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I want to grow longer hair and I am in my 20's and afraid what others will say. Should I worry about it or should I just do it? Because i hear stories where the could commit hate crimes and i am a little nervous.
We're just about the same age. I've had long hair for a good two years before getting it cut under my own reasons. If you're worried about other peoples' opinions, just think about this: "why should I change just because someone doesn't like it?"
I got the usual girl and hippy comments, but really I take it in stride and I laugh it off. It really does give you your own identity and it sets you apart from the norm. I plan to regrow my hair and keep it when I reach my goal length, maybe even grow it longer...who knows?
Just remember, you ultimately make the choice, not your friends, not your family, or people who follow what society says. The only criticism that matters is yours. Give it a shot and see if you like it!
Alas. If you go through your entire life afraid of what others will say, then you will not have lived. People are always talking and I doubt that they are about to stop, at least right away.
J~
No just grow it. It is your hair, your life just get on and enjoy...
you're not going to know how others react until you try it, besides, there may be other things about you that people may find to comment on. example, are you small or large for your age?
You will get different responses from different people. It does take courage to be different, but after a few months most will understand that you aren't going to change your mind because of what they say, so they will go away and try to bully somebody else.
Hate crime against longhairs does happen, but it is very rare. Try not to worry and, above all, enjoy the growing process.
Life is all about taking risks in order to pursue one's inner happiness. True, there are foolish risks -- like driving 100MPH through a quiet suburban neighborhood where children & dogs often play in the street, or just as bad: driving at all while intoxicated. But, conversely, there are plenty of risks in life that are not only totally harmless; but well worth taking -- growing your own hair out definitely being one of them!
Don't wait until you're over 50 and bald to grow your hair out: do it now, while you're still young. And trust me when I say this: you won't regret it!
The quote I used at the subject heading is from the funny Australian movie from the 1990's, "Strictly Ballroom" -- go ahead and rent it, you'll have a blast watching it (and no worries, you won't need to know a thing about dancing or have any interest in Ballroom in order to thoroughly enjoy it)...
Again, "A life lived in fear is a life half-lived."
Live life to its fullest -- you'll never regret it if you do!
- Ken in San Francisco
It is Your hair and no one has the right to tell you how it should look.
keep it growing and don't worry about the idiots!
Those of us who have been long term members of this community have seen many guys develop their personality, character, spirituality and sense of conviction as they traveled the "Longhair Journey"
This is not completely about appearance....go for it, you are going to learn a great deal about yourself.
We are here to support you.
Good Luck
WWT (Walter White Tail)
I'm 57 years old now and decided many years ago to ignore what
other people think. it's my hair, i'll wear it the way I want to
and if someone doesn't like it then they can go jump out the window.
You should just do it. I've lived in a number of different
states over the years and haven't had any issues with hate crimes (unless you want to classify teachers/school administrators/parents complaining about long hair a hate crime.)