling God he makes garbage and when you die, you'll get a thousand years in hell for each and every haircut you had. Hey, if various groups can use the going to hell 'cause you don't think like them excuse, SO CAN YOU.
I love it. I'll have to remember that one.
That's good but I can just see them retorting: "Oh, so God never meant you to cut your fingernails or toenails, or trim your nosehairs, either huh?".
Damon
Thank you dudes for your responses and support.
I agree that it is MY hair - not that it makes it any easier to hold on to under the circumstances.
I appreciate all the support and my long hair does, too !
This is when you say to your cousin, "A much bigger problem is that your mother does not know two social rules. One rule is to mind your own business. The other rule is that if you can't say something nice about someone, don't say anything at all. If you act like your mother, you will have less friends and you will get beat up more."
Yes, you are breaking those same two rules with that comment, but in the case of a child, society cuts an exception. People older than a child have the obligation to tell a child when he is likely to otherwise do something dangerous.
Bill
Excellent retort, Bill! Must try and remember this!
Most people I know respect me enough to know that I'm going to wear it the way I want to, and that they might as well be quiet if they really don't like it. My sister-in-law did insult me in our own home when she and my brother-in-law was visiting my wife and me last September. Nobody talks to me in my own house like that and after I let her know she was out of line, she won't have a thing to do with me now, and it's been 7 months ago. My feeling is that if the only way she'll be around me is if I allow her to come to my house and tell me I look stupid whenever she wants to, then sorry, but I don't need that. I do believe I'm showing a little more consideration than she is. I tried to make peace with her just this last week, saying that life is too short to be at odds with each other because of something as trivial as my hair length. She won't communicate at all. Oh, well...
My niece told me recently that my looks reminded her of Jesus. I told her that was great. If I could be more like Him as a person now, I'd be fine!
Steve
I have some relatives who complained about my hair, since it was
my house I laid down the law and stated "cut the complaints. If
you don't like may hair then you're welcome to leave and never
return." It worked, no complaints after that, they never
got to the point of name calling although Hippie would have
fit very well since I started growing my hair in 1964.
Some people don't know how to grow up. I was a long haired preacher at a very conservative church for a year. These days no one can judge someone by the lenth of your hair anymore. people who are prejidice against long haired men need to wake up and study what is really going on in the world and to stop passing opinionated judgments against us long haired men. My question is what do predjidice people say about long haired Native Americans? Many people need to do thier homework before passing any judgment and prehaps they need to get a closer look at Matthew 7:1 in the Bible.
It is shocking that someone called you a Satanist partally because of your long hair. That is pretty bad! John the Baptist who baptized Jesus Christ in the Jordan river has long hair probably passed his feet because he was a Nazarite from Birth and a Nazarite cannot cut his or her hair according to Numbers 6 (read the whole chapter). Try calling him a devil worshipper and that will not go very far.
One more thing. Did the predidice people know that Thomas Jefferson is a long haired man? You will see a statue of him with his long Braided hair in Washington DC! Talk about ignorance! Good grief!
Well if they call you names just tell them to do thier history homework! LOL!
Your friend
Birdman
At that time I was in TX (very conservative) and liked to dress in some t shirt from a band like obituary or cannibal corpse, torn up jeans combat boots 3 rings in one ear, chains, beard and tattoos. Prolly did look like the devil incarnate to them.
Yep. It happens.
Yep, although I'm not one...
Yep, although its possibly true...
Yep, although since I'm a non-believer, I don't believe in "sins" per se...
Can't say that I've been called that yet, but like I said above...
Yep, and for once the label is accurate! Out and proud.
Can't say that I have.
The worst i've been called is Ma'am. But that is always corrected
in seconds when they see my mustache.
I haven't been called to much to my face. I have had my hair long for 16 years. I guess publicly things here have been pretty good, I live near Seattle and there are quite a few longhairs around, so I guess seeing one is not a novelty. How ever, my extended family have said things here and there, how about stupid, disgusting looking, all because of my hair but most has been said behind my back, and they feel like I am holding myself back or something for having it, problem is I have a much better job then they do, and own my own business too. LOL Through my work I meet a lot of different people from all life styles and demographics and do teaching and speaking engagements for my line work, so for the most part people have been good, Just a few of the small minded family members can't seem to get it. Oh did I mention early midlife crisis too?
I will post a pic soon too :)
In SF I hear very little negative, and honestly, even when I am out in the boonies I don't hear much then either, but my hair is usually up.
And quite honestly, the few negative comments have been from people I don't care about...so I can make a response and move on.
The negatives are far outweighed by the positives...and I'll take a rare negative in trade for young women fawning over my hair. *shrug*