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IÂ’m a frequent dance club goer and the two clubs I visit most often feature "go-go dancers", but I can tell the vast majority of them were hired for their looks rather than their dancing skills. I know my opinion counts for little because IÂ’m not attracted to men, but I find it frustrating that the clubs continuously hire these guys who can barely dance and all look the same: muscular bodies and super-short hair (the record length among them has been about 7 centimetres). I think it would be a refreshing change to see an energetic, enthusiastic dancer with longer hair, so IÂ’ve decided that I should fill this void. I know I havenÂ’t got a snowballÂ’s chance in the Sahara of being actually hired as a dancer, given that I am the antithesis of masculine beauty, but I've discovered a club that hosts amateur dancer nights on Tuesdays. They advertise that they allow anyone to dance on stage who has the courage, so IÂ’m going to give it a go as soon as IÂ’m old enough to go there. Unless they mandate that the dancers be shirtless, in which case I will need to lose a lot of weight first.
I have to admit after reading your post my thought was you must be joking because its certainly not April Fool's Day!LOL.I can't believe you are serious about doing what you mentioned in your post.Not putting you down but really a longhaired male dancer?So you can't even be considered a Chippendale in that respect.Obviously you look great but maybe you should rethink that idea.Again I don't mean to put you down my friend.Cheers
Mârk
I don't understand what is so shocking about what I proposed. Go-go dancing is really no different than just dancing as part of a crowd at a club, except that you expect to be watched by everyone else because you are on a stage. By the way, I don't know what "Chippendale" means; could you please explain?
Chippendales is an all male dance/stripper group-and last time I saw a report on them there was ONE longhaired guy.. I'm concerned about you saying you're not attracted to guys but going to gay clubs-why else the male go-go dancers. Plus you are not factoring in the GUYS who would find YOU attractive. I'm with Validius on this. It's easy to see from all your posts and pictures you are PUSHING gender bending to the extreme. You come off androgynous or feminine which I think IS your goal
The reason I go to gay clubs is because the music is better there, and because they are the only ones at which I can wear metallic spandex and not get laughed at. Believe me, the go-go dancers are not an attraction for me; I would be much happier if they were not there, or were at least replaced by more fully-clothed dancers who actually had some good moves.
I am highly experienced at fending off gay guys who find me attractive, so this would be nothing new.
This is true: I am a proud gender-bender who aims to broaden societal perspectives of masculinity. But if you need reassurance that I should be on this site, look no further than the bottom of this photo: http://i1191.photobucket.com/albums/z474/VackraLjusaFarger/NewHair2.jpg
i think it is great that you are willing to go out dressed the way YOU like not the way OTHER people like, i am very similar in that i love long hair i also love to push the gender bending theme i have no interest in men but due to the way i dress and wear my hair i get approached by gay guys often but have learnt how to say no and give no offence .
I wear skirts more than pants, also i have long hair which i wear in lots of female styles, pig tails, high pony tail with a ribbon in, either one or two plats (braids) in a french braid or when traveling by plane i put it up in two french braids as it keeps it tidy and does not put a pressure point behind my head for when seated on a plane.
i have found that my way of wearing my hair is a talking point and i have met many good friends this way, too many men will only wear their heir the way other people want and only dress the way other people want them to it is time men dressed that way they want.
sorry no photo but sending this from my tablet and do not have photos on it but i will post some when i get back to computer
Sorry if it sounded like I was putting you down but I was just taken back by
what you were proposing to do.I certainly don't know you dancing talents but
obviously you have great looks so if you have the right stuff then give it a try.Its
not like you are making this your lifelong career.Your young so enjoy that as you may never get that opportunity again:) Cheers
Mârk
No disrespect intended, but I second Mark's sentiments, below. For one thing, it seems as though you really only want to do this in order to get noticed by others, and possibly to prove a point. Not only does this motivation seem superficial, but I believe you might also be putting yourself in harm's way, if you choose to appear dance in a public venue looking like that, a place filled with alcohol, drugs (probably), and hormones. Unless you manage to transform yourself into a Samoan slap dancer (pictured above), my advice is to re-think your dance plan.
--Val
Actually, I want to do this because I genuinely enjoy dancing, and I am sick of having to look at paid dancers who clearly have no interest in their craft, and are doing it only to earn money. I don't care whether I'm well-received or not; it's about doing what makes me feel confident. And the clubs in my area have very good security, so there are never problems with drugs or violence. If there were, I certainly would have the sense not to dance at such a place.
Go for it! Be yourself and dance like there is no tomorrow! Don't worry about the naysayers.
You'll probably get a lot of laughs at first because you're not what they expect, but if you're a good dancer you should win them over.
Go for it! Some of the most successful people in this world are those who dare to challenge preconceptions and broaden horizons. If no one had the vision and courage to try something new now and then, we'd still be living in caves.
By the way, a male dancer who often performs at a club I sometimes go to has hair much longer than yours! ;)
Damon
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Have you ever considered being a rock and roll performer?
many do dance moves on stage and you got the looks and I think
the ladies would dig it!
besides I constantly hear(from mostly younger women)how they are sick of seeing guys with short hair, buzzcuts and shaved heads fronting bands and long for the days of long haired rockers again like their parents generation had the pleasure to enjoy!
It's funny you should suggest this, because I do sing and for several years I dreamed of starting a glam rock band. But I've given up on that dream for several reasons. First and most importantly is the lack of interest in my area in that genre of music. Second, I am perfectionistic about my singing even just at karaoke bars, and I couldn't bear the shame of singing even one wrong note as the leader of a band. Third, it's very hard for me to sing the lyrics with any emotion, because most of them are about things I've never experienced (sex, breakups, etc.)