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Last night I lost what I thought was a close friend due to his narrow mindedness and ignorant comments toward men with long hair. He stated unless a man grew up in the 60s he has no right to long hair and if he keeps long hair hes just trying to look cool. Men in the 60s were making a statement. He then went on to state men with long hair have no values or goals in life and that they are nothing but worthless dirty hippies so therefore I should no longer date men with long hair. (seems to me hes jealous but thats not the point) Hearing this I told him where he could take his prejudice opinions and hung up on him. This kind of trash talk really gets my blood boiling. ALL people both men and women have a right to look how they want and should not be judged for it. Yes I have a preference for men with long hair so I take it a bit more personally than some. My father has had long hair since before I was born. Regardless of my personal preferences this kind of talk is the reason I don't socialize. People are far too judgmental about others and what makes them happy. Not just about hair length but body size, hair color and pretty much everything out there that defines a persons personality they pick apart if it doesn't fit what they deem acceptable. I often wish there was another planet we could ship people like that off to. People seriously need to be a little more mature and accept that not everyone is the same or likes the same things. We are all people who have feelings and we are all different for a reason.
And there's your answer, in your own words.
Make sure you aren't trying to be something you are not. That often is the underlying cause of continual rejection.
Bill
Jessica,
There are lots of ignorant people out there and like the old saying goes "with friends like that who needs enemies."
I would refuse to associate with such a narrow-minded bigot.
anyway, I was just browsing through some of Justin's clips and came across this one(which he mentions in one of his videos) which might be of interest to you.
this is a video from a Man with long hair who was discriminated against because of the length of hair and he discusses double standards in regards to hair length.
Sexism
That video is an exact example of what makes me angry. The length of a mans hair doesn't determine how qualified he is for a job or the type of person he is. It's not right that a woman can get a job anywhere no matter her hair length yet a man is so limited because of narrow minded people. I am 28 and my now ex friend is almost 40. It frustrates me that someone I have known for many years can be so judgmental. This type of prejudice has to stop somewhere. Men and women are supposed to have equal rights but that doesn't exactly seem to be the case. Discrimination is discrimination no matter how they try and sugar coat it.
I think that much of the belief that Men should have short hair has origins in Religion, specifically the fundamentalist version.
google "long hair on Men" and you'll find numerous religious sites preaching against it. there are probably several on youtube as well.
I just wonder if most corporate managers realize that their strict dress code mandating short hair for men is rooted in fundamentalist religion. it's so well indoctrinated in the business world that they don't even question it's origins.
However, while women can have butt length hair or a short pixie crop in the workplace, fundamentalists DO preach against short hair on women so what other possible influences could there be that have influenced the belief that Men should have short hair and the decision employers often make in their dress code handbook that mandate short hair on Men in the workplace?
perhaps the military?
what do you think?
When we go through life we generally make friends with people we enjoy being with or some other benefit of having something in common. People usually mature at different rates, some more quickly then others and some at slower rates or never at all. Some people you spend lifetimes together whereas as others you outgrow.
This usually occurs on either the mental or spiritual levels.
I would be more lenient with a 20 year old with an attitude like that as they are still very young whereas a 40 year old I would be less charitable towards them if they held an immature view of men and long hair.
cheers,
Duncan
LOL "long haired men have no values or goals in life'. Respond to that with this list:
Jesus (depicted in paintings as having long hair)
Thomas Jefferson, Benjamin Franklin, Paul Revere, George Washington, John Hancock all had long hair under those wigs.
Chinese men in the early 1st/2nd century all the way up to the 1800's traditionally wore long braids keeping in mind these are the same people that invented gunpowder, fireworks, paper,noodles, and silk cloth.
General Custer of the Union Army was known for his wild long blonde hair.
WOW, interesting comments that your ex-friend made (in this case, I'm using the word "interesting" as a rather diplomatic way of saying: he is several fries short of a McDonald's Happy Meal, or maybe the elevator inside his head doesn't make it all the way to the top floor, or that his cereal bowl contains of too many weird-colored Fruit Loops in his milk)...
Regardless of his "interesting" views on life [cough cough], I've learned to back away from such hellish people to be around, with their never-ending limited outlooks and bigoted views, and to enjoy spending more time with people who value diversity -- as well as appreciating the simpler gifts of life on planet Earth that are free from such thinking (because if necessary, it's better to be far away from ANY people than to be around dysfunctional, bigoted ones).
This post reminds me of a bumper sticker that an old dance partner of mine had on her car for many years: "The more people I meet, the more I love my dog!"
This same dance partner and long-time friend of mine also had a wooden plaque on her kitchen wall that read: "Husband and Dog Lost -- Reward for Dog!"
Personally, I prefer having cats and indulging in a lot of gardening whenever I get fed up with people; but hey, I'm grateful to say that I do at least have a few excellent friends who are kind, open-minded, and fair towards others as well as respectful towards the planet we all live on... Whenever and wherever you find such people, it's a little slice of Heaven -- what more can you ask for than that, whenever you're lucky enough for it to happily come your way?
- Ken in San Francisco
Ken May I say you have a very interesting, yet organized and mature way with the English language. I love it!
That is very sad
the problem is that people based friendship based on how they wear thier hairs instead of what is in thier friends' hearts is missing out on alot of good.
i wish you all the comfort and luck in the world
Birdman
I really hate that too, Jessica. But I usually give those people the one finger salute or I walk off, ha ha. Those negative kind of comments I just ignore usually. People can be d***s sometimes!
Hmmmm, sounds more like the immature jealously of a short-haired young man who hates that you like men with long hair. Have you ever suspected that he kind of likes you even though you view him a just a friend?
Jealously can lead to many rather poor responses about things.