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Sorry, but had to post this story. Cutting it is one thing, being teased into doing it is another.
http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/46812342/ns/today-good_news/
Jason brought up this issue several days ago so scroll down for those comments.Still really a shame this had to happen but sadly it's not the first and won't be the last:(
Mârk
Check out the poll at the end of the article:
Results of 24,873 votes with 268 comments
38%
Yes! It's adorable!
9,329 votes
54%
No, leave the long locks for girls.
13,470 votes
8%
I'm not sure.
2,074 votes
Hmm, doesn't surprise me in the least that the majority would rather
see guys with short,ugly haircuts.I'm proud to be an outsider from that
clan because in my eyes I feel much differently.Cheers
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But there is hope. Fully 3 out of 8 people surveyed liked his hair long. Back in the 1960s, it would probably have been less than 1 in 10.
Scott
Might make some folks edgy but as we were conditioned that short hair is "normal" before deciding what we wanted, reading lines such as "his mother couldn't bear to cut it" makes me wonder if this young man was being conditioned by his parents to have long hair. Noones to say weather he actually liked it himself or was just a puppet along for the ride. Food for thought.
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Well I think the majority cut their son's hair short and don't ask them if they
would prefer to let it grow long.I'm sure there are parents who might let their
kids be longhaired more for themselves but frankly it's a small minority.So more
food for thought and don't get stuffed;)
Mârk
It does sound like it was his mother who was into the long hair and not him in this case. OTOH, at that age (5) it is usually the parents who decide, just more often in the opposite direction.
Our son had long hair as a kid, and it was us behind it, not him. But why not? We both have long hair. Having his hair cut short would be like saying that there was something wrong with long hair, which we don't beleieve. When he got teased he had it cut into a spiky cut, around age 8. Then, when he was 12, he decided to grow it back, and still has it long at 18.
We treated our daughter exactly the same, although when she decided to get hers cut back to shoulder length it only took 24 hours for her to change her mind, instead of 4 years. Unfortunately it takes a while to grow back.
We made them both wait 2 weeks before agreeing to take them to get the cut.
Where we differed from the mother in this case is that our son had regular trims and a fringe (bangs in the American dialect). My wife insisted on this.
I wish when I was growing my mom would have refused to cut my hair.
It's disappointing to hear that he had it cut. Having had my share of problems in high school / college. I can only imagine how bad the kids in his school were to him. I don't know how I would have taken such harassment at such a young age.
Kind of begs the question that homeschooling might have been a better solution if the other kids were abusive to him.I know that's not the ideal solution for everyone but is an option.
Mârk
It should be pointed out in a case like this even after
cutting his hair kids will find other things to tease him
about. Kids often are cruel and can find hundreds of reasons
to tease other kids.
Granted it's been a long time since I was in school but
some things never change.
Cutting his hair won't change the teasing, it will just
shift it to something else.
There's a poll in the above story about whether boys should be allowed to have long hair. We're losing quite badly. I just submitted my vote; you apparently don't need to register to vote in that poll.
done, it's at 34 % pro now.
Can't find the poll