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Hi all, firstly thanks for this amazing site. I posted about 14 months ago, 'never again' where I cut my hair very short after growing it for a few years. Although I always wanted long hair I did not make a conscious initial decision to grow it (now I have). I cut it for a few reasons, it was in bad condition, I had a lypoma on the back of my head/neck (now removed), and constant nagging from the boss. I felt really bad after cutting and decided to do my best to grow it to waist length. It would be a total amazing dream if I could achieve this. I realize this could take 7 years, taking to about 55 years old. Consequently I have been only washing it in cold water and deep conditioning and after 14 months I can see the results. In these past months of growing this site has been a great inspiration. Work has been difficult and although I have gained the excellent work experience which I wanted, it has become apparent that it was time to leave. The beginning of comments on my hair and questions on when I was going to cut it it just one of the reasons. My standard answer was, I am going to cut it next week. Of course next week never comes, because it's always next week. Often, after a very conflictual and difficult day at work I would come home and this site would always seem like a bit of normality and sanity. Finally after the basic lack of respect and unpleasantness started affecting my health I knew it was time to move on. So far things have turned out ok, I am a free agent and still doing work for the boss, but from home, not in the office and pretty much on my terms.
I also would like to comment that coming from South Africa, I had the very unfortunate experience of being conscripted into the army. 2 and half years of hair gone in a few minutes. We were conscripted for 2 years. The option was a 6 year jail term, which a very few brave souls did. I could write a lot about the army, but the main relevant point is that you were supposed to return every year for a 1, or 3 month army camp. This effectively stopped you from growing very long hair. I am convinced it was all part of the mind control tactics. When I left after 2 years I said to myself, I am never going back. Every year I had an excuse, I studied long at university. Eventually they sent me the option to choose any month of the year to go to the army. I replied that none suited me. After about 10 years of this I was finally called up with no more excuses left, the end of the line. But I could see the politics were changing and I just didn't go. I lived in apprehension, but no military police came, only a letter to try and make me feel guilty. I laughed and knew it was finally over. Shortly after that Nelson Mandela was released. Sorry for such a very long post. I have been lurking for a long time and had a few things I wanted to contribute. I will post a pic soon. Best to all.
Hi Lance and welcome out of lurkdom:)That sounds like quite an ordeal for you regarding the army as I'm very thankful here in the US it's all volunteer.Its refreshing to know you don't have to participate if you don't want to.Since there are people who enjoy that life more power to them.As for your hair I hope you achieve your goal my friend.Sadly there will always be forces working against the longhair cause but things are changing for the better I feel.I see many guys, in real life, holding decent jobs while keeping their hair long:)Just yesterday I was riding the train home from NYC and my conductor had these awesome dreadlocks to mid back as well as a thick beard. Goes to show even in that conservative environment he gets away with hair like that:)And trust me working for Transit is a good job with nice benefits.So keep the faith and stick with us as we won't steer ya wrong;)Cheers
Mârk
Thanks for that Mark, I always enjoy seeing a guy like the conductor you mentioned. Keep well, Lance