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Well, sort of off topic. And I have no intention of sparking a political debate. The g/f and I had another argument about the long hair. I told her that I was a longhair when she met me, I'll be the same if she dumps me. And I got testy and asked her what is the big deal?
Bear in mind, I live in New England, and it is a more liberal region of the U.S. When I pressed her, she said, "You don't understand, I'm conservative! New Englanders are conservative people and are not as accepting of long hair as you think." To which I replied, "But you voted for Obama?" The argument went downhill from there, but she asserted that New Englanders vote Democrat, but hang onto their Eddie Bauer clothes and eschew the long hair completely. I think that is her definition of conservatism.
I do see alot of Eddie Bauer and LL Bean stuff out here, but I also see men like myself who prefer leather and jeans. I have to say when I see a fellow longhair, I get the "thumbs up", which I return. I live 25 miles out from Boston, and the culture is more homogenous out here than in that great city.
The ONLY people whose opinion on my long hair would make any difference to me are my employers. They're cool with it.
The day I start worrying about whether anyone else is "accepting of long hair" is the day they can declare me brain-dead. In fact, the more it annoys them, the longer I would grow it. That reaction may be childish; I prefer to think of it as strong-willed.
As we on this board have said before: you and your g/f are not a match made in heaven! ;)
Damon
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I know. There is something there, but you're right. Perhaps I'll buy the Harley and see how she reacts! Thanks!
To quote my fellow-Wisconsinite Willem Dafoe from the movie 'Spider-Man,' "Do what you need to with her, then broom her fast."
That's good advice.
--Val
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Good one Val! :-)
Justin~
Don't knock LL Bean too much. They sell WARM clothes, which a man needs if he lives in San Francisco. LL Bean has a good selection of solid-color long sleeve shirts. "Solid color" does not clash with a man's beard. "Long sleeve" keeps a man from freezing. LL Bean also has a good selection of coats and fleece sweatshirts, some with hoods and some without. "No hoods" is a good idea if you have lots of hair back where the hood would be.
I have a sister in law 75 miles out of Boston just across the NH line, and I have a sister in Iowa. When we visit them, the difference is like night and day. Few Iowans have long hair or beards, while we see a lot more of both in New England. Both places are very cold (well, MOST years) so it isn't the weather.
As you go west beyond the plains the amount of hair increases. In western Montana and the Pacific Northwest, you will see a lot of hair.
Bill
Hi. Please apologize for the poor English fluency.
I have always been a longhair since 16 (I'm 40), save for a couple of years off due to the military and the initial appearance of white hair. So everybody I meet suspects me to be a left-wing person.
I have always found that disturbing since it's actually the opposite. Indeed, I always vote for the so-called far-right : National Front or Le Pen (I'm French). My favorite American politician is Patrick Buchanan.
And yes, lefties and right-wingers alike systematically assume that I am one of them. But I believe that since the success of the Swiss politician Oscar Freysinger, it is time to dispel the myth that long-haired men are liberals.
They are non-conformists. That's for sure. But that's all.
I always say, "When a man grows long hair, it says that he owns himself." He can be liberal, conservative, moderate, or any combination of those.
I tend to be a mixture. But I haven't voted for a Republican in a very long time. It has been sad to see what was once a great party, the party that was created to abolish slavery, to have turned into a hate group.
Bill
Thank you! I couldn't have said it better myself!
I vote for nothing nor align myself with any political party. It's what's inside that counts. If people wanna view me as something I'm not, that's their problem. Long as I'm happy with my hair. Like my other topic about "binairy longhair" I do what I feel like regaurdless of my political leaning.
Thank you! I hope the g/f some day will change her heart about this.
I hate to say this but she made he view very clear and I wouldn't think she'd ever come around to accepting your long hair.That's not right but should you stick it out with her be on alert your mane will always be in the cross hairs!(Pardon the pun).lol.Good luck my friend.Cheers
Mârk
Do what makes you happy. I never let a girlfriend control how I wanted to look.
Are your arguments about your long hair serious and very often, and does your girlfriend threaten to leave you because of it?
If the answer "yes" to these, I hope you reexamine your relationship, because the most important component of a relationship is acceptance. Most of all, I wish the best to you. Respect yourself!
What's way weirder to me than the whole Obama thing is that she feels the need to control you. It's not about hair; if she took issue with your clothing, shoes, jewelry, or anything else the principle would be the same. If your relationship is conditioned on her being able to dictate how you act and dress then it probably needs to be reconsidered...